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Parents, what your reasons for not & for vaccinating your children?

304 replies

Sickofit189 · 04/05/2024 18:28

Anyone on here not vaccinate their children?
anyone on here do vaccinate ?
what are your reasons for both ?

did anyone lose trust in the NHS during covid after the vaccine roll out?

just an open chat!

OP posts:
ncforuchelp · 04/05/2024 22:57

I full believe that children of parents who choose not to vaccinate their children should have to wear signs around their neck saying "UNVACCINATED CHILD".

I do not want your unvaccinated kids around my children. Keep them at home in your own insane little tin hat conspiracy theorist bubble.

Abouttimeforanamechange · 04/05/2024 23:01

When I was a baby, polio still existed in the UK.

Same here. I was one of the first cohort to get the vaccine when it became generally available. I had it at school, my younger siblings at the welfare centre.

A girl in my year at secondary school had had polio. She caught it before the vaccine became available. She was lucky - it only left her wth a wasted leg.

People these days don't know how fortunate they are that diseases like polio, diphtheria, etc can be so easily prevented. So many babies and young children died in the past.

DrunkTinkerbell40s · 04/05/2024 23:05

I worked with a man in his 40s who was completely deaf and blind and was severely disabled due to his mother contracting measles while she was pregnant.
I would never risk that happening to my children.

I know these days vaccines are scary, because of the growing number of conspiracy theorists out there and the stories you hear of vaccine injuries, but I think anyone that doesn't vaccinate their children is selfish. They put their own kids at risk and kids who can't have vaccines and I think that's unforgivable.

SD1978 · 04/05/2024 23:11

Is the OP not replying because they have polio or TB........ that's right, you have neither because of vaccinations.....interesting you made an open statement, and never answered your own question, looking for a bun fight?

GHSP · 04/05/2024 23:14

I didn’t vaccinate my children because they are healthy enough to fight off childhood diseases, and I didn’t want to introduce chemicals into their bodies at such a young age. It didn’t seem natural.

Fortunately after about half a second of considering the hypothesis above, I came to my senses and decided I’d rather the kids avoided the chance of death or disability that comes with measles, polio, tetanus etc and that most of modern medicine doesn’t seem natural - and yet it does a better job than Saxon remedies involving horse wee and leather.

YouAreLiveOnTelevisionPleaseDoNotSwear · 05/05/2024 02:38

Yes of course. Dd is fully vaccinated because I'm not an irresponsible careless parent who relies on other sensible parents who vaccinated their kids to keep my child safe.

Cough @Italianita cough.

Hateliars34 · 05/05/2024 06:29

JuicyOrange01 · 04/05/2024 22:33

@fuckityfuckityfuckfuck are you serious? I’ve already said my kids are vaccinated ffs so I’m not anti-vax in the slightest.

why the F would I make this very real and traumatic story up! FFS. This is EXACTLY what I mean about not being able to even speak about vaccine damage on MN. It’s what left my dear friend feel so isolated and alone.

Vaccine damage is a real thing not some made up theory. It’s on the nhs website and everything.

is it rare? Yes. Does it happen? Yes.
So what are those poor parents that are in the minority suppose to do? Never talk about it. Just shut up, never mention it and crack on with their severely disabled child?

No. Vaccinations should be available to every single child. The risks of not being vaccinated should be told to every single parent of the terrible illnesses they’re being vaccinated against. But the information about the tiny risks should also be given and where to go for support should the rare chance of it happening occur.

Plane crashes are also very rare and you’ve got way more chance of dying on your way to the airport. But they still tell you at the beginning of a flight what to do should the plane crash. They don’t ignore the risks completely and shout ‘conspiracy theorists!’ At the mere mention of a potential crash despite it being very unlikely to happen.

Vaccines absolutely do not cause autism. Your story is extremely biased, and none of that child's doctors have told the parent that their child's autism was caused by vaccination. Because it wasn't.

Your friend made that up because she wants to blame something's for her daughter's autism.

Believe all the bullshit you want, but this has been well studied by experts.

SuziQuinto · 05/05/2024 06:32

Beginningless · 04/05/2024 19:32

I wouldn’t give my children the covid vaccine. No need and not well tested enough in my view. But other vaccines, yes.

So I'm guessing you're a biologist, or working in the field of vaccines? Or just making a guess?.

SuziQuinto · 05/05/2024 06:36

bakewellbride · 04/05/2024 20:11

The only person I know who is an anti-vaxxer also just brushes her daughter's teeth with water and not toothpaste 'because fluoride is a chemical' 😳that's the level of stupidity and neglect it can get to once you choose Facebook etc over medical professionals.

Well you can't argue with that level of stupidity. All this "unnatural" and "dangerous chemicals" nonsense. Poor child.

mrsbrightside1308 · 05/05/2024 06:38

JuicyOrange01 · 04/05/2024 20:56

Mine are vaccinated HOWEVER…

i Did witness myself something that made me realise vaccine damage is real and I know this will probably get deleted and I’ll be shot down but whatever.

My gorgeous intelligent friend who is a mum of 4 took her DD3 to get the mmr as she did her other kids. Her DD was walking, talking and your average toddler. I’d seen her at a toddler group the previous week. Honestly your average toddler.

Her DD got the vaccine and screamed holy hell as a lot of babies/toddler do. However she did not stop screaming. She screamed all the way home, after calpol, after cuddles, after everything. I remember this clearly because my DF put in the mum WhatsApp group about her DD screaming and asking if anytime else had experienced this and any tips.
Her DD eventually stopped screaming that night and just cried whilst rocking herself back and fourth to self soothe. That night her DD kept sobbing now again whilst rocking herself.
The next morning her DD had stopped crying but sstill continued to rock.
She stopped saying ‘mama’ but kept saying ‘juice’ which was odd to DF but she continued to give calpol and stayed in the house the day to let her rest.
72 hours later and her DD was still rocking back and fourth and was speaking less and less words other than ‘juice’.

DF took her DD to the GP within a few days as so worried. The GP was dismissive about how it couldn’t be related to the vaccine etc and must be a developmental leap or something to that nature.
DF couldn’t wrap her head around WTF was going on.
2 weeks later and her DD was entirely non-verbal and CONSTANTLY rocking back and fourth. She ended up going back to the GP and breaking down. Took in videos and everything of her DD literally hours and days before the vaccine.
The GP finally took her seriously and sent her to paediatrics for scans and tests and all sorts etc.

Needless to say DF DD is now almost entirely non-verbal and stims constantly back and fourth. She is severely autistic.

I wouldn’t have believed it myself but I saw her DD at playgroup the week before with my own eyes and saw her a few weeks later. She is a completely different child.

You can’t tell me that the little girl who was dancing around in a Cinderella dress to frozen at playgroup, turned severely disabled practically overnight and the mmr had NOTHING to do with it?!! Then wtf was it?!

My very intelligent, funny, kind and educated friend has been gaslit by medical professionals and it was horrendous.

She is no ‘conspiracy’ theorist. Her previous kids were vaccinated hence why she got her third vaccinated. Shes in fact very strait laced, no nonsense.

I know people don’t like to hear it on mumsnet and prior to this first hand experience I would’ve commented the same. But I know what I saw.

Therefore I honestly think these discussions need to be had and not automatically shot down as crazy conspiracy theories. It does a disservice to people like my dear friend who are then left isolated and thinking their going crazy when shit happens.

This is exactly what happened to my son 17 years ago now. People are so harsh with throwing the term anti vaxer and conspiracy theories around but most have not seen the true damage vaccines can do to the select few who have reactions to them.

SuziQuinto · 05/05/2024 06:40

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No, her opinion has scientific evidence to support it. Yours does not.

FriendlyNeighbourhoodAccountant · 05/05/2024 06:41

I vaccinated mine because I'm not an idiot.

The only reasons people avoid vaccinating their kids are because:

a) their GP has advised against a specific vaccine, such as with egg allergy sufferers (fine).

b) they're idiots

SuziQuinto · 05/05/2024 06:48

c) they are so arrogant they think that they can judge the testing and efficacy of vaccines better than people who do it for a living

FriendlyNeighbourhoodAccountant · 05/05/2024 06:49

SuziQuinto · 05/05/2024 06:48

c) they are so arrogant they think that they can judge the testing and efficacy of vaccines better than people who do it for a living

Nailed it

sheoaouhra · 05/05/2024 06:52

VeraForever · 04/05/2024 20:36

Polio is still in my mind after decades, as well as TB ( prevalent in my part of the midlands where I grew up.)

We get complacent after a number of years and we do start to wonder but vaccinations are there to protect not just our children, but society as a whole.

These are not historical diseases, and many polio survivors are still with us. I see a relative daily who has no use in her legs due to polio. She is in her 50s and has been paralysed for 40 years now.

And as a teacher in London, I see students with TB every year, and am frequently getting sent to hospital for checks myself, as I have been exposed from my tutor group

Italianita · 05/05/2024 06:56

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curious79 · 05/05/2024 06:59

Decided to refuse the standard vaccinations and follow the schedule I had been subject to when younger (have every record). There are a shockingly huge amount of vaccines given now and the shit in them (eg formaldehyde) is shocking. Then read ‘Dissolving Illusions’ and ‘Turtles all the way down’ to find that the vast majority of vaccines have absolutely no efficacy, plus were not even associated with removal of said diseases. Instead improvements in public health and sanitation and diet were. Vaccine clinical trials are a sham. So decided against vaccines in entirety. Declined HPV for my DD as two girls on our street are impacted post vaccine - one with lupus, one with POTS. Day of vaccination at her school one of the girls ended up being unable to walk. The idea that adverse events are really rare is just absurd. Look at children today with ADHD, autism, allergies, asthma etc through the roof. We’re doing something wrong.

SuziQuinto · 05/05/2024 07:04

Or, @curious79 you could actually inform yourself properly instead of believing conspiracy theories.
You know about the content and make up of every vaccine? You have tested these ingredients rigorously in lab conditions for years have you?
Open a book - one written by people who actually know something.

ASighMadeOfStone · 05/05/2024 07:06

I don't actually think the OP is trying to stir up anti-vax nonsense. She has a 4 month old baby, and is probably worried about possible side effects to the standard immunization programme jabs.

Other posters however clearly have an anti-vax agenda.

Interesting how much of the anti-vax rhetoric either begins with "all my children are vaccinated but <insert horror story>" or "have a friend who has a cousin who knows someone at work whose neighbour..."

And even more interesting, given the tiny tiny number of actually proven vaccine damaged people in the country, so many of their acquaintances always find these threads.

SuziQuinto · 05/05/2024 07:06

Here's a book to read, @curious79 - Vaxxers by Sarah Gilbert and Catherine Green.
They actually worked on a vaccine and explain the ingredients.

LettersOfTheAlphabet · 05/05/2024 07:07

JuicyOrange01 · 04/05/2024 20:56

Mine are vaccinated HOWEVER…

i Did witness myself something that made me realise vaccine damage is real and I know this will probably get deleted and I’ll be shot down but whatever.

My gorgeous intelligent friend who is a mum of 4 took her DD3 to get the mmr as she did her other kids. Her DD was walking, talking and your average toddler. I’d seen her at a toddler group the previous week. Honestly your average toddler.

Her DD got the vaccine and screamed holy hell as a lot of babies/toddler do. However she did not stop screaming. She screamed all the way home, after calpol, after cuddles, after everything. I remember this clearly because my DF put in the mum WhatsApp group about her DD screaming and asking if anytime else had experienced this and any tips.
Her DD eventually stopped screaming that night and just cried whilst rocking herself back and fourth to self soothe. That night her DD kept sobbing now again whilst rocking herself.
The next morning her DD had stopped crying but sstill continued to rock.
She stopped saying ‘mama’ but kept saying ‘juice’ which was odd to DF but she continued to give calpol and stayed in the house the day to let her rest.
72 hours later and her DD was still rocking back and fourth and was speaking less and less words other than ‘juice’.

DF took her DD to the GP within a few days as so worried. The GP was dismissive about how it couldn’t be related to the vaccine etc and must be a developmental leap or something to that nature.
DF couldn’t wrap her head around WTF was going on.
2 weeks later and her DD was entirely non-verbal and CONSTANTLY rocking back and fourth. She ended up going back to the GP and breaking down. Took in videos and everything of her DD literally hours and days before the vaccine.
The GP finally took her seriously and sent her to paediatrics for scans and tests and all sorts etc.

Needless to say DF DD is now almost entirely non-verbal and stims constantly back and fourth. She is severely autistic.

I wouldn’t have believed it myself but I saw her DD at playgroup the week before with my own eyes and saw her a few weeks later. She is a completely different child.

You can’t tell me that the little girl who was dancing around in a Cinderella dress to frozen at playgroup, turned severely disabled practically overnight and the mmr had NOTHING to do with it?!! Then wtf was it?!

My very intelligent, funny, kind and educated friend has been gaslit by medical professionals and it was horrendous.

She is no ‘conspiracy’ theorist. Her previous kids were vaccinated hence why she got her third vaccinated. Shes in fact very strait laced, no nonsense.

I know people don’t like to hear it on mumsnet and prior to this first hand experience I would’ve commented the same. But I know what I saw.

Therefore I honestly think these discussions need to be had and not automatically shot down as crazy conspiracy theories. It does a disservice to people like my dear friend who are then left isolated and thinking their going crazy when shit happens.

We had an almost identical experience with our youngest, EXCEPT it wasn't after vaccinations. He is severely autistic and had a big regression, which is a very common sign of autism. He also lost all his speech, and eye contact, and some physical skills too. It was like the light behind his eyes dimmed and completely switched off over a period of 2 weeks. Absolutely heartbreaking, but not related to any vaccinations. Just a cruel manifestation of autism 💔

SuziQuinto · 05/05/2024 07:10

@LettersOfTheAlphabet that must have been very shocking and distressing. What a painful thing to experience. 💐

TheaBrandt · 05/05/2024 07:13

Experience within our family of the life changing damage that can be caused by mumps and measles. Imagine having to explain to a child they are deaf for life which could have been prevented but wasn’t because as a parent you were abit thick and gullible?

LettersOfTheAlphabet · 05/05/2024 07:15

SuziQuinto · 05/05/2024 07:10

@LettersOfTheAlphabet that must have been very shocking and distressing. What a painful thing to experience. 💐

Thank you. I find it hard to believe there is not more research/understanding of the causes of regressional autism. Doctors will say the autism was always there, but having seen months of development wiped out over a short period, to my mind it feels more akin to dementia? I really hope that in the future it is better understood and that regression can be reversed 🙏

Simplepink · 05/05/2024 07:18

Fully vaccinated except Covid. I she interested to know how common this is. Everyone I know is completely pro vaccine but none of us got our kids done for Covid. Did all get the first 3 ourselves though as adults.

i do also agree with someone up thread that although rare a tiny minority do get serious side effects to and can really be shouted down.
my mothers cousin going back 50 years or so was left disabled after the whooping cough vaccine. Her father was in the army and cause it was some kind of army related vaccine program the army admitted “responsibly” and the family received some kind of payout