Coping with the death of my daughter

[scottishmamainlondon]

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My 13 year old daughter passed away on Monday. I am currently 30 weeks pregnant, and my daughter will never be around to meet her baby brother. I don’t know what to do. Ds16 is very high support needs autistic, often nonverbal, and he is really upset. She was my 9 year olds best friend, and my poor 3 year old barely knows what’s going on and just keeps crying and begging for Amelia. We’ve gently explained what happened but has anyone else gone through something similar?

I’m so sorry to hear this, no advice unfortunately but sending you and your family love 😢❤️

I'm so sorry for your loss.
Do you have much support? If not reach out to people, schools pastoral team, social services may be able to direct your DS to some specialised support via disability social workers.
If you need help tidying the house and doing day to day activities message family or friends or ask a neighbour. Whatever you do don't be scared to ask for help. Most people may not want to intrude but would gladly offer help if they know you want it ❤️

I'm so so sorry for the loss of your daughter 💐 the loss of your child is an indescribable pain and can leave you feeling so isolated because no-one understands what you're going through. Even close friends can struggle when confronted by your raw grief and people often avoid you.

This organisation, The Compassionate Friends, is a charity run by bereaved parents and they offer friendship, support and understanding. They saved my parents after the loss of my sister. Just being with others who know how you are feeling is comforting and you don't have to put on an act - you can talk honestly about how you feel.

Please do get in touch with them and find someone support 🙏
https://www.tcf.org.uk/

My heart is breaking for you OP, sending so much love

I’m so sorry for your loss. Things will be raw for a long time but please allow you and your family to grieve as much as possible. I turned to God in times of loss. Knowing my loved one was near him looked after by him waiting for us one day. You need to be really kind to yourself. Have you been given any support?

I'm so sorry for your loss ♥️

I am so sorry, love. 💐 Wishing you and your family love and strength to come through this terrible time together. Please tell us more about your daughter if you feel able xx

I am so so sorry for your loss. I know there are no words to make this any easier for you and your family. Reach out to anyone who offers practical help. Others have offered details of organisations who may offer assistance. Sending you love and hugs.

I'm so sorry for your loss.
If you happen to be in the West Midlands, then I'd recommend Edward's Trust ity
Supporting Bereaved Families Across the West Midlands

I'm sorry for your loss. I have been through similar and I know how devastating this is for siblings. It's a very long journey you've started. One of the hardest parts is that you can't take this away from the other children, you just have to go through it and support them through it. There are organisations that can help. I do think that counselling with specialist services helped my children at the time.

We also had a significant family event to deal with around the same time, as you do with the upcoming birth. It is hard and it will hurt that your daughter misses meeting her new sibling, but it does give you something to keep going with. You may find that helpful in the coming months and years.

I know there is nothing I can say to make it better, just offering solidarity having been there.

Oh my love, I'm so sorry for your loss, I can't imagine what you're going through xx. Do you want to talk about it with us??

Sending you love & strength, OP. I’m so very sorry for your loss. Everything must still be so raw and the only way through is time. Keep loving and supporting each other. Take any help offered by your family & friends. Cry if you need to, together or by yourself. Xx

Oh, your poor darling daughter, I am so sorry.

I don’t know whether it is possible to cope.

Just keep together, close together.

Sending love and strength.

I am so sorry for your family’s heartbreaking loss💔

I’m so sorry ❤️‍🩹 We went through similar family death. Seeing my son howling was another layer of heart break. All I can say is that going straight through the pain is easier, quicker and less drawn out than avoiding it and denying it. Cry, cry, and cry some more. Let the waves of pain wash over you, they will eventually subside. Massive hug 💐 xx