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How much do you spend on your wife /husband /partner at Christmas ?

128 replies

aingerlinger · 21/12/2021 10:16

I never know what's too much or too little.
This year it's around £150 but I have a friend who spends a lot more.
What do you spend on them?

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Workyticket · 21/12/2021 11:59

Nothing! We're rubbish at presents so we each buy ourselves something, wrap it and pretend infront of ds.

We do the same for birthdays and the non birthday person also books a hotel room in one of our local cities

Not for everyone but it works for us! I've just ordered myself some new Vans, I think DH is buying himself an xbox game.

BoudecaBains · 21/12/2021 12:02

Impossible to buy for so I get him a pair of socks, Viz annual and I shag his brains out.

champions55 · 21/12/2021 12:02

I would prefer we did around £50 but to be fair not much I cld get him for that. I've bought him an expensive jumper this year so think I've spent about £150-£160. We usually do £100-£120/30.

I find it so pointless sometimes as I don't need or want anything. I buy myself whatever I want or need through the year and my birthday was only a couple of months ago.

DropYourSword · 21/12/2021 12:03

@BoudecaBains

Impossible to buy for so I get him a pair of socks, Viz annual and I shag his brains out.
How the hell do you wrap that up Grin
cultkid · 21/12/2021 12:04

Normally about 600£ I've spent more historically like over a thousand pounds

We have two children now and a third on the way, my husband is self employed and so money hasn't been very good this year and last year
I've spent around £150 ... not sure how much he's spent on me

IncompleteSenten · 21/12/2021 12:07

Whatever we can afford that year.
Sometimes it's been nothing, sometimes £20 and sometimes anything up to a hundred or so.

Tal45 · 21/12/2021 12:08

£200 - 300 but only because 'things' are really important to him and it's how he feels loved and appreciated. I'm happy with £20 spent on me, I'm not a things person at all.

missymousey · 21/12/2021 12:10

About £50. This year he's getting a book, a bottle of wine, and a jumper.

HeddaGarbled · 21/12/2021 12:14

We always agree on a £50 limit but then usually go to about £60.

edin16 · 21/12/2021 12:14

It varies depending on what he wants/needs. Some years will be less than £50, other years a lot more. This year he's getting 1 thing that's £230 and he's getting me a £30 slow cooker but it really doesn't matter to us about the difference, or differences year to year ect.

InTheNightWeWillWish · 21/12/2021 12:19

It depends how much money is spare.

We tend to buy big things throughout the year or by saving Christmas/birthday money from other people, so there isn’t a need for a large budget.

Sometimes we put restrictions on presents so one year we had a budget of £30 and everything had to fit in our stockings. The year we were buying our first house (bought in October and moved in February) it had to be consumable or something for the house so we didn’t have to pack it up Grin Other years we just set a budget. This year our budget is about £80. It was about £60 but we’ve both found some more little bits the other would like.

The100thHoliday · 21/12/2021 12:20

We don’t go mad at Christmas.
This year I’ve bought him tickets to a talk he wanted to go to (will probably end up being cancelled due to covid!), a couple of books and some aftershave.

I give him a list to choose from and I reckon I’ll get a book, some toiletries I wanted and some PJs.

Birthdays are when we put a bit more thought and, if we can, cash into things.

guardiansofthegalaxychocs · 21/12/2021 12:21

Max ever was around £200 but this year we agreed £50 limit.

emmetgirl · 21/12/2021 12:22

Nothing. We use our money to have fabulous holidays together. When we can of course 😂

hellosunshineagainx · 21/12/2021 12:27

Around £150 all in

RedwineforSantaplease · 21/12/2021 12:28

Nothing. We usually do a meal out or a night away somewhere. We have enough stuff already, just buy things as we need them and we're both quite difficult to buy for.

avocadotofu · 21/12/2021 12:29

It changes every year, it was around £300 this year.

MollyQueenOfSocks · 21/12/2021 12:31

December birthday for DH. I give myself a £400 (ish) budget for him but don't fret if I go over it.

He likes collectibles (comic books, manga, gaming etc) and obviously I don't have another date in the year I have to cover so always get him two nice, collectible things (one for birthday then one for Christmas) and use the rest for small gifts (whisky, slippers etc).

SpeckledlyHen · 21/12/2021 12:33

We don't have a budget, I guess i normally spend between £250 - £400. We just buy things that we think the other would like. I am refusing buying something for the sake of buying it these days. This year I got him an expensive birthday present (£500) but it was our 10th wedding anniversary a few months later and we both decided not to get each other anything. It was Tin (or diamonds) and you really can't get much in that category for a man - or rather you can but not what my husband would have liked.

Toplowlight · 21/12/2021 12:42

We don’t set a limit but I would guess it’s usually £200 - £250 each year.

Sn0tnose · 21/12/2021 13:02

We don’t have a budget. A rough tot up in my head is probably around £900ish this year, which sounds dreadful. However, we don’t really do birthdays and he never treats himself to anything through the year, so he’s incredibly easy to buy for and there’s always something substantial he wants. Also, we’re both Christmas obsessed so we budget and plan for that sum throughout the year, so there’s no credit cards or other debt involved. And we don’t really do holidays because all our leave gets used up on other stuff. So it’s how we choose to spend our money. I get joy from spoiling him. And I never got presents after I was about 12 or 13, so he loves spoiling me. I have no idea why I’m trying to justify it!

I’ve been with previous partners where we’ve both been skint so have done something creative for the other, or have traded skills (he painted my bathroom and I adjusted his trouser hems) etc, or where the limit has been £5.

It’s all relative.

Pheebs2021 · 21/12/2021 13:04

Ended up spending £300 this year and think he's spent about £200 on my known gift. We could afford more but we never know what to get, we're fortunate enough to be able to buy when we see.

DockOTheBay · 21/12/2021 13:08

ABout £50, we don't really need anything. If he really wanted something which was £100 he would get it, but generally its just bits and pieces

BarbedButterfly · 21/12/2021 13:11

About £300 or so but no children and we do spoil each other

mam0918 · 21/12/2021 13:27

@DropYourSword

I truly have no clue how much I’ve ever spent on DH or DS! I just get things for them I think they’d like. I don’t work to a budget. I think I’d find it ridiculous to ensure I hit some sort of spending target. Like, are DH’s really sitting there calculating the cost of each gift and tallying up the total spend. I could not be arsed with that!
But you are aware it's a very privileged position to not need to budget or count and just buy randomly - right?

It's not an 'OMG I must hit this target' but rather an 'I can't afford to go over this budget'.

I see tonnes of things I would love to buy DH but I cant because it doesn't fit in the budget and yes I have to count the pennies.

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