Does this look equal? I’m panicking for no reason I’m sure but please help

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OK, so attached I have a picture of my DC’s Christmas gifts laid out on the bed! I definitely think the left-hand pile looks like more and it is more, 22 in total but some v v small, compared to the other pile which is 14.

Now their dad does have some gift for them also that we will add to those piles. I just don’t know how many he has for each of them, so assuming he has equal amounts that means my DD will still have more. Maybe I should get my a few other small things like a pack of football cards etc?!

1st world problem I know!!
also I don’t do stockings…so this is it.
help 🤣😅

Omg. Sorry, but this is ridiculous. Do your children count their gifts? Do they actually complain that it’s not fair, he/she got more than me?

Really I wouldn't have noticed at all, they look pretty much the same.

Whatever happened to having a stocking and then one present each?! No wonder the world is in such a mess with all this over consumption! Sorry ( not sorry) if I'm a bit bah humbug. I would reduce the larger pile and save the extras for a birthday.

I doubt the children will notice that one pile is bigger or that one has more. Do they notice things like that or count them?

I have no idea…the PlayStation has cost me nothing but it’s obviously worth a lot! Probably similar amounts on each of them yeah…

You've got them some great gifts so I really wouldn't worry to much as they'll be too excited to notice - just stack the piles so they look a similar size

No they don’t at all, it’s more for my own head to be honest

I’ve always tried to give them an equal number of presents so would wrap some smaller things together to achieve that . We take it in turns to open something though to try and make it last a bit longer - youngest son used to be a whirlwind .

Awwww, your picture really made me smile 😃 (sorry, didn't count the pressies up)

Awaaah thank you! I’m so excited 😆

When we were smaller my grandma really cared about making sure she spent the same on each grandchild, so we used to get a random amount of pound coins attached the gift label to make it fair

Awaah bless her! I love that 🥹

We never spent the same on ours just matched the number roughly when they were young . WRT value , it’s swings and roundabouts one gets more one year , one another year etc , it never bothered either of mine who had what and how much it cost .

Yeah it doesn’t bother them at all, it’s more for me that I want it equal.

Just posting to say your wrapping is lovely and neat

Thank you ☺️

I don't think it's noticeable. The only thing is that the one with lots of little gifts might take longer opening them. I am mostly just impressed that you have already wrapped them all!

I do where I spend around the same amount on each and don't worry about the specific number of presents but I'm one of these people who literally wraps everything up so they have piles of presents so it's not noticeable

No way any child is going to notice the difference tearing into a massive pile like that surely. We only do 2-3 and it's not always equal.

I spoke to their dad and he has 7 for dd and 6 for ds. I’ve ordered two more things for 2 ds and I’m going to put a few of dd’s in a box together. That’ll sort it 🙌

I do it by amount of money not amount of gifts dc 7 and 9 realise that some gifts are expensive. Dc9 had 1 present last year as it was expensive, I explained when he asked for it that he would only have that, he got a few other things from family, it was fine. Christmas present buying is stressful enough without adding more stress

i would fundamentally question the value in both piles being equal. If your children are so ungrateful that they winge about the fact that the other kids ‘pile’ of presents looks bigger than I think you need to redirect some of your resources into making them understand how lucky they are.

I would fundamentally question your ability to read the thread, I have said multiple times that my dc wouldn’t give a hoot, it’s for me that I want them equal.

They are VERY aware how lucky they are!!

Why?