To make dreams come true regardless of price?

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I am not sure what to do.
Ds is in his last year of believing. He wants a particular toy for Christmas.
Dh says it is silly money to spend on a soft toy, and is right.
But I do love that moment when they get what they asked for...
I know there is not one right answer. Different things work for different families.
But if he doesn't get his one most wanted gift, how do I frame that on Christmas Day? I'm sure other people have been here before.

I think if your budget can buy a £50 toy then it’s not up to adults to decide what the best £50 toy is. If a child really really wants something that’s their choice. If they don’t play with it after a week then that also is a good lesson but one that everybody has to experience for themself. A Christmas present for anybody at any budget should be a treat that brings a bit of joy.

Thank you. I read that siteis not genuine.

So I took him to a garden centre today and he ignored all the jellycats except a dog! He defo won't be getting the one he wants on his list. So I'll get the closest thing I guess, and take back my other one (which was there, and he didn't both with!).
He'll be fine. He will get lots of nice things.

I’m sure he will love which ever one you chose to get. My daughter is desperate for the sky dragon but can’t get it anywhere unless she pays a crazy price for it. She does have the gold dragon and the orange one from the same collection and loves them. She said she felt sorry for the orange dragon as everyone was wanting the sky dragon and not the orange 🤣. She also has the older dragon (I think it’s called midnight?) which she loves. She’s a big collector and now luckily had her own money to fund it. I have bought her the cat (original jelly cat) for Christmas.

Me too

Read OP’s replies….the one he wants is out of stock everywhere so she can’t get it for him. She’s going to get a similar one.

I’ve always been very much get them exactly what they ask for, it’s why we have always limited their gift lists and we have encouraged them to get the lists in early so I can figure out finance’s. One thing I always encouraged was a back up gift “if Santa can’t get exactly what you want would you be happy with this instead” conversation is had. There was only ever one year we needed to do this, we were struggling financially and I managed to get a bulk buy of some toys on FB market place, there was a playset but not the exact one asked for so I managed expectations before hand.

We have never done a set budget and do equal gifts over equal cost. One year one DDs main desperate want for Santa we got for £8 in a charity shop. I can’t even remember my other DDs main want other than it was a lot more expensive. It balances out over time. When they are young they don’t understand cost, by the time they do you can manage expectations better.

you can also use Santa can’t always get what you ask for, but you know x,y & Z will gift you Christmas money so you can always buy what you want after Christmas.

Thank you all. Especially those invested enough to read the replies and offer ideas.
The back up option is going back to the shop tomorrow.
I managed to find a genuine stockist with 20% off jellycats by joining a facebook group which hunts out fakes! Bo Belles if anyone is interested.
They didn't have sky of course, or persimmon, but I got golden dragon. Time to move on from this obsession now! Back to real life.

My dd asked for a £70 jellycat sheepdog. I thought that was a bit much so I bought one for for £20 on Vinted but whilst there is nothing wrong with it smelt like fabric conditioner/diffiser, and I just know she'd notice and it would put her off. So I've shelled out the full whack for a new one. It is ridiculous really but she's not asked for much and I want her to be delighted in Christmas Day. Having said that I've not told DH quite how much it was......