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"Merry Christmas from Mr. and Mrs. dhfirstname dhlastname"

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EmkanaCookTurkeyLikeICan · 07/12/2006 16:16

Is that a good way to sign a Christmas card, do you think?

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EmkanaCookTurkeyLikeICan · 07/12/2006 16:16

Don't worry, I wasn't planning on signing like that btw!

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themulledSNOWMANneredjanitor · 07/12/2006 16:17

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HappyMellowmas · 07/12/2006 16:17

did wonder, bit formal but very nice imo

HappyMellowmas · 07/12/2006 16:18

There we go again, snowman

our minds are so

Pruni · 07/12/2006 16:18

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LittleSarah · 07/12/2006 16:18

No, no ,no, no, no, no....

Agree with pruni.

fireflyxmasfairylights2 · 07/12/2006 16:22

No way Jose! That's how the older generation is.. I always thought the old woman 2 doors down was called Paddy... we used to call her Mrs Paddy Kane. It is only recently I found out her name was Susan and her very late husband was called Paddy. In fact, I never knew her husband as he had passed away years before, but she was still referred to as his first & surname...

I sign it From: Mrfirstname & dhsfirtname & family.

Pruni · 07/12/2006 16:22

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serenitynightholynight · 07/12/2006 16:27

I wouldn't send a christmas card to someone if I had to sign it with anything other than our first names tbh.

fairyjay · 07/12/2006 16:27

Traditionally you were 'Mrs. Paul Jones' until you were widowed, when you became 'Mrs. Elizabeth Jones'.

Personally I'm happy to be me as in the maiden name me - and let it cover all eventualities!

colditz · 07/12/2006 16:31

no. No no no. being a wife does not make you his property, and this habit is a hangover from the days when it did.

Quootiepie · 07/12/2006 16:35

I quite like that... im traditional like that.

Spicedfennelwine · 07/12/2006 16:37

I suppose it's their choice but if anyone addressed me and DP like that their card would go in the bin.

ParanoidSurreyHousewife · 07/12/2006 16:38

DH's boss invited us to drinks - the invite was an "At home" from Mrs dhfirstname dhsurname. I found it quite disturbing really.

And of course I made the mistake of wearing black - ended up looking like one of the staff...

sweetkitty · 07/12/2006 16:38

DP and I are not married and the people who get in a right muddle about what to put on our envelope we get Mr and Mrs DP last name, Mr and Mrs Dp last name, my last name and loads of variations inbetween. It seems to be the older generation cannot cope with having to write DP's name then my name on cards.

My personal hate is anyone who signs my cards to SK, DP and girls, they are not girls they have names cannot you take the time to write their names!

sweetkitty · 07/12/2006 16:40

that should be "can you not"

2 year old on lap, 10 month old crawling up me

shepherdswatchedtheirfLOCKETS · 07/12/2006 16:46

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sweetkitty · 07/12/2006 16:55

maybe it's just me but I do hate to S, D and family, girls or worse still kids! Although sometimes when you are trying to remember 5 childrens names it's a bit much.

suedonim · 07/12/2006 16:58

I think in ye olden dayes widowed women were addressed as Mrs Joe Bloggs. Mrs Jane Bloggs was for women who were (whisper) divorced.

hatwoman · 07/12/2006 18:29

it's one of my biggest bug bears I hate it. our builders keep sending bills addressed like this and it's driving me nuts. I don;t mind people who don;t know me well calling me Mrs dh's surname, but mrs dhname dh surname pisses me right off (unless it's someone very old)

Boobooroastingonanopenfire · 07/12/2006 18:33

Drives me up the pole.

My name is not Jeremy. It wouldn't suit me.

Agree with colditz. Your entire official identity should not be subsumed by your husband's just because you're married.

I struggled with changing my surname, but decided to do it because we wanted children and I wanted us all to have the same name.

roisin · 07/12/2006 19:37

My grandma used to address envelopes like that, which used to really irritate me, especially as the letters inside were basically to me, NOT dh

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Queenmummy · 07/12/2006 19:41

I think strict etiquette says you are Mrs Joseph Bloogs until your DH dies whereupon it is correct to call you Mrs Jane Bloggs

I usually write to Mr and Mrs Smith (rather than using the H's initial). It really doesn't bother me how things are addressed to me (though I would think it weird if someone addressed something to Mrs {Dh initial} {our surname} if it wasn't also to Dh.

To be honest, I think it is a little sad to get so het up about these things - people are trying to send a cheery Christmas greeting, not make a point about your status as women in the home and society at large! Loosen up ladies!