Christmas moaning thread - let it all out here!

[BlowDryRat]

Getting it started early this year! The general purpose of the thread is to have somewhere posters can let off steam about family, visitors, members of the public, the shops presents (or lack thereof), food and any other Christmas-related moans. No telling other posters to LTB, go NC or any other dramatic advice. No posting in expectation of advice or a reply. Long rants encouraged. Let it goooo!

My moan: DH has been ill all week and home from work. I was in the office for a couple of days but have been WFH the rest of the week. On Wednesday, DH dragged himself out of bed to spend the afternoon destroying the kitchen cooking for his hobby's Christmas party. He then went to the party, got back at 10-ish declaring that he was far too ill to clean up the mess he'd made in the kitchen and collapsed back into bed. He got up again on Thursday morning declaring that a bit of time in the fresh air would do him the world of good and buggered off to the hills for the day, returning after dark I cleaned the kitchen... Then today, when I was working flat out so I could finish for Christmas, he decided to set off the Roomba next to my desk. I turned it off so I could hear myself think. He then got out the vacuum cleaner I pointed out that that was equally annoying and he went back to bed in a grump. Because he couldn't possibly vacuum any other room in the house.

His mother is coming up at the weekend to stay for Christmas. She stays every year because BIL declared some years ago that he and SIL just wanted to have Christmas to themselves and wouldn't be visiting or hosting So we can never have a relaxing Christmas without hosting duties, because otherwise MIL would be by herself. I personally think that BIL is a selfish git, but DH won't gently suggest to him that he reconsider his arrangements. Absolutely nothing is ready for MIL's stay, except the stocking that I bought, wrapped and filled this week.

So I finished work, picked up a pile of washing, tried to take it upstairs but it was all slippery football kit so kept dropping bits. Found DH in bed, on his phone, curtains closed and all lights off. Dumped the washing and declared I was off to the gym where nothing would annoy me. Remembered while I was there that I was also annoyed with him because he ate my last birthday Ferrero Rocher. Went on the treadmill for a bit, then to a Spin class. Bought myself replacement chocolate on the way home. Now feel much better.

And I paid for the replacement chocolate using the joint card. Ha.

Ahh, bully for you. That made me smile, your sense of humour is still there!
All 3 adult children home. All playing Monarchy ( card game, I hate it!) But can't complain...I have DH to myself all the time, and they don't, nor him, they.
So, my eldest DD lent me Yellowface; I'm in bed about to start it.
OP, hope it gets better, oh, Happy Christmas 🎄

Happy Christmas! The DC return tomorrow so I'm enjoying the peace until then. DH can organise his own mother's bedroom.

I’ve arrived at my 87-year-old mum’s and she’s moaning about seemingly everything which has made me regress into a 13-year-old. Five more days to go 😳

Send her over here!

DP's DF been round today and exchanged gifts- bought DP a bottle of port...and gave me an old, used, scratched pint glass with Paddy's Day 1996 on it, from the back of his cupboard. I can't get over it. Bought him nice wine which he specifically asked for. Last year he gave me a used pen that didn't work. Bought DP a bottle of port. DP also invites him out a lot, and he stands by while we pay. DPs DD let slip they think I'm 'rich'. I'm not.

I will not be accepting, nor giving any more gifts. And actually the more I think about it, the more hurtful it feels. I hope everyone has a much better Xmas - buy yourself something nice if needs be x

I'm like this every time I visit my mum (weekly!), she definitely brings out the sulky teenager in me!

Got to go to the shops tomorrow because MIL is panicking about Christmas Day and decided she needs more potatoes and a load of bread from the bakers. Considering getting the bus because I doubt I'll be able to park in town! Bit annoyed but DP is working so I'll have to do it.

I'm fed up because dh has an infected foot and we have spent all day at the hospital ( Sent there by GP),, surrounded in A&E by coughing, puking, fainting poorly people (it was just so very sad), and the Dr's tell him that the antibiotics the GP gave him aren't working and he needs IV antibiotics at the hospital. Once a ďay . For SEVEN days. Happy Christmas to us.

My lovely DH is in so much pain that he has gone to bed, whilst I still have adrenaline coursing through my veins (despite taking a double dose of valium) and am wide awake. And because we didnt eat our tea until gone 9pm I also have raging heartburn, and couldn't face lying down anyway.

And breathe.......

And and and to add insult to injury, quite literally, we got stung for almost seven quid for the hospital car park. Robbing bastards.

It looks like DM will still be in hospital for Christmas so that's a visit (and bloody £3.50 on parking) on Christmas Day. As well as cooking dinner because I can't make my 80 year old DF do it. Whilst trying to make it as special as possible for DS (8).

I feel sad that I can't just revert to being a stroppy teenager <stamps foot>

Three weeks ago, I slipped on the some ice and hurt my foot. I was walking with a crutch but it was taking ages to heal. Takes me 4 days to get through to the local Health Centre (I'm in Sweden) and they won't give me a dr's note without an x-ray. Yep, I have fractured my ankle in two places and because it's now 12 days post fall it has to be operated on. Had the operation on Monday, a big screw through my ankle and a below the knee to foot cast, with strict instructions not to put any weight on it, keep it elevated and to use BOTH crutches. I can't do a bloody thing.

I was so ahead of the game - ordered christmas crackers and jars of mincemeat (not a thing here in Sweden) from The British Corner in October, sent my Christmas cards back to UK on 3rd December. Most of the presents were bought early and I was going to have this whole week to bake and cook and plan the Christmas table decorations and dance around by myself listening to Now That's What I Call Christmas. Haven't even watched ELF this year and it Christmas Eve tomorrow.

Moan over and out

I’ve been in and out of hospital with an ectopic pregnancy this month, hideous side effects to the medication which failed on round 1. Dd2 has had a dreadful d&v bug all week, we cannot shake it and I’ve now got a horrendous cold and been up all night coughing up some extras from alien and wheezing 🤣 in between looking after vomiting dd (5yo). Feel very sorry for myself!!

The fluey gastro bug is how covid is often affecting people just now.

Christmas alone. Have refused invitations on the day. Going to do as I.please..Try to get on.some me time.. If someone ate my last chocolate i would wrestle them to the ground. 🙄

We are visiting family abroad for first time since pandemic. Tonight I took three of them plus us three out to dinner...OMG it was £266!!!!!! Two starters, five mains, four desserts, one side. Two alcoholic drinks, four soft drinks. It was a popular restaurant but not fine dining by any stretch- a family friendly place.
My only other complaint is I am eating way too much of all the wrong things. Every day I feel stuffed. I'm almost looking forward to dieting in January!
Also all the houses here are so hot!

After emergency budgeting when I found out yesterday my pay schedule changes NEXT WEEK, my card info was stolen today and now I don’t have access until the new card arrives. They sent it express one-day but this time of year, there’s just no way it’ll get here by tomorrow. So no Christmas shop tomorrow or any spending until at least Tuesday!

.....and I still can't bloody well sleep 😡

I gained loads of weight this year while on steroids (I could barely recognise my reflection) and have worked really hard to lose most of it since coming off them....All our family have sent gifts of very calorific food hampers or wine (which I can't drink due other meds I am on). My children have allergies so none of the food is going to work for them either.

I know it's silly and petty and either DH can enjoy all the fudge and shortbread etc or we can donate to a food bank... But I don't have my children this Christmas (divorced) and so I am feeling more fragile and it just feels so thoughtless. I'd rather not have had a gift at all, or a charity donation in my name.

My Mum has moved in with us temporarily which means my sister is also staying for the entire holiday - she asked if she could stay until New Year but now isn't leaving until 4th, so that's my whole break given over to hosting. I love her but she's a tricky character and her mental health is fragile so I always have to be the bigger person. I'm pregnant and have a three year old, I'm constantly nauseous, barely sleeping, and seriously considering fucking off on a last minute flight somewhere. I won't really, but I'm so peopled out already and it's not even Christmas eve yet 😭

7 month old DD has had a cold every other week since beginning of October and now has bronchiolitis, hospital visit at the beginning of the week and can't stop coughing.

I've got humidifier on, olbas oil in boiling water under the head of her cot and the snot sucker is on overtime.

One delivery of Christmas gifts hasn't yet been delivered (calendars with photos of DD for both sets of grandparents and great grandparents).

Christmas tree is looking awful so Christmas night it will be going in the bin (any tips on keeping real Christmas tree looking somewhat alive next year?)

BUT I am incredibly blessed that this is all I have to worry about and I'm sending love to everyone who has real problems this festive period x

5 year old DD has been vomiting overnight… so there goes our plans for the next 2 days. She’s woken again saying her belly is sore - if she’s sick again we will be isolating on Christmas Day.
extended family just arrived so already seeing them for 2 less days than planned.

I’m sad about it and sleep deprived already. Just hoping she is okay now.

I've had a shitty week, my probation meeting went terribly. My manager has left the company and so someone else did it who doesn't know me. Got ripped apart!

The company is going through a transition so don't even really know if I will have a job next year.

Also dh has re engaged with his abusive brother and he is visiting his mum and taking my kids there tonight where his brother will be. I have said I don't want to go, so will be the bad guy and it's bringing up a decade of dealing with his toxic family.

I feel bad moaning when others have it so much worse and wishing all those having a difficult time a lovely Christmas x

however moaning is the point of the thread so mine is about being so tired and wishing I could just sleep! I don’t if is what it is, peri maybe, but I wake up all the time and then can’t get back to sleep again and I am not good at being cheerful on little sleep. Plus we have had weeks and weeks of illness in the house, first ds had the horrible bug that totally wiped him out and saw him having two weeks off school, crazy, then I got it but not as badly, but then dh got it really badly and has been in bed for three weeks basically so I have had to do absolutely everything also while feeling rubbish for everyone including our crazy dog and elderly fil as well as sorting the whole of Christmas.

I don’t mind really I’m just tired. And really wanted him better for Christmas

Couldn't sleep last night thinking about everything I had to do today and the cat was taking up too much room on the bed! Got up early, fed the cats made a brew and sat with the dog until it gets light enough to take him out.

Off to my sons for 4 days with DP,dog and two cats. We stay in a cottage nearby and my in-laws are joining us. It's been like organising a military exercise!

Not really looking forward to going to sons house. It's chaotic with four young children (who I love to the ends of the earth) but blimey my son is arrogant and patronising towards me. I say nothing, I smile sweetly and I cry every time I drive away.

Sending love and hugs to everyone who have a difficult Christmas 🤗😢

sending 🌷 🍫 and a good 🍾 to you all.
I spend most of December internally getting my self into a right tizzy over the events of 25th. By now I've calmed down and I remind myself that I'm very lucky to be surrounded by my family as many people are lonely on Christmas Day. I know that my day will go exactly as it has done for the past 30 years. My mum chasing me around the house moaning about whatever perceived insult she is obsessing over. My sister/brother in law sneering every time I even think about eating a chocolate or cake (I'm size 10) my brother adding to his collection of cups/glasses he's placed on the floor as he's too important to pick them up. I have to endure constant put downs as my 28 hour working week seems me lazy and despite being the only family member capable of catering for such a large number I'm seen as nothing more than a very cheap home help.
I cook for 16 in my modest semi there are thanks but my nephew mostly complaints about the food not on his plate. One day I hope to spend 25th catering for those who spend the day alone. My children/husband are fantastic and generally run around after everyone and do all the dishes.