I have never loved him more

thistimelastweek · 2021-12-06T20:00:59+00:00

He organised beautiful Christmas cards. He wrote the cards. He addressed the envelopes. A Christmas bugbear has been lightened.

UndertheCedartree · 06/12/2021 22:49

Lovely

mynameiscalypso · 06/12/2021 22:50

Whereas my DH asked me what my plan was for writing Christmas cards for his family...

KaptainKaveman · 06/12/2021 23:38

Bugger that. Just send a txt msg.

Floundery · 06/12/2021 23:54

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pollyglot · 07/12/2021 02:01

do the elf ?? Is that something to do with yoga, or is it a sex position?
I do agree, though, that "twunt" is the perfect neologism for such behaviour.

user1477249785 · 07/12/2021 02:20

OP that's really nice. It's lovely to hear of couples sharing out the Christmas effort.

1forAll74 · 07/12/2021 02:42

My late Husband never bought a Christmas card, never wrote on one, never sent one, and never bothered to look at any that were sent to us. This never bothered me at all, as he was great in all other ways.

Bessica1970 · 07/12/2021 06:25

Five years ago when I was having nightly Christmas anxiety dreams (you know the ones where it’s 10 minutes until the shops close and you realise it’s Christmas the next day, and you haven’t bought any presents for anyone) my husband ‘took over’ Christmas.
He now buys and wraps all the presents (and decides what to buy), does all the food planning, shopping and cooking - and puts up the Christmas lights. All I have to do is the tree and the cards (his handwriting is pants!).

It has really made a difference to my piece of mind and I love him to bits for it 😊

rrhuth · 07/12/2021 06:34

Oh that's nice

We share Christmas prep and it is something I appreciate.

InvincibleInvisibility · 07/12/2021 06:52

Are cards for reception kids really needed?!

Winniemarysarah · 07/12/2021 07:11

@InvincibleInvisibility

Are cards for reception kids really needed?!

Yes! My dc was ecstatic when he got one from his little friend yesterday

CurtainTroubles · 07/12/2021 07:16

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UsernameInTheTown · 07/12/2021 07:24

Cards for littlies have never been more important. Life is so shitty and limited, the small things really matter.

Fairylights25 · 07/12/2021 07:34

It is good he is getting stuck in with Christmas, and lovely that you appreciate him so much. Why didn't he do it years ago I am left wondering?

shakethat · 07/12/2021 07:36

Husband or son?

Kittykat93 · 07/12/2021 07:41

@CurtainTroubles

Man does domestic chore and gets a whole thread on mumsnet in praise. Depressing.

My husband loves buying cards but never writes or sends them.

This. I get this is a nice thing but Jesus it's sad when a man writes some Christmas cards and it's worthy of coming onto a forum and starting a thread 🤣

tigger1001 · 07/12/2021 08:00

@CurtainTroubles

Man does domestic chore and gets a whole thread on mumsnet in praise. Depressing.

My husband loves buying cards but never writes or sends them.

Agree.

I don't do cards. Haven't done for years. Oh knows this and buys any cards he wants to give himself. In fairness he pretty much feels the same as me about cards so it's really just his mum he gets a card for.

We share gift buying. We share wrapping although I probably do more as I have a day off midweek so easier to do when no one else around. The cooking on the whole is my area but that's because I love cooking the Christmas meal and planning all the goodies. I suspect this year my eldest will help as he loves to cook too.

It's not my responsibility to ensure Christmas happens for the rest of the family. It's a collective effort.

MostUseful · 07/12/2021 08:31

So much of this is self inflicted.

Floundery · 07/12/2021 09:00

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carriebradshawwithlessshoes · 07/12/2021 09:25

Anyone else have a DH who asks every single year ‘what is his wife/ child called again??’ When it comes to card writing (done usually by me??). They are his friends. The one year I opted out he bought ‘large’ weight cards but posted with standard postage so everyone had to pay to be delivered. Then apparently to their collective amusement when John got his envelope inside was a card for Bob and so on. DH is actually highly intelligent but really…. I just do it.

carriebradshawwithlessshoes · 07/12/2021 09:26

Agreed re the reception kids btw!!!!

Happy1982ish · 07/12/2021 09:34

@Floundery

DH just sat and watched me do the elf, take the class bear photos, write 33 Christmas cards for Reception kiddos, stuff them with chocolate coins, and write the teacher’s initials on each envelope. Then he asked me to find the TV remote.

He’s a Twunt.

Didn’t occur to you to say… you do this, I’ll do that, then we can flake on front of tv

Happy1982ish · 07/12/2021 09:35

@1forAll74

My late Husband never bought a Christmas card, never wrote on one, never sent one, and never bothered to look at any that were sent to us. This never bothered me at all, as he was great in all other ways.

Bingo

Love this

Happy1982ish · 07/12/2021 09:36

@Floundery

DH just sat and watched me do the elf, take the class bear photos, write 33 Christmas cards for Reception kiddos, stuff them with chocolate coins, and write the teacher’s initials on each envelope. Then he asked me to find the TV remote.

He’s a Twunt.

If you’re doing on behalf of the teacher… does that not mean it’s your job?

Iputthetrampintrampoline · 07/12/2021 09:49

My dh doesn;t do Christmas,Well he does,he enjoys the meal always and looks forward to that and the family time we spend together but I do all that needs doing happily,I just get on with it and I enjoy it,He is happy to pay for it all and never ever questions anything that we do or what we buy,Also he never takes any credit he will say Oh dont thank me tramp did it. It works for us. I think if I thought on Christmas as a chore I might feel different but I dont.