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What are you getting your husband?

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gemloving · 02/12/2022 20:33

My husband made a comment that he gets the same stuff every year and I should try to think a bit more about what he'd like and he's right. He's very creative and always puts a lot of thought into his presents. I tend to get him new clothes, shoes etc nothing too exciting. We have a 3 year old and a 1 year old so it's always been quite rushed but wanting to make the effort, so maybe if I saw what you're getting your husband I could get some inspiration?

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TangledWebofMincemeatDeception · 04/12/2022 08:26

On presents, we’re quite minimal these days, especially because DH doesn’t want or need much stuff so it would be really unbalanced if I got loads of things; and I also buy things for myself all the time.

I’ve got him a good warm hat from Barbour, since we’re going on long walks much more often now, and a scarf for me (I’m picking my own gifts this year). I’m also getting a set of stacking bracelets, so I’ll need to find him one more thing. Maybe a really good pair of gloves.

In past years he’s loved Lego architecture sets, Celtic & Co sheepskin slippers and cashmere socks, a Korean Cookery book and ingredients set, whisky/Cognac (a bit more special than he’d usually get for himself), and a watch.

MissMarpleRocks · 04/12/2022 08:35

@meatballsoup ahh that’s so lovely. A great Christmas present 💝

lightisnotwhite · 04/12/2022 08:59

And thanks to the latest bargain thread on here, he will now also be getting Prisoners of Geography by Tim Marshall!
Then I can read it too.
And I got one for my Dad. Reckon Tim Marshall might be having a nicer Christmas at this rate too.

mam0918 · 04/12/2022 11:20

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neverbeenskiing · 04/12/2022 11:52

DH is getting a Ltd edition vinyl LP from a band he really likes, a hoodie, a box of posh cheeses, a mixed case of craft beers, a couple of ties (I know, so boring but he has recently mentioned his work ones are all a bit 'samey'), a big box of his favourite chocolates.

C1N1C · 04/12/2022 12:08

@mam0918

Wow, you had to go there. Sex is sex. It is 'usually' a normal part of a relationship. There are things we enjoy doing or having done, and there are things we do for our partner that may not be 'as' enjoyable for the giver. Why did you have to board the rape train? All I said was perhaps do something more for him, something you wouldn't normally do but in the right mood might be open to... he'd be appreciative! It works both ways maybe you have a fireman fetish, I don't know!

sobbingandcrying · 04/12/2022 20:47

C1N1C · 04/12/2022 12:08

@mam0918

Wow, you had to go there. Sex is sex. It is 'usually' a normal part of a relationship. There are things we enjoy doing or having done, and there are things we do for our partner that may not be 'as' enjoyable for the giver. Why did you have to board the rape train? All I said was perhaps do something more for him, something you wouldn't normally do but in the right mood might be open to... he'd be appreciative! It works both ways maybe you have a fireman fetish, I don't know!

Suggesting that someone do something sexual they aren't comfortable with as a gift is revolting. And 'bugging' someone to do anything sexual coercion. Get a clue.

sobbingandcrying · 04/12/2022 20:49

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Tafaa · 04/12/2022 20:59

We've agreed not to get presents for each other this year, but instead put the money we'd usually spend aside to treat ourselves to a couple of meals out over the Christmas period.

C1N1C · 04/12/2022 21:17

@sobbingandcrying

Correctiin I said if you have a partner that has hinted at wanting to try something you're not particularly into, you could consider trying it as a nice gesture for them. For example, he has a nurse's uniform 'thing', you're a bit shy and would only do it at a push (like dinner with the MIL!), that would really mean a lot to him! Same deal goes in return if you have a thing for firemen etc. You don't have to, it's optional, it's an idea... a voluntary (key word, voluntary) nice thing that he has hinted at wanting to try.

"Bugging" was probably the wrong word, more an indication of wanting to try something new.

If you have tried everything in the world with your partner, good for you... I was suggesting that there are things each partner (man or woman) might want to try, and for a Christmas present, to be a bit more open minded as a nice gesture.

sobbingandcrying · 04/12/2022 21:39

C1N1C · 04/12/2022 21:17

@sobbingandcrying

Correctiin I said if you have a partner that has hinted at wanting to try something you're not particularly into, you could consider trying it as a nice gesture for them. For example, he has a nurse's uniform 'thing', you're a bit shy and would only do it at a push (like dinner with the MIL!), that would really mean a lot to him! Same deal goes in return if you have a thing for firemen etc. You don't have to, it's optional, it's an idea... a voluntary (key word, voluntary) nice thing that he has hinted at wanting to try.

"Bugging" was probably the wrong word, more an indication of wanting to try something new.

If you have tried everything in the world with your partner, good for you... I was suggesting that there are things each partner (man or woman) might want to try, and for a Christmas present, to be a bit more open minded as a nice gesture.

I have reported your comments as suggesting sexual assault can be incredibly triggering for women who have experienced abuse.

PolkaDotMankini · 04/12/2022 21:50

Oh FFS! Why do posters insist on ruining perfectly nice threads with stupid squabbles? Piss off and argue over PMs or something.

pinkksugarmouse · 04/12/2022 22:22

sobbingandcrying · 04/12/2022 21:39

I have reported your comments as suggesting sexual assault can be incredibly triggering for women who have experienced abuse.

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WTAF? 🤬This makes light of sexual assault and abuse that you are reporting it as such. Trying out different things that your partner wants to try out in and out of the bedroom is pretty standard stuff. By your thinking the majority of consensual sex would be classed as abuse. 🤦🏻‍♀️

CheesenCrackersmm · 04/12/2022 22:33

He asked for some nice thermal socks, and a few puzzles.

He could not think of anything else so said not to bother spending any more.

When you get to adults and can pretty much buy anything you want whenever you need it then there is little point in buying loads up 'stuff' for the sake of it. We are much more interested in the food and family aspect of christmas.

allboysherebutme · 04/12/2022 23:03

Socks, pants, aftershave, T-shirts, loungewear, pjs, slippers, all stuff he asked for. X

sobbingandcrying · 04/12/2022 23:05

WTAF? 🤬This makes light of sexual assault and abuse that you are reporting it as such. Trying out different things that your partner wants to try out in and out of the bedroom is pretty standard stuff. By your thinking the majority of consensual sex would be classed as abuse. 🤦🏻‍♀️

Do fuck off.

declutteringmymind · 04/12/2022 23:10

A heated ski jacket. They're normally super expensive but regatta have a mega sale and he always moans about the sidelines on a Sunday morning so it will help him with those as well.

SingingSands · 04/12/2022 23:57

Coldplay tickets
Tshirt
Sho flask for taking leftovers to work
Fleece gilet
Nice ground coffee (I hope, I don't drink it but he's a bit of a coffee snob!)

pinkksugarmouse · 05/12/2022 12:18

sobbingandcrying · 04/12/2022 23:05

WTAF? 🤬This makes light of sexual assault and abuse that you are reporting it as such. Trying out different things that your partner wants to try out in and out of the bedroom is pretty standard stuff. By your thinking the majority of consensual sex would be classed as abuse. 🤦🏻‍♀️

Do fuck off.

You clearly have some emotional problems but that’s not everyone else’s problem.

pinkksugarmouse · 05/12/2022 12:22

Anyway back to OP
I have bought DH
2 books
A set of dominoes - he loves traditional games
Picking him up a watch today

That will end all my Christmas present shopping so that’s good. 🎄🎁😌

OnTheRunWithMannyMontana · 05/12/2022 15:02

Personalised leather bound book of newspaper headlines from the last 70 years about his favourite sports team
New leather wallet
Smoked rum
Hotel chocolat speedster box
Holiday beers - the ones we always get in different countries in a gift box

OnTheRunWithMannyMontana · 05/12/2022 15:03

OnTheRunWithMannyMontana · 05/12/2022 15:02

Personalised leather bound book of newspaper headlines from the last 70 years about his favourite sports team
New leather wallet
Smoked rum
Hotel chocolat speedster box
Holiday beers - the ones we always get in different countries in a gift box

That should say SLEEKSTER

User963 · 05/12/2022 16:02

So far, a water bottle😂

HikingforScenery · 05/12/2022 17:08

CoffeeChocolateWine · 02/12/2022 21:14

My husband made a comment that he gets the same stuff every year and I should try to think a bit more about what he'd like

God, what an entitled comment!

I used to put a lot of thought into presents for my husband but I've come to realise that actually he does want the same thing every year 😆 He wants whiskey. He wants books. He wants something hobby-related (which often he has to basically order himself and say it's from me!)

So this year he's getting whiskey, a book, waterproof socks (for mountain biking) and a Spicery legend box (he loves cooking and I bought him one of these last year and he loved it so I bought another (different) one). Don't fix what ain't broke!

Not entitled at all. Open communication is very important. OP’s husband has done the right thing. OP is doing the right thing by listening and acting on the feedback.
We’re all different. I’d hate to get the same things each year ( apart from books), but DH knows this so not a problem.

herewegoagainst · 05/12/2022 17:09

A rucksack, he 'needed' one that was more formal than his walking bag and more 'rugged' than his work laptop bag.
Found a nice one at Decathlon that I think fits the bill with space for a laptop and tonnes of pockets and fittings for loads of stuff he doesn't need to carry around!