How much do you spend on your wife /husband /partner at Christmas ?

[aingerlinger]

I never know what's too much or too little.
This year it's around £150 but I have a friend who spends a lot more.
What do you spend on them?

I don’t have a set amount. Last year was around £350, this year £250. Depends on what he wants.

Since we tend to buy big things through the year then we do each other a stocking with a rough £40 to £50 limit.

Its different every year! Usually around £50, some years has been less than £20, a couple of years ago small token gift as we bought tickets to see our favourite band. This year dh has a ps5 (most ive ever spent but after the last couple of years he's had, he deserves it!)

Some years £50, some £100, last year £175, this year over £200. It just depends on what we can afford and have spare.

About £100. I spent a fair bit on him for his birthday though.

I don't know whether to add in something else.
He is a huggeee Harry Potter fan.
I don't know whether to get tickets for the London tour but it will be e tickets now as missed Christmas post or whether to keep them for val day and get actual tickets

£200 five or take, although sometimes more if there is a specific thing they want.

Whatever we are able to comfortably afford that year, within reason. I’ve spent £145 this year, from me and our baby son altho his input was rather unhelpful overall
It’s been more in the past, up to about £500 (altho that was on a particular tool, we wouldn’t just spend for the sake of spending on bits and pieces!) and there was a year when we didn’t buy each other anything as were due to go to New Zealand days after Christmas so wanted to save all we could!
I don’t think there’s any right or wrong!

If we really want something we have probably got it for ourselves already, or it is way over budget so we spend a token £20 on each other so the dc see we get each other something. Birthdays are more generous and we tend to go away for the night.

We only do token presents so £20-30.

We just buy what we want when we want, we both want to choose our own things and see no point in making lists. Once you've decided you want the thing and which one you want, you might as well buy it. It's not a gift from the other person if they have no input.

I've got DP a book, mug, some chocolate, nuts and some beer and he's likely to get me a bottle of gin and some chocolate. We're both perfectly happy with this arrangement.

We do stockings with a £50 limit, although I’ve gone a bit over that this year

It was £450 last year and it's £240 this year

No agreed amount but generally £200-£300. Think in future years we will probably reduce that now we have 2 DC to buy for

£0
We just get each other a token gift "from DD" this year it is some books and socks, so less than £25.

In normal times (pre Covid) we will do something nice together like a posh meal, break away or something we really want for the house like a piece of art or something for the garden. But we've not even bothered with that lately as we can't be bothered to go out anywhere or look for anything.

Don’t buy the tickets if you can’t afford it or if you don’t want to. Don’t feel pressured to spend more.

We don’t often have any budget left after buying everyone else’s so the last few years at least we don’t get birthday presents christmas presents for each other other than a small token gift under £10.

It's all relative to your income, and also I suppose how long you've been together? I mean, if you met him a couple of months ago then it'd be mad to blow a few hundred quid on him.

I don't think it spoils the surprise to have a normal adult conversation and both agree a budget?

That's what I do with dh. Although this year we're not buying each other a present due to a very low budget have spent it on the dc instead.

This is dependent on finances. People generally spend what they can afford and based on what the other wishes.

I personally think opening actual tickets on Valentine's would be more special.
Usually dp and I spend £100-£150 on each other but this year we've set a budget of £20 as we can't afford much (overspent on DC!)

My dp would be happy with anything really and he's not at all bothered about the amount spent. I guess I've probably spent about £80-100 this year. I've seen a few things that I know he'll really like and got a few sale bits plus stocking fillers.

He's done loads of work on my house this year so it's quite nice to treat him

£300+

Usually £300 -£500 but we’ve agreed to cut down ( mainly about the “stuff” rather than finances) This year it’s mainly cycle gear, posh food and some replacement sunglasses so all will get used.

We set a limit of £75. Used to be £50 and will probably go back to that next year once our first child is here.

£100 on each other, plus a stocking which doesn't have a budget but is generally small things (this year his has socks, chocolate coins, a personalised guitar pick and some hot sauce).

£0 this year. We have the money but don't want anything so will likely just arrange to go for dinner or away somewhere in the new year.