I have never loved him more

[thistimelastweek]

He organised beautiful Christmas cards.
He wrote the cards.
He addressed the envelopes.

A Christmas bugbear has been lightened.

[loveliesbleeding1]

Why do some women praise their Husbands as if they’re 2 year olds?He is quite capable of writing a few cards without all the adoration.

[TrickyD]

Zebracat, I am sure they will love them, such a clever idea and they work so well. I have got 'shower steamers' as an extra for our lot. No idea if they are any good.

thistimelastweek, I hate cards too. When DH was a headteacher he used to get vast quantities from every school in the county and departments at County Hall. Such a relief when he retired and they dropped off. I asked if similar ones were sent from his school, and if so by whom. "The office I suppose", i.e. women.

And a stupid waste of resources.

[Zebracat]

@TrickyD , they are indeed that sort, for the women and I am including a few quality items, like artisanal shampoo bars etc. Not too shabby?
We don’t go overboard on presents in our family so these are at the top end of the usual budget.

[thistimelastweek]

For those that made the very fair point that men shouldn't be praised inordinately for making an effort, I do agree.

To be fair, he does do his share. I just really hate Christmas cards.

[Kdubs1981]

@mynameiscalypso

Whereas my DH asked me what my plan was for writing Christmas cards for his family...

🖕🏻

[TrickyD]

If the makeup/wash bags are the sort that lie flat and pull up with a cord, no, you have not made a mistake.
I bought myself one and was so pleased with it I have bought them for female family members.

[Jumpingintochristmas]

DH definitely does his fair share, but I deal with Christmas and Birthdays.

However I am currently sat writing cards and he is making lunch for everyone at home and putting on a load of washing.

I plan to start wrapping gifts tonight, he will deal with clearing up after dinner and bring wine!

[Zebracat]

I’m thinking need to clean up so that we can do the decorating, bu5 I really can’t be arsed. I have started to wrap things, but sidetracked by the great metaphysical questions of the day, like is a makeup/ wash bag a shit present because I have bought 5 and had congratulated myself on such an easy solution, but now I’m thinking that really is not ok.They are nice ones, but even so. Meanwhile Dh has asked pleadingly for suggestions for the same 5 people, which I have given , then, at his request, found and ordered the items. His are better than mine, but no one would believe he bought makeup/ wash bags.so I’m stuck with it and finding interesting bits to make them less dire.

[CaputApriDefero]

I would love this

He's done nothing at all. Except possibly buy me presents

[00100001]

@Floundery

Are cards for reception kids really needed?!

It was agreed by small majority of the class whatsapp group - so they all get the same number of cards. Those parents all have way too much time on their hands afai am concerned.

but...if you (for example) don't send/write the 33 cards...they'll still all receive the same number...

[00100001]

@thistimelastweek

He organised beautiful Christmas cards.
He wrote the cards.
He addressed the envelopes.

A Christmas bugbear has been lightened.

big whoop-de-fucking do - he bought and wrote cards...


does he buy presents, wrap them send them, organise kids going to parties, think about what food might be needed, order it, cook it etc?

[Abhannmor]

@Floundery

DH just sat and watched me do the elf, take the class bear photos, write 33 Christmas cards for Reception kiddos, stuff them with chocolate coins, and write the teacher’s initials on each envelope. Then he asked me to find the TV remote.

He’s a Twunt.

Hide the remote!

[LittleDoritt]

It is depressing that it warrants it's own thread, but if my DH did that I'd probably start a thread too! He's beyond useless. If I left it to him none of it would be deemed important and he wouldn't bother doing anything to make Christmas nice for the children. He'll gladly enjoy it all if I sort it, but it's just "unnecessary fuss and expense" if he has to do anything himself.

[JosephineDeBeauharnais]

I haven’t written a Xmas card in decades other than for work colleagues. DH is a diligent correspondent so he does all that.

[EmbarrassingHadrosaurus]

@Floundery

Yeah the bar is pretty low for men. I’m sure DH fucks things up in purpose sometimes.

aka strategic incompetence - it's surprisingly effective.

[Happy1982ish]

Christmas cards would not exist if only men on earth

And all the better for it
Massive massive majority don’t give a damn
And would be brilliant for the environment

And yet so many women seem to think they should do it or some of it

I don’t do card
And don’t reshot receiving them as o just think what an absolute waste
So if someone tried to make me feel guilty for not doing
I’d laugh and flick on the tv

[Happy1982ish]

@Floundery

Why do you do this to yourself
33 personalised reception cards with chocolate coins in them?
Genuine question
Especially when you seem to drive no joy from doing it all!

[LizzieSiddal]

My husband loves buying cards but never writes or sends them.

Mine does this. I used to think it was my job to “encourage” him to do them, now I don’t give a fig and his friends and most family manners don’t get cards. I HATE writing cards too, but I do them for my friends and family, but I’m not doing his as well!

[IntermittentParps]

Man does domestic chore and gets a whole thread on mumsnet in praise. Depressing.
I know

[Happy1982ish]

* Probably unnecessary *

Yes
But not just the initial bit

If my partner decided to do cards for all reception children and enclose chocolates

Then I’d pour him a glass of wine, and make myself scarce (probably chuckling under my breath!)