"Adults buy themselves what they want throughout the year" does anyone else not!?

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I always see this on threads about adult gifts.

Does anyone else actually NOT buy themselves everything they want (not need) during the year? I absolutely wouldn't just buy myself a fancy cosmetic/toiletry/food item during the year and neither would any of my immediate family. All financially stable.

I do, but that doesn't make me not want to give it receive presents at Christmas 😁

We can't afford to

I do buy myself things throughout the year (as long as it fits with my budget). I don’t have children though, maybe that’s the difference?

I do. That’s why I’m so hard to buy for!

Why not? Part of the point of working for me is so that I can buy myself nice things when I want to.

I always assume it’s something written or said by people who genuinely have no idea of the significance of gift giving within human society.

I do, but not everyone can afford to.

I do too and do the same for the children, I try not to give presents which are things they need regardless of the occasion as they don’t feel like gifts then somehow. An example is when DS had grown out of his winter coat last year so he chose a new one for school over the summer holidays and my mum asked if I was going to wrap it up for his August birthday. Er, no, it’s his winter coat.

It depends.

Skincare etc are wants, not needs. I’ll buy them for myself through the year. I will also ask for loads at Christmas so I can spend less 😁

It depends on how you look at it.

”Some people buy themselves whatever they want whenever they want it.”

versus

”Some people are content with what they have.”

Both statements could easily refer to the exact same person if you assume someone relatively average - not particularly minimalist, not particularly extravagant.

I can afford to too, but I still don't. I guess it's like I could eat Christmas dinner every day but I don't because then it tastes better 😂

I do within reason, that’s what my spending money is for, but I always appreciate more of it! Or not having to buy it for myself.

I do 😂 I’m a nightmare to buy for, I must buy myself multiple things a week. If I want it, I buy it!

There are plenty of things I'd like to just go out and buy for myself all year round, but I don't. DH bought me some Chanel perfume for Christmas one year and it is about to run out. That is not something I'd just routinely go out and replace. Expensive perfume isn't an everyday toiletries item like shower gel or deodorant, is it?

I do a bit, but not so much that I can't think of some presents I'd like!

I don't buy myself an endless supply of nice notebooks, but I could happily receive some for Christmas. Ditto candles. Hand cream. Chocolate. Socks.

I love giving and receiving small gifts though.

I don't tend to want very much. But when I do I get it for myself.
Whats the point in waiting and hoping someone else will get it at Xmas? We don't do presents for adults in the wider family anyway.

DH and I have a policy of not buying things for each other, only tickets for gigs/festivals/experiences etc. I'll get small token gifts from children.

But I earn my own money and but myself the few things I particularly want. I'm

I buy myself what i want when I want it.
I don’t have a guilt complex and we are well off.

I don’t. I’m not in poverty, but I’m the only earner (6 of us) and I’d rather have £100 left at the end of the month in case of emergency than treat myself. I do buy for dc as they need (new coats, shoes to replace battered ones, uber home if late for dd18, books, school supplies, snacks) but I’ve lost 3 stone and am hoping for new clothes for Christmas as I struggle to justify buying more! I’m down to one pair of jeans and a few dresses…
Toiletries are basic, I’m hoping for sanctuary at Christmas!
I will buy supermarket books for myself occasionally, but love ones by favourite authors I get full price as presents!

I find that a really weird way to see it - the implication is that these adults buy themselves nice things but for some weird reason ration them for children?

I buy DD what she wants, within reason and within my budget, through the year. I am less likely to buy myself things, because money is a bit tight and I am an adult.

I can sort of see the logic of saying you might save up a special purchase for a child for Christmas if it happened to work that way - you might get them a bike because you knew they'd need one that year. But otherwise, TBH that sounds like people who have a rather weird attitude towards their children. And some people do. I know a couple of sets of parents who buy nice stuff for themselves but seem to imagine it is somehow 'good' for children to have the cheap version/do without. And I must admit, I really, really judge them.

Part of the joy of receiving presents for me is that I'm painfully indecisive so when someone gifts me a candle/notepad/socks etc they've not just saved me from paying for it, but from choosing it. That's the real gift!

Me too

I do when I can afford to. Dh buys me things he k own I'll like but don't need through the year for no particular reason. We both work, its nice to get wants sometimes when you can.

I may be guilty of this to an extent. But with 4 dc, if I treat one I have to treat them all, and I can’t really afford that often (I do occasionally)!
They definitely get more bought for them than I buy myself though.

I think that's probably me!

I buy myself all the clothes, shoes, makeup and toiletries I want. I don’t buy myself expensive jewellery or perfumes or art or cashmere or beautiful lingerie. These are all ‘nice’ things my husband will buy.