"Merry Christmas from Mr. and Mrs. dhfirstname dhlastname"

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Is that a good way to sign a Christmas card, do you think?

A marriage is a merger of sorts. I don't think you lose your identity when you change your name.

naame change is very much a christian, or at least western thing.
in the east, and definintly in islam, a woman never changes her name. its actully 'modern' or 'liberal' muslims who change their name.
children though always have their fathers name.

but tamum, plese enlightenme on the different titles one.

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My gran used to address letters like that. She would then phone if I didn't phone her about the letter/card she had sent. I wouldn't have opened it as I thought it was addressed to DH

i call myself Ms when a prefix is required b/c i dont feel the need to state my marital status every five minutes to people i dont know or care about.
but when given a list to choose from, on-line mostly, like with ocado, and they include Lady on the list, i choose that. because it tickles me when they address me as Lady so snd so.

that and farting. always good for a smile.

back to OP tho, if im the one writing a card, i sign it from my first name, then dps, then each of the dc's. or 'my name' and her merry brood or similar. why would i sign a card ive written from dp?? what am i, a secretary??

and in many a country you can call yourself after your children, tis considered a great honour. and one which I actually quite like, thinking about it - Um/abu dd/ds

ROFL Nappiesgaloria.

I too shall be a Lady from now on.

Think it's a mark of respect to the person you're writing to to address them as they wish to be addressed.

Not to mention the unthinking enforcement of the mild-mannered misogyny still prevelant in this country.

My Aunty loves being Mrs DH'sfirstname Surname, so that's what I put on her card.

I don't, so she respects my wishes.

I can't enlighten you stitch, I have no idea what the correct formula is, Pruni was just teasing me. I get mildy irritated by people (exclusively those in dh's family) who use his title and not mine, that's all. Mr and Mrs I'm fine with.

booboo - its at its funniest when delivery drivers look at you in unspoken askance and you just front it out, straight or smiling faced, with your sloppy trackies or jammies on, hair skewiff, and your best albert square accent on... love it

and i get such curteous (sp??) service from the people who do magazine subscriptions...

ahhh. its the little things eh?

youre right about the other bit though, address people as they like to be addressed, makes sense to me.

not really a prob for me as i dont bother writing anything to anyone much!! lazy mare...

Hate it with a passion. I am not my husband. I have my own identity. There are people I deal with at work who prefer it and it makes me cringe everytime.

Interestingly, social correspondance should only be addressed to the lady of the house - so dinner party invitations, wedding invitations, drinks parties etc should strictly be addressed to Mrs Joe Bloggs.

And you do only revert to Mrs jane Bloggs if you are divorced. If you are widowed you remain Mrs Joe Bloggs, or at least until you remarry

this is one of the few things that really, really winds me up - MIL has sent me a christmas present, addressed to 'Mrs DHInitials DHSurname'

WHY FFS???????? she bloody knows me. AND that my surname isn't even actually exactly the same as his. Especially when it's just to me - I can just about cope with being Mr & MRs DH but just being Mrs DH - no, sorry, that's shite

I was thinking of not opening it as a protest except I know it's got MOlton Brown smellies/make up in it...

That is pretty awful - but you do realise that your MN name is MrsJohnCusack don't you - thus kind of undermining the whole getting in a huff thing.

BTW your dd was lovely today wasn't she?

oh yes you're right...dammit!
still it's ironic (!) was prob on my mind when I chose it as she ALWAYS sends stuff to me as Mrs DH. And will do for ever more. Must do the same back to her...

DD was cute today - thankyou! Suddenly she 'got it' and wasn't as hesitant as usual - she had a great time. hope it lasts.

I tell everyone my name & DD's name (double barrelled) and DH's name (just his surname). actually did on DD's birth announcements as well to make it clear...

but I know what you mean about not knowing.

I have solved the problem this year by sending no christmas cards at all....so is probably a moot point what people call us as should think we're off everybody's lists now!

I haven't had a card signed that way recently. Might have had in past from elderly family friends. I only send cards to people nowadays where I write our first names.

However, I do address envelopes as Mr & Mrs DHInitial Surname, unless I know they use seperate surnames.

Certainly doesn't bother me recieveing things addressed to me and Dh in this way either. It's just the formal way of addressing stuff.

Got one today from my aunt addressed as

Mr and Mrs DP first name, my first name (which is double barrelled as it is), DP surname - my surname, we are not married so why the double barrelled surname and Mr and Mrs, why not just address is to DP name, my name.

Also inside it was addressed to DP, me and girls they are not just girls they are two people with names.

I have spent my life being called the wrong name, or with it spelled incorrectly.

I answer to anything, certainly don't get huffy (although I know those who do!) and I can't get too worried about what variation of first name or surname I'm called.

Life's too short........

Kitty -
Must be honest, I've been known to write 'girls' or 'family' if I can't remember the children's names

Imagine how many cards have to be written. A personal message in each. Sometimes its hard, especially for older people to remeber the little one's names.

We got one today to Mr Hisname and MISS Myname. I have discovered I find this marginally more offensive than the people who think DP and I have got married and I've changed my name to his.

(It was from the wife of DP's mate, the one who does all the Christmas cards for Bloke - I've met the dame precisely once, DP and Bloke went to school together.)

fairyjay - I have had to do that on some of this year's cards. It's ones where I know the parents, but not sure about the children's names although may have met them before. Have had to put family on a couple.