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Can’t say it to those close to you? Come say it here. Judgement free zone.

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OhWhatFuckeryIsThisNow · 27/12/2021 10:22

I’ve 4 grown kids. They are all here for Christmas. Ds1 is going home today. I can’t wait. (Of all of them hardest to get on with, hates his brother-it’s mutual. He’s a lazy git.) I’ll be able to relax when he’s gone.
I am also looking forward to dh being in work tomorrow so me and Dd can sprawl on sofa watching shite.
I also hate Christmas cooking.

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blueflowersinthesnow · 27/12/2021 18:49

I am worried my MIL may be an alcoholic and I really wish she had more friends and would learn to drive so she wouldn't be so dependent on DH.

Daftasabroom · 27/12/2021 18:53

12 guests for lunch yesterday. I cook roast beef, roast potatoes,sweet potato, roast beetroot, nut roast, veggie Wellington, carrots, peas, kale, 36 Yorkshire puddings. DW made a dozen blini and put some brought nibbles out. She insisted we split the kitchen 50:50.

doglikescheeseontoast · 27/12/2021 18:53

I have an enormous, loving family, and I am very grateful. I lost my partner to pancreatic cancer 2 years ago, and this time of year is especially difficult.

I saw 7 of them on Christmas Day, 10 on Boxing Day, and there were 5 of us here today. Everyone has now gone home, I am alone with my dogs and my cats, and the peace is blissful. I might not even get up tomorrow morning, other than to feed said dogs and cats.

Glassteacups · 27/12/2021 18:57

Also SIL you live in the north of Scotland not on Mars. You are quite capable of visiting elderly PILs for Xmas so claiming that you can’t - ever - because of the weather and roads at Xmas time is pathetic. Your husband doesn’t like going anywhere especially PILs and we all know that. So it’s left to me and DH.

And no D sister, my phone isn’t broken, I just don’t want to speak to you so I’ve blocked you for the duration of the holidays as you are toxic to my mental health.

Player20868 · 27/12/2021 18:57

Thank God that's over for another year and normal (2020s dystopian) life can resume!

notanothertakeaway · 27/12/2021 19:00

Not Christmas related, but I'll join in

DH, I love you dearly, but please ditch the beard. I hate beards, always have, always will

Itstheprinciple · 27/12/2021 19:05

MIL - I wish you would just have let us relax and enjoy Christmas day and not have it timed to a specific timetable including when it was time to leave.

Also the faux drama of how awful the dinner is going to be so that when you serve it, everyone says how marvellous it is as they had such low expectations is really wearing.

WasgijGods · 27/12/2021 19:07

@notanothertakeaway

Not Christmas related, but I'll join in

DH, I love you dearly, but please ditch the beard. I hate beards, always have, always will

I completely sympathise with you on this.

AgeingDoc · 27/12/2021 19:14

I was really hoping that Boris would announce some restrictions that would save me from sadly curtail DH's extended family's huge New Year's bash.

thankgoodnessnotravel · 27/12/2021 19:17

Husband, when I had a broken leg last year, you stepped up and cooked a lovely Christmas dinner, but I set up everything, decorated and cleared up everything plus did everything else day to day such as laundry, cleaning. When DC and I had covid, our child clung to me so I was unable to cook for everyone, so you did - it was brown tasteless mush, but I didn't complain, however I still did the cleaning and laundry. Why, when you now have covid do you keep insisting you did everything therefore so should I? I do anyway. I even sorted Christmas including my own presents, setting up for Christmas, cooking, clearing away whilst you sat on your arse drinking. The only time you tried to be helpful was reminding me how you did it all last year and how wonderful it was. Do you know how close you got to the sprouts being shoved up your nose when you helpfully asked if they should go on for cooking 30 mins before they needed to.
Amazing how the only thing you were capable of was getting booze down your neck, farting and saying you couldn't smell it - well lucky you, we all wanted to retch!

The only blessing of your Covid is not having to visit your selfish family who can never visit us, until later in the year, one day I'll tell them exactly what I think about them after biting my tongue for so long!

Mammyloveswine · 27/12/2021 19:18

Dad..it is not acceptable, ever, to comment on someones weight, it is so rude! Especially given you are overweight yourself!

Dsis... i know you dont have children but please dont treat mine as inconvenience..it is also staggeringly rude to ask what is "wrong" with ds1... nothing is wrong with him, he is autistic..dont be so ignorant!

DSIL.. dont spend all of xmas day trying to slag off dm to me.. shes bloody amazing and im surprised she still makes the effort with you and db given how awful you both are to her!

To my usually lovely in laws..next year we are not travelling across the country to stay with you, meaning we have to set off at 7am on boxing day..its not fair on the kids. We keep inviting you to us but FIL "prefers to stay at home".. well so do we!

Oh and last one..DH please stop being grumpy that the kids want to play with their lego sets...not just sit and watch you!

DyingForACuppa · 27/12/2021 19:19

I love my family but when I said 'of course it's no trouble having you all over!' I lied. Last couple of guests leave tomorrow and I am looking forward to it Blush

Mangofandangoo · 27/12/2021 19:19

Bloody hell my MIL does my head in but some of these take the biscuit 😱

iMombie · 27/12/2021 19:20

My millionaire brother can fuck off with the unwrapped gifts sent straight from Amazon. 2 cheap colouring books for 3 children.
(I don’t care how much he spent, I’m just upset at the complete lack of thought and care for the small people that adore him 😢)

Doofas · 27/12/2021 19:20

DS7 has taken to muttering to himself, the constant noise in the background is stunning me up the wall. Even now as I'm day in with him for him to go to sleep he's doing it and can't seem to understand that it won't help him sleep! Still him and DH are of to the in laws for a few days so I won't have to listen to that, I'll probablyniab instead that it's too quite. Well between the muttering and DH constantly checking I'll be in when they're away as I've been very ill recently (in fact starting chemo and radiotherapy while they're away) and he's not convinced i can manage in my own and is making me feel like I'm a five year old but a grown woman with a terminal illness. I'm completely ok with then going away, they both need the break from caring and the with family will be good for them.

cashmerecardigans · 27/12/2021 19:26

@Bitconfused75
I've just wept at your post, what a terrible disease it is. Take care of yourself as best you can and have a massive hug

SleepingStandingUp · 27/12/2021 19:28

Mine feels so petty now but I made sure DNiece (DHs brothers 17 yo) had her birthday present and Xmas present in plenty of time for when he saw her. Not tons. Maybe £30 in total and cards. But the thought was there. Despite saying NOVEMBER he will visit more and be a better Uncle there's been no acknowledgement of my twins birthday a week after his daughters (or thanks from her), no Christmas cards etc let alone a present. It's DHs only brother. His Dad died before they were born. I'd just like them to have SOME sort of relationship esp when he's sitting there saying he wants one but then can't even text them happy birthday

thefirstmrsrochester · 27/12/2021 19:31

We (me, DH, and the adult DC) do a secret Santa with the point being that each receive a couple of nice thoughtful gifts, and nobody has to sell a kidney to cover the cost of Christmas. I did stockings for everyone (although not myself). DD went into isolation on the 23rd and on the way back from dropping off her gifts/stocking/a shopping etc on Xmas eve, DH said…..where are your presents? Yep, DD hadn’t got me anything, didn’t have the chance before going into covid jail on the day before Xmas eve, and the fact that I was present-less was only communicated at 7pm on Xmas eve when even the supermarkets were shut. So I got fuck all on Xmas. It’s the fucking lack of thought.

TatianaBis · 27/12/2021 19:32

If you hate Christmas cooking OP then don’t do it.

If all the women in the country who hate Christmas cooking stopped doing it there would be a mini revolution. All the entitled partners and kids who have no idea how fucking hard work it is, or they do and that’s why they’re happy for someone else to do it, could go fish.

Next year - Christmas meal at a hotel/restaurant/pub. Or buy a job lot from Cook and let your kids stick it all in the oven.

Llamasally · 27/12/2021 19:33

My parents have come to stay with us until Thursday and DM is winding me up something chronic - first of all going completely mental with DCs presents (which is normal and she ignores any of my attempts to persuade her to scale it back) and then constantly overriding me in my own home, particularly with DS2.5 who is playing up a lot. I just love someone else disciplining my own child in my own home while I’m standing right there asking please not to and I will handle. I have a splitting head and patience is running extremely thin…

Bangolads · 27/12/2021 19:36

I find Christmas really hard. My partner is only really happy when his extended family are here and they are mostly nice to me but couldn’t really care less about me. They don’t include me or ask about me in anyway. They completely underestimate the amount of work it is to have them and they bring nothing - when they come. Sorry actually they brought a cheese cake. The FIL has his bday on Boxing Day and says he doesn’t want a fuss but does nothing the entire day to help. It’s just constant work and I’m tired of it.

Twillow · 27/12/2021 20:03

@Bitconfused75

My lovely lovely mum is in the advanced stages of dementia. She is fragile and thin and has forgotten how to eat and is all but lost to me. Listening to her keen for my dad who died many years ago is truly tragic and I really really hope this is her last Christmas because I can't bear to watch her like this any more. Please go Mum, please just don't wake up tomorrow morning. I love you too much to watch you like this.
Aw have been through a similar time, it's both awful and caring to find yourself saying I hope you don't wake up tomorrow Flowers
SorrySadDog · 27/12/2021 20:06

We've had Christmas on our own which is tough as it is because DP doesn't like Christmas as it's a hard time of year for him. We've coped, it's been horrible but he's feeling better now Christmas day is over.

Mum keeps asking if I'm going to drive up and I haven't the heart to say being on my own for Christmas for the first time ever has been good and I plan to spend the rest of the week doing nothing let alone driving for 3 hours to hers.

heelforheelandtoefortoe · 27/12/2021 20:06

I wish ILs would just give me money instead of the same cheapy old lady toiletries I get every year.

And I really wish DH had bought me what I actually asked for and not imitations.

And my mum bloody knows I hate wax melts and what did she get me?

Twillow · 27/12/2021 20:11

I never thought I'd be so glad to be going back to work tomorrow!
Have spent £100s on food which was barely touched, on my own most of the time apart from the grown-up kids asking me to referee some argument or other, when they managed to get out of bed long enough.
One of my gifts I had to go with the child and choose, as they were having too much anxiety. Another one's gift to me 'lost in the post'.
My other relatives who we didn't see due to covid haven't sent anything - oh, except for the one who seems to run a competition with herself each year about how little she can spend, to the point it's more of an insult than a gift. And the ex I left due to DV and haven't spoken to for 10 years invited me round for Christmas dinner Confused probably just to make a point to the children about how awkward I am to say no.
A friend is having Christmas somewhere exotically foreign and I'm so green with envy I can't even like her facebook posts...