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Do Your Parents Spend The Same Amount On You For Christmas As They Do Your Children?

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Blessedandgrateful · 13/12/2014 10:49

Do your parents spend the same amount on you for Christmas as they do your children? Or do they spend less on you? What do you think / feel about this ?

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mrsfarquhar · 13/12/2014 10:55

Yes they do roughly. I don't really feel anything. I don't feel anything about Christmas presents in general, I really enjoy buying them, don't care if anyone buys me anything or not, including DH!

SouthernOne · 13/12/2014 11:02

They spend more on the kids, always have done.

I'm quite happy with this

candykane25 · 13/12/2014 11:05

More on the grandchildren but my mum is still quite generous on us as well. I have told her not to spend a lot on us though.
My in laws are very generous to us but myDH is an only and I think that makes a difference.

Skyland · 13/12/2014 11:07

We don't buy for adults so only the kids get presents from wider family. Much easier for everyone.

Mydelilah · 13/12/2014 11:07

Since the DC arrived they've spent less on us so they can spend more on the kids - which is exactly as it should be imo Wink

SeeChooJimmy · 13/12/2014 11:11

My mum spends way more on mu 3dds than me and dh but we still all get spoilt rotten, she's a law to her own at Christmas and goes mental buying presents.

dhs parents spend loads on dh and his sisters, dd1&2 get around the same, dd3 gets a ridiculous amount as shes her nanas golden girl, but dd1 &2 dont mind they have other close relatives that give each of them a little extra it all evens out.

PesoPenguin · 13/12/2014 11:21

More on the kids which we prefer anyway.

JuniperTisane · 13/12/2014 11:26

We get nothing by choice. The boys get approximately 50 gazillion billion pounds spent on every plastic piece of crap and noisy toy available, much to their delight...

CointreauVersial · 13/12/2014 11:56

They spend way more on us. Their view is that the DCs get presents from everywhere, but we don't, so they like to spoil us. They are very generous.

Apricota · 13/12/2014 12:23

No more on kids and my other siblings!

OfficerKaren · 13/12/2014 12:34

My mum has stopped buying for adults and I'm glad.

pressone · 13/12/2014 12:42

My mum spends exactly the same amount on all her children and grandchildren (including step Grandchildren) and I mean EXACTLY - to the extent that someone always gets a penny or two pence piece in their present to make the total spend the same for each person! Youngest grandchild is 18 and oldest child (me) is 49 and she has always been the same.

SevenSwansASwimming · 13/12/2014 15:04

Mine spend a fortune on my DCs, tbh I wish they buy less. DH always thinks they're trying to out-do us, on DD1s first Christmas we bought her a dress and a £10 activity toy. They turned up with an enormous sack full of presents for her, she was only 4 weeks old Xmas Confused

shelfontheelf · 13/12/2014 15:04

Way more on the kids, but that's how it should be.

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larry5 · 13/12/2014 16:09

My parents have always spent more on their children than the grandchildren. They never spent a lot on any of us except nearly every year one of their children would get a bigger present or some extra money if they thought that we needed it. So some years I have been fortunate to get a cheque for up to £1000. They can't afford to do that every year and because of that none of us expect to get a large amount but it is a lovely surprise the year that you get it.

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Blessedandgrateful · 13/12/2014 16:16

I'm still not sure how I feel about my DP spending more on the DC.
Don't get me wrong I understand it ... I'm just not sure if I will do the same if and when I'm a grandmother.

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comeagainforbigfudge · 13/12/2014 16:28

More on the kids probably.

Us adults do a secret Santa so only one present each with a set budget. Much simpler.

Keep dropping hints that that's what dh's family should do as they spend ridiculous amounts of money (imo) on each other. And I say that because dh will, if he sees something he wants, well he just buys it. But I may be a bit of a grinch as I always think it's about the thought put into giving a gift tailored to a person rather than the amount given/recieved if that makes sense?

Oh I sound miserable. I don't mean to.
I'll skulk back to my grinch like cave

Xmas Smile
Mehitabel6 · 13/12/2014 16:28

The same.

marne2 · 13/12/2014 17:17

About the same, around £10-£20 I think.

Artandco · 13/12/2014 17:22

More on the children. Exactly how I would expect. They usually get us a bottle of champagne or similar, and buy the kids designer clothes, wooden toys rtc

PureMorning · 13/12/2014 17:22

Parents spend £40 on each of us kids and probably double on all the grandkids.
Pil do the same

Chandon · 13/12/2014 17:23

I am do glad the thought in the OP has never even occurred to me.

What a way to live, measuring up everyone and everything

OddBoots · 13/12/2014 17:26

Children get 'proper' presents and adults exchange little things from Poundland etc so they spend more on the children but that is fine, we treat them the same as they treat us and I like being on an equal footing.

GotToBeInItToWinIt · 13/12/2014 18:01

More on me and DH at the moment but DD is only 13 months. I imagine when she gets older she'll get more than us. Much more fun buying for kids at Christmas than adults! DH's parents are very unimaginative and always send us cash before Christmas which we have spent entirely on DD this year.