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Christmas

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what to buy for someone you'd really rather not buy anything for

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enormouse · 24/09/2013 18:01

I've been with DP almost 4 years and have bought his sister something every year from us both. It's usually something I've spent time and effort (not to mention money) picking out. It's starting to get demoralising now as its never reciprocated. For 2 years out of the 3 I have received nothing and for one year I got a nougat and nut chocolate selection (I'm extremely allergic to egg and nuts).

I have no idea what to do this year. My inner bitch says get the ungrateful cowbag nothing but this might precipitate world war 3 and I don't think that would be festive. I don't want to spend lots of money on her either but if it's not considered to her standards she will bitch and be highly unpleasant.

I'm not materialistic and am expecting nothing again this year, but it's really disheartening to be snubbed in front of DPs family by her after putting the effort into buying her something special. I find Christmas difficult anyway as I'm NC with my family and especially miss them over the festive period.

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NeverQuiteSure · 24/09/2013 18:05

Get her a nougat and nut chocolate selection?

But seriously, why buy for her if she clearly doesn't enjoy her gifts or want to reciprocate? Why not suggest you both not buy for each other this year? You could do it in a friendly way.

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enormouse · 24/09/2013 18:12

She wouldn't take getting nothing well. She's been quite spoilt by her parents and would expect something, regardless.

Nut chocolates sound appropriate though.

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Miserably · 24/09/2013 18:13

Don't get anything and if she makes a fuss just say you thought you weren't getting each other presents any more.

didireallysaythat · 24/09/2013 18:15

A goat from oxfam. At least someone will benefit.....

CaptainSweatPants · 24/09/2013 18:15

Oxfam goat

But really don't get why you bother if she doesn't get you anything

Smacks of pushover to me

CaptainSweatPants · 24/09/2013 18:16

at x post of goat

gamerchick · 24/09/2013 18:16

Moon sand.

Seriously though a donation to charity is just the ticket. She'll look like a right knob if she makes a fuss.

diplodocus · 24/09/2013 18:18

Why are you sorting out presents for your DP's sister? Surely that should be his problem? Does he get a decent present from her?

weallwearcapes · 24/09/2013 18:19

My advice is don't get her anything. It is your partner's responsibility to buy something for his sister.

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enormouse · 24/09/2013 18:19

It's more for the peace and quiet tbh. She would go into her full on unpleasant bitch mode if she got nothing and DP gets quite wound up about keeping the peace at Christmas.

I suggested getting nothing last year. It was shot down.

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MrsGSR · 24/09/2013 18:20

I've budgeted £5 for a little Bath/shower set for DHs step sister. She had never bought me or DH a gift but we love his step dad so we get her a token gift for his sake.

Frenchfemme · 24/09/2013 18:20

She's your DP's sister, so get him to sort it. Not your problem

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enormouse · 24/09/2013 18:20

Thanks for your advice though, I'll shunt the issue to him.

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TessTackle · 24/09/2013 18:20

Pound land chocolates.

Miserably · 24/09/2013 18:21

I'd just let DP sort it if he insists on getting her something

CaptainSweatPants · 24/09/2013 18:22

Does she buy for your dp?

How can she kick off when she doesn't buy anything

Can't you just say well where's my present then?

TeWiSavesTheDay · 24/09/2013 18:22

Booze? At least you can chuck it in trolley at supermarket, wrap then forget.

SIL never gets us anything either, this year will be her first with a job so i'll be intrigued to see if this changes anything.

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enormouse · 24/09/2013 18:23

Last minute kindle voucher bought on Christmas eve it is.

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weallwearcapes · 24/09/2013 18:24

Don't let it bother you, pass back all responsibility for the buying of presents for his family, seriously why the fuck us women seem to end up doing it all is beyond me, and I speak as someone who buys all the frigging cards and presents and yet all my family (DH & DCs as well as myself) are forgotten by the very same people who get all het up about us buying them and their kids presents.

SO I am no longer doing it, it makes me cross and I can't be bothered with is all anymore. I suggest you do the same. If I am questioned about it I am going to tell them to speak to their brother/son.

newgirl · 24/09/2013 18:25

Completely hand this to your do
Not your issue

newgirl · 24/09/2013 18:28

Completely hand this to your dp
Not your issue

TheHandbagOfGlory · 24/09/2013 18:31

This that should sort her out.

JerseySpud · 24/09/2013 18:31

Arsenic. Failing that hand over to DP

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enormouse · 24/09/2013 18:33

weallwearcapes that's it in a nutshell. I think I silently just took it on without realising. Possibly because I miss doing it for my family. But you're all right, not my problem at all.

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enormouse · 24/09/2013 18:35

Aaaaah……
I feel like a large weight (probably made out of nougat and nuts) has been lifted off me.

Not my problem. Tra la la

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