Do Your Parents Spend The Same Amount On You For Christmas As They Do Your Children?

[Blessedandgrateful]

Do your parents spend the same amount on you for Christmas as they do your children? Or do they spend less on you? What do you think / feel about this ?

[WhereTheWaldThingsAre]

I don't really know.
I think they might spend more on me - they tend to buy clothes and I suppose adult clothing is more expensive. But I've never really attempted to add up what anyone else spends - I think it's a bit rude tbh.

I feel it's nice if everyone in the family get a similar number of gifts under the tree, then the children get stockings as well.

[oobedobe]

My DDs are 6 & 2 and my parents definitely spend more on us than the kids. My mum knows I get the kids plenty and they don't need masses more toys etc so she probably gets them one nice thing each and then a few little extras/crafts for them to do. They then give us about 200 pounds to spend on ourselves or a nice meal out etc (they are big on treating yourself and probably think DH and I don't spend enough on ourselves).

I usually buy them something in the 100 pound range usually a gift card for a meal out/day out/experience rather than more 'stuff' but if we spent the day together (they are overseas) then we would spend more on fun pressies and surprises.

[squiggleirl]

My parents spend more on me than the the kids individually. My Mum buys what she wants to for each person. She always buys me something really nice, as she has this thing about somebody spoiling me every now and then, so she always to try to buy me something she know I wouldn't buy for myself, usually because of the cost. That said, Christmas is kind of crazy in my house, and my parents would buy each of the kids an outfit, and a bin bag full of presents, so it's not like they're losing out because I'm getting more.

[ChillySundays]

Presume my mum spends the same amount per family as my sister who has no children always gets a whopping great present compared to me.

[Mehitabel6]

If I get to be a grandmother I shall be carrying on getting my DCs and their partners a nice present. Grandchildren will depend in age- babies and toddlers don't need much. Christmas gets spoilt for DCs if there are too many presents- I would rather put the money in a saving scheme for them.

[attheendoftheday]

Both Dm and Dmil spend far more on the dc, only get us little things. I think that's normal tbh, we get our pleasure out of seeing the dc's pleasure.

[Blessedandgrateful]

Chandon - quite an uncalled for comment really.

I'm just curious really .

Your comment couldn't be further from the truth .

The kind of person I am is reflected in my user name.

In fact I actually prefer to give presents than to receive - I know that I spend quite a bit more on my family than is spent on me but it really doesn't bother me.
I'm curious as to what other people do and why because hopefully reading comments from others might open my mind up to somethings that I haven't thought of or considered before.

[WhoKnowsWhereTheMistletoes]

Less on us, which I'm quite grateful for to be honest as they buy quite a bit for the DCs and we have a small and already very full house. They might spend £30 or so on each DC (their only grandchildren) and buy DH and I each a book/DVD and some nice coffee or similar.

[violetwellies]

DP and I only have one parent between us.
He gets a big cheque, I get about £60 (cash or token) and Ds gets a medium cheque.
I like this as DPs cheque goes in the joint account and I get to spend mine, FIL knows this. I think he feels sorry for me.
We all get something small as well, chocolate, gloves or a booktype of things.

[WalkingInaWhippetWonderland]

My dp's get us a massive hamper between all of us, same amount of money each, then dc get a present as well.
Dil's get us a present each and equal amount of money each.

[sweetkitty]

In laws are both dead

Am no contact with my Mum so nothing for anyone

My Dad will buy for the DCs but nothing for us

Get nothing from my brother and SIL but the DCs get presents, we buy them presents as I think everyone you care about should get s little something.

[irregularegular]

My mum probably used to spend more on me and my sisters than the grandchildren actually. Less on her son in laws. The children got more presents but ours were more expensive - it's easier to find really nice but inexpensive things for small children than for adults.

My mum passed away this year so my dad is doing the Christmas shopping himself for the first time. He asked me for ideas and suggested a total budget which is less than the (slightly OTT) amount my mum used to spend. If he follows my suggestions he will spend more on the children than me.

But really, I would never, ever dwell on it!

[rainydaygirl]

I don't think it should come down to how much was spent but should be about the care and thought put into gifts. Personally I don't open gifts and start trying to calculate the cost.

[Hulababy]

Both sets of parents spend more on the grandchildren, though still but both me and dh nice gifts too.

I'm more than happy with this.

I also spend more on children at Christmas than I do adults. Children's gifts are much more fun to buy!

[NowBringUsSomeFuzzpiggyPudding]

Mine hate choosing presents so just prefer to give us some money. They don't care how we spend it although I'd say the bulk tends to go on the DCs.

Except this year they have written me a cheque for an eyewatering amount so we can get a tumble dryer :)

[fifi39]

Just presents for DS here- my parents always feel bad because it means I don't get anything at all (single parent and DS is only 5) but its the way it should be. I earn a wage so if I want anything I go out and buy it. I get much more out of watching people open and enjoy their presents then opening them myself.

[dashoflime]

Just a token present from Mum and Dad. Sometimes hand knitted which is nice. They don't spend a lot on DS either- but probably a bit more. They can't afford much and it also removes the pressure to recipricate- which I appreciate.

Mil and Fil: stupid amounts of money on both me, Dh and Ds. Probably the same amount. I think they plan to give Dh and I cash this year. I'm grateful but it feels awkward as well. I think they partially do it to reinforce their position as patriarch/ matriarch. Its unnessecary as we can earn enough ourselves for anything we want/need and yet they try to provide for us as though we were dependant children.

[Blessedandgrateful]

No I certainly don't dwell on it or calculate costs ... Just as I said curious .

Thankyou to everybody who took time to reply in a none judgmental manner

[TheMuppetsSingChristmas]

They spend more on my children, which as others have said, is exactly as it should be. Dh and I are grown adults and perfectly capable of looking after ourselves - once grand/children are on the scene I think christmas should really be about them.