Moral dilemma - duplicate Christmas presents

[No1toerag]

Well, a truly first world problem to be resolved with common sense and humour please!
Last week I tried on the jacket of my dreams (£160, been looking for this style and fit for ages ) I had no intention of buying it and it was the wrong size anyway.
However I casually checked it on line and found it on a different retailer website for £120 …. then as I popped it in my basket they offered me 25% off!
So I bought it for £96, delivery tomorrow.
However yesterday I noticed a jacket- shaped parcel ( from the retailer) addressed to my husband which was quickly whisked away ….I’d guess he paid full price for it and will be ever so pleased he’s finally bought me an item of clothing I won’t return! 🤣
So do I allow us as a household to ‘waste’ £64 by retuning mine and saying nothing? Or is there a clever solution without causing disappointment? I can’t really ask for the receipt without causing suspicion ….!

How do you know he didn’t get it reduced?

I think if this was my DH I’d say thank you and that I was very grateful he’d been so
thouhtful, but if he’d paid more then I had then to return his for a refund, he could always transfer you the amount that you’ve paid for yours if that would work?

Just show him the jacket and say "I found this at X amount off and it was too good a deal to miss. I spotted the package you whisked away yesterday and just wanted to let you know in case you bought the same thing at the higher price". If he did get the same thing more expensive, he can get a refund and has 2 options

1. Transfer you what you paid and get something else with the 'change'. It might not be as amazing as the jacket, but £64 is still enough for a pretty decent present.

1. Spend £160 on something which is a complete surprise.

You might not get a present to open on Christmas day, particularly if he wants to spend £160 on something and needs time to research options, or can't afford to buy something else until the refund actually appears on his bank account, but maybe he will still get you something small to open on the day.

If he got it at the same deal as you though, I would return yours so that he is still the one who got you the thoughtful present.

I would let my DH give me the gift, then afterwards say I had bought it for x price and then return his if he paid more. That way he can still give you the gift but you don’t miss out.

@Localfriend he never ever ever looks for discounts - that’s my job 🤣

You were offered it at checkout. He will have been too

Keep it and don’t tell him for now. Just in case it’s a different one. Then once you Have opened it and had the conversation about it now being reduced in the sales. Take one back which ever cost more. With Christmas returns being longer this can wait until after the day. Don’t ruin his surprise for now.

most years I will take things back and rebuy if a lot cheaper and they my size still. He didn’t like it at first but now doesn’t mind as the money goes back in his wallet.

I would do this too

Surely you just show your DH your lovely new jacket, then if he has duplicated he’ll come clean or otherwise resolve the situation?

Tell him what a bargain you’ve got and say that you are expecting it tomorrow.
If it’s a different jacket ( I doubt very much ime) it’s ok if it’s the same he will tell you or just refund.

@LocalfriendI bought mine from ASOS…. his parcel was from French Connection

I just don’t want to disappoint DH by letting on as he’ll be super chuffed to have bought me something I’ll love ….🤷🏼‍♀️

I wouldn't say anything.

I would wait until I opened the present and if it's the same jacket send the one I had bought back

I'd excitedly show him my bargain and then it'll be up to him to solve the problem, assuming that there is one.

Yes I would too,, in the interests of harmony!

I'd do this too, but I'm a softy.

Someone bought me something last year and was very pleased at having found just the right thing for me. It was two sizes too small. So I quietly bought myself the same thing in the right size and wore it endlessly - they were so happy about their choice, and it wasn't expensive so I just smiled to myself about it.

They aren't likely to start buying me loads of stuff in the wrong size (this was something I'd specifically asked for), so I reckon I'm safe enough. But it's a minefield out there at Christmas!

If you really like it then keep them both. There’s been many a time I wished I bought more of one thing because I liked it so much and couldn’t get another once it wore out.

Huge sale on at French connection

I’d go for the household waste of £60 odd pound option. I say this because I had an almost identical scenario with a Dyson hair dryer a few years ago. I did tell my DH I bought it cheaper and suggested he gets his refunded and pockets the difference. He wasn’t bothered about the money so I said he could put the difference towards some GHD’s so he’s actually buying me two really good presents which is what he did. He was a bit hurt (not in a sulking way) and I wish I’d said nothing.

I'd do this. He's got it right, let him have the win.

This. Don't spoil the surprise.

This

Guessing it’s this one. As only £160 one also available on ASPS.

So he’d have paid £112

definitely return yours
www.frenchconnection.com/collections/womens-sale/products/suedette-zip-up-jacket-black-brown?_pos=9&_fid=ab0d48f66&_ss=c

He only paid £16 more so let it go

I would just put your jacket on, walk around in it and when he sees you ask if he likes your new jacket and tell him you got an amazing discount.

If he’s bought the same he still has time to send it back and get something else