Moral dilemma - duplicate Christmas presents

[No1toerag]

Well, a truly first world problem to be resolved with common sense and humour please!
Last week I tried on the jacket of my dreams (£160, been looking for this style and fit for ages ) I had no intention of buying it and it was the wrong size anyway.
However I casually checked it on line and found it on a different retailer website for £120 …. then as I popped it in my basket they offered me 25% off!
So I bought it for £96, delivery tomorrow.
However yesterday I noticed a jacket- shaped parcel ( from the retailer) addressed to my husband which was quickly whisked away ….I’d guess he paid full price for it and will be ever so pleased he’s finally bought me an item of clothing I won’t return! 🤣
So do I allow us as a household to ‘waste’ £64 by retuning mine and saying nothing? Or is there a clever solution without causing disappointment? I can’t really ask for the receipt without causing suspicion ….!

Given you’re in your 60’s i’d say by this time of life you wouldn’t be too hung up on getting the right gift and £64 savings would be preferable over a surprise. However, you know him best and if this is likely to upset him, return yours (after christmas just incase he still manages to get it wrong).

@Zanatdyit’s a million miles away from ‘getting the right gift’ . I hoped my post would stimulate an intelligent conversation about such dilemmas so I’ll end it there and thank everyone so much for your comments.

I would open the present, if it’s the same, be all happy/grateful etc, then wear yours (which he will think is the one he bought) return the one he got to the store and get a gift receipt/exchange for something else. Or if you need the receipt, say it has something wrong with it, take it back and swap it for something else, and wear the one you bought. Win win!

If your household can afford it, I’d let him have his moment of glory and surreptitiously return yours. It sounds as if he would get so much pleasure from his gift, and if you can afford it, that’s worth more than money.

Keep yours hidden for now, then return his (in secret after you open on Christmas Day and tell him how marvellous it is!) and then you can get the £160 credit in the store to also spend! Win win, you get an extra present, your husband gets to be pleased in his gift giving as you will have kept your one which he will be none the wiser isn’t the one he purchased

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I wouldn't let on i had noticed the package he received, and when your jacket comes i would show it to him and tell him how delighted you are to get a bargain. Then the ball is in his court, he can either quietly return his and get you something else, or he can come clean about buying it and you can choose something instead.

I also would wait until he gives you the gift, just to be sure, then quietly send the one I had ordered back. Let him have his moment - it's only money.

I would return the one you bought OP and have the one from DH. I know mine would be so pleased with himself in this situation and I would feel awful spoiling that, even if it means more being spent on the jacket.

don't send anything back until you've opened it and know it's the right one

In that case let him give it to you.ans return the cost you bought (after you've received the one from DH just in case it's not the same).
Or tell him it doesn't quite fit, you need another size but it's fine, you'll arrange it so he can just return the one he bought and send you the money for the one you have.

If it was me I'd accept his gift, he's already paid for it.

Agree. One way round it might work-does he normally keep receipts (even if bought online, a lot of companies still send some paper ones-if so you could try this, if so. Or say (quite truthfully) that a lot of stuff is reduced so you just want to check-can he send you the sales details so you can admin it if so.

I hate it when people buy gifts for themselves just before Christmas. I would say nothing and be pleased my husband had found something I liked (hopefully ). As per pp with the discount and sales you have no idea if he's grabbed a bargain. Let him be and gracefully accept this gift.

like I’ve said, he paid only £16 more than you OP. Return yours. Feign surprise. He did well!

Keep both jackets

He might have bought you something else from the same shop?

Don't say anything, return the more expensive or the one you have tickets for. Wait till you see it, it may be a different thing,

I would do this too.

I hate it too! So hard to avoid though when there are so many discounts around at this time of year

I usually ask my husband to think carefully about anything he is buying for himself (and that if it doesn’t materialise on Christmas Day then he could get it in the January sales); I also nudge him towards things that I like roundabout Black Friday, particular if tech etc. It’s family money so we are all better off if we save.

Beofre you send yours back, are you absolutely certain that DH has bought the exact same jacket in the correct size? You'll be gutted if you assume so and then open something different on Christmas Day! 😁

Wait to check it is the same one. And then return yours. He will be so pleased that he got it for you and he obvs wasn't worried about cost.

I would not say anything,wait to make sure it's actually the right jacket, then if it is discretely return one

Just tell him the truth. It doesn’t diminish your appreciation. In fact, it shows how well he chose your present. Whoever paid more returns it for a refund.

I would definitely wait and make sure what he has bought is what you wanted. Then send yours back without telling him. Much kinder. Otherwise you risk him never wanting to buy a surprise again, because the one time he did it, it all went wrong!
And then he has the best excuse never to try again……….!😄😄

Op, definitely wait until after Christmas - imagine if the one he’s got isn’t the one you want, or the wrong size or whatever. If it’s identical, congratulate him in his fantastic present and quietly send the other one back after Christmas.