Are we being stingy?

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DS will be 3 in a couple of weeks, DD is 1 shortly after and then there are only three weeks until Christmas. We expect that between them they will get a mountain of toys from family and friends.

We're planning on getting DS a Knights' castle for his birthday and a balance bike plus stocking filler for Christmas and DD a Fisher Price door for her birthday and a trike plus stocking fillers for Christmas. Both will get PJs for Christmas Eve.

However, I've been to the other parenting website for the first time today. There's a thread where people have taken photos of all the gifts for their DC and the number of gifts some people have bought is staggering to me.

As they both have winter birthdays we buy small toys and gifts throughout the year. We are trying not to spoil them, but are we being too stingy?

I haven't heard the word vulgar in donkeys years, you all sound like my nan,

What's your views on washing left on the line for a couple of days?

What's your views on washing left on the line for a couple of days?

People don't do this do they

I love a good Christmas thread, there's nothing so festive fa la la la la...

Hi yes the paints and glue were from ELC.
I think The orange paint is tesco though x

Tis the season to call folk vulgar lalalalalalala lalalalalalala

I've left my washing on the line, I'm vulgar but at least I don't have to iron it as it's always soft and crease free (after a few days of blowing in he wind).

123Jump Your saying what we have done but you dont think what you have said about us is vulgar????

Holy guacamole!!
OP, those photos say such a lot about the people that posted them....

We can spend what we like on christmas gifts, and i can tell you that our kids won't be getting anything like that, nor would they expect it. These people are so stupid, their kids won't give a crap about all that stuff? And what happens when they are teenagers, and into more expensive things. Will these kids expect massive piles of stuff on Christmas Day?
Pure ignorance, and such a disgusting way to behave. Photographing what you have bought your kids and posting it on the internet?!
I really have heard it all now.

The bits on bold.....you do not think that is a disgusting way to behave??? calling us stupid....telling us our kids wont give a crap and will just demand more, you called us ignorant......and you have the balls to sit there and say that WE have behaved disgusting??????

I've not called anyone vile, nor resorted to a pa. Calling a thread vulgar I'd hardly on the same scale. And saying I'm ashamed of myself for having a nasty thought is not quite as vicious as people are making me out to be.

And soot, dot picked at several of my posts, not just my first one. So yes, she was highlighting me and my comments.

And nothing in this thread has changed my mind. 30/40 presents for a child for one day is just way too much IMO. Regardless of value. Those who think its a reasonable amount I have no doubt will not be swayed by my opinion either.

slithytove your opinion on 30/40 presents etc has to be respected, I'm not here to try and change that opinion as we are all entitled to think and feel what we like.

I am simply sticking up for myself and the other ladies who were called 'idiots', 'stupid' 'ignorant' 'and behaving in a disgusting way'..

Bullies spring to mind x

As you should Laura. I'm just a bit pissed off that I seem to be singled out as one of those people (not by you) when I've said nothing of the sort.

But enough defending has gone on on this thread!

thank you.

It's a shame people feel the need to defend them-self, I just don't get the childish, bitchy name calling? We have had nothing like that on our cosy little thread x

I'm quite enjoying looking through the net mums thread, it's making me excited looking at the things people have bought and it gives me ideas what to buy my dc ( though I have really finished ), I want to join in with the thread but have already wrapped most of the presents so I can take a photo though I have photos of previous Christmas eves with piles of presents.

I spoil my kids at Christmas, it hasn't ruined them at all, there are many ways you can spoil children and I feel a lot of children are spoilt throughout the year with expensive items, holidays, trips out and designer clothes. My kids don't get all these things, we don't have expensive days out because they don't enjoy them, they can't cope with days out or fancy holidays due to them having autism, they find busy places too overwhelming, they have never been bowling, one has never been to the cinema, they can't handle going to a public pool and they can't do after school activities ( due to various reasons related to ASD ), they miss out on a lot of things and life itself is a challenge. How could spoiling them once a year ruin them?

Dd1 has friends that don't get much for Christmas but they get all the things mentioned above that my dd's can't have, they don't complain about not getting piles of gifts, they are grateful for what they get but they also have Christmas activities and trips to look forward too, they go to panto's and they get gifts from family and friends.

What I'm trying to say is each family is different, it doesn't mater if one person spoils their children with toys or if they spoil them with lots of activities and holidays, all that matters is that our children are loved and cared for.

marne2 you can upload wrapped stash pictures, plenty on there are. Loads of ladies are also showing off their creating wrapping skills (personally Il be using the brown wrap so that will be a disaster!)

I agree with you about the spoiling. There is a difference between spoilt and spoiling

Its true, we are all different....some people are clearly just to far stuck up their own bums to see that so just put others down x

Now, more importantly, has MN got any new permanent members out of this thread?

Check out Aibu, chat and active convos for some interesting threads :)

Could someone please link to the netmums thread.

You should be aware that there is a thread like this every Christmas on here.

thanks marne2 will do x

Oh Goodness HaroldLloyd....there are a few on netmums like this too but none calling people what we have been called x

soontobesix www.netmums.com/coffeehouse/seasonal-chat-arts-crafts-814/christmas-new-year-799/1170572-what-have-you-brought-so-far-pictures-213.html

Not sure if that worked....it is a fun christmas thread with no bitching or 'look what ive got' crap x

There is a difference between spoilt and spoiling

I have some uber rich relis, whose children are always being given something new, even if its a new massive climbing frame at the house where they will spend summer and lots of toys for the play room, then go back to normal house over seas, pool, riding and so on, always new bedding brought things like that. Xmas was never OTT though the mum could be on here scathing at the excess.

HOWEVER the point is the children are the sweetest most polite you would ever wish to meet, they are delights and not spoiled at all. I have seen them truly appreciate really simple things their very poor but hippy GP have given them at xmas, like a single bottle of bath gel and they love it.

Oh and all the dc had access to the latest tech, always new stuff lying around, as parents buy new and family has loads of stuff!

It's still November, there will be another thread like this before Christmas, probably in Aibu. Guaranteed.

Aibu to think that people who get their child more than one present from the pound shop are disgusting and spoiling their kids?

Aibu to think that anything less than 50 presents costing at least £1k means you don't love your kids?

One or the other

We have no money for Xmas presents and have three children and loads of rels to buy for? I am just putting it all off. I refuse to run up debt for Christmas, so my kids will get one present and stocking. I really could not care less what other children are getting. I think its all gone crazy.

KnittedJimmyChoos....exactly! It's the way we bring them up x

ohhhh Slithytove think i will avoid those ones then lol x

Slithy, yes yes.

I give my DC a satsuma, and then I make them GIVE IT AWAY to learn the value of giving, and then we make ornaments out of wood we found in the garden.

Netmums have piles, Mumsnet has competitive frugality.

Leelteloo - hope your kids enjoy their presents and have a lovely Christmas. I wish we could all agree to calm down on Christmas spending. Generally, we all go way over the top to a fairly ridiculous point - me included.