"Merry Christmas from Mr. and Mrs. dhfirstname dhlastname"

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Is that a good way to sign a Christmas card, do you think?

Oh Pruni, I think I was on that thread, whinging about being Prof and Mrs. Shall I say it again? . I do think it's hideously old-fashioned to use Mr and Mrs dhfirstname dhlastname even on an envelope, and as a signature it's just plain weird.

Hate it when we get letters addressed to dh with Mrs put in. In fact I make a point of phoning the companies to complain that in fact, dh does not have 2 genders that I know of.

FGS - you lot take yourselves WAAAAAAAY too seriously!

I wonder how men would react if it was the other way round?

Mrs and Mr Susan Jones ..............

My DH wouldn't care.

My dh got called by our house name the other day! Our house has a 'name' (rented, nowt we can do about it) and we got a letter addressed to me and Mr

So glad it's not just me that can't stand Mr & Mrs DHfirstname surname! I think it's an old fashioned habit that people do without thinking -shortly after we got married I asked both my grannies to stop addressing us like that when they wrote to us, and when I explained why they both said they'd never thought of it before but they agreed with me. But referring to the original post I wouldn't expect to send or receive a card to or from someone I wouldn't use our first names with.

a friend of mine - a bit like me - hates Miss, Mrs and Ms, so tends to tick "other" without, as it were, supplying an other. she got a letter recently addressed to Other Jane Smith. It's almost worth doing a phd for

Its a bit formal for friends but perfect for the rest.

ooh LOVEs doing htis to me
i KNWO you do PPH
i HATE it

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I hate being called anything other than Ms Myname My name. I didn't change my name on marriage either time and bloody insurance cos insist on thinking I am MISS because my name has never been any different or MRS because my marital status is 'married' Grrr. I've never had anything adddressed to Mr and Mrs dhfirstname dhlast name but I have had Mr and Mrs dhname, which annoys me no end.

why "perfect for the rest"?

I find that this to annoys my SIL. Its actually correct to do so. If I were sending a letter to you only then it would then be appropriate to use your maiden name. Or if I was writing a buisness letter. I doubt anyone is trying to annoy you, they are just taking the most appropriate form of address. I suggest you take it up with Debretts if you feel otherwise.

I think it's only one aunt who does this:

Mrs DH DHname

(even if she's just writing to me!)

I always assume it's for DH until I see the Mrs. I suppose it wouldn't bother too much except that a) I still use my "maiden" name and b) DH's correct title is Dr anyway (should tell her that - she'd probably like the idea of it) and the fact that it's aload of old fashioned bumkum nonsense [

But why would anyone want a "cheery Christmas greeting" when instead they could have a comment on the status as women in the home and society at large? I'd always choose the latter

I only meant that except for family and friends it might be a bit stiff. For them I would just sign with both your first names.

Best way to deal with it is insist on being Ms dh second name,last bf's last name,second cousin twice removed's third name and then mother's maiden name.

Sorted.

Everyone happy.

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i get really confused when bothe the h and w have different titles as well as surnames . so major bloggs and dr leviticus?
or major and doctor bloggs?
or whatever variation.

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Is it really so hard to get used to the idea that two people in a relationship might have two separate identities, not one merged one?

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