Does this look equal? I’m panicking for no reason I’m sure but please help

[Positivenancy]

OK, so attached I have a picture of my DC’s Christmas gifts laid out on the bed! I definitely think the left-hand pile looks like more and it is more, 22 in total but some v v small, compared to the other pile which is 14.

Now their dad does have some gift for them also that we will add to those piles. I just don’t know how many he has for each of them, so assuming he has equal amounts that means my DD will still have more. Maybe I should get my a few other small things like a pack of football cards etc?!

1st world problem I know!!
also I don’t do stockings…so this is it.
help 🤣😅

Because I like to have things equal…that’s how I am.

Ok, so this isn’t about Christmas presents, it’s about your ocd. Ok, cool. Good luck with that.

Thanks 👍

I spend a very similar amount on both DCs and they have the same number of gifts to open.

I go on cost/value rather than amount of presents.

Will your dd not be upset not to get a PlayStation? That’s a much more fun and exciting gift than a mirror and clothes rail? When mine were that sort of age I tried to make the gifts equally exciting, so both had a ds or a switch.

No she wants the main gifts…it’s what she asked for. And she’s clever she knows she’ll fetch to use the PlayStation too. 🤣 she is also get a sports accessory for the Nintendo switch which belongs to both of them.

I think the fact the others are bigger balance it- plus I’d put them in a less obvious way if you know what I mean, which you probably will as you’re just showing us the quantity!

Yes will definitely do this!

I’m sorry but this is ridiculous. My kids have never counted or compared and equal spend never entered their minds. You need to relax and (I’d never thought I’d say this) remember the true meaning of Xmas!

My kids have never counted or compared either…

Then maybe you should stop.

Do you have other people round for Christmas? My two don’t have equal piles but we have quite a few people round all opening their presents too, so it won’t be noticeable.

You've bought 22 presents just for one child??? 😲

I did wonder, when I saw the original post, if it was a very strange attempt to brag about what had been bought. No idea why because the piles don’t look big to me. Posting a picture and asking if they look equal is just a little odd.

They look equal to me. One has more little bits, the other has more substantial looking parents.

you don't need to buy any more or hold back any!

id couldn't choose between piles if I had to!!

Hope you have a fabulous Christmas 🥂🍾 Santa 🎅🏼 🎄

Did that give you the boost you were looking for.

nasty, rude & completely unnecessary.

Just stop - that is already excessive.
A playstation alone would be a wonderful present!
If you don't curtail this excess now, you are making a rod for your own back forever.

They look equal but your DD will be unwrapping a lot longer than DS so I'd wrap the smaller things together.

I don't think any kids would count gifts but it becomes obvious if you all take turns at opening if one kid has way more things to open than another.

Why? Why is so necessary for them to be equal.

DS is getting a PlayStation Pro for Christmas from parents and grandparents apart from a few other small things and novelty bits it is his only gift. I asked him if he is going to be ok with his older sister opening more gifts at Christmas and he said

No, I will have the present I really want and I am happy for her to open up her gifts and I Al excited to see what she gets

he understands it is fair and that fair and equal aren’t the same

needing them to have the same number of gifts is not only not necessary but isn’t helpful

@Popcorn63 I agree actually.

@Positivenancy Getting so many other gifts almost dilutes the main present. I would really think about putting aside some of those gifts for birthdays, if you think they'll still be relevant by that point. That's a lot of presents. Can't you reduce the large pile rather than add more stuff? You could take some to charity, wrapped, with your kids. That would give them far more positive memories than just another toy easily forgotten.

I wouldn't have noticed the difference, so as long as you don't take it in turns to open them (that's what we always did, which makes an discrepancy obvious) it will be fine! And it doesn't sound like you do this?

But yeah get him a few bits like sweets, can of his favourite drink, smellies and stationery for school (he will need this anyway). Or a few books? Charity shops tend to be really cheap for kids/YA books, so if you don't mind giving second hand it's a great way to provide a few more bits to open on the day. (And nobody on here, even those who are very anti-gift, can object to kids recieving cheap books, surely?)

My mom still worries about this discrepancy and my brother and I are both over 45! She has actually worked out a cunning plan this year so that we won't see how much she has given me! In reality I don't think he would care less......

One has almost double the presents, of course it doesn't look equal.

No I won’t be doing this…this is how we do Christmas, it’s a wow moment and I love being able to do it!! A lot of those gifts are necessary items like socks, clothing, books, bedding. They’re not all big toys and expensive gifts.

I don’t need to justify it and I won’t but my dc don’t get gifts from one end of the year to the next except for their birthday. They do appreciate every one of them. They also only get gifts from their grandparents outside of their parents.

Charity has been taken care of also, they are very kind children so don’t worry.

Why is bedding a present?