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DD (14) doesn't want braces

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TerrificEchidnaSpikes · 18/10/2023 08:51

Several years ago at a routine checkup, our regular NHS dentist observed that DD might be developing a slight overbite and referred her for orthodontic assessment. We've had plenty of subsequent dental checkups and nothing more was said about this possible overbite. Recently (I'd practically forgotten about it) we suddenly got a phone call from orthodontist clinic saying we had finally reached the top of the waiting list, offering us an appointment.

At the appointment it didn't feel much like an assessment but more like "this will be happening" IYSWIM. We were told that there would be several appointments even before the braces are fitted (records, extractions, etc) and then regular appointments for the next 2 years. I had braces myself as a teen so I wasn't surprised, just nodded along and made notes.

But after we came out of the clinic, DD said that she doesn't want the braces. She says she is perfectly happy with her teeth and doesn't think she has a significant overbite (I argued the point that she's not the dentist, which she conceded). But her main objection is that she's now into GCSE years and doesn't want to miss so many lessons - apparently all her friends who have/had braces had them in lower years. She is absolutely adamant.

For context, the orthodontic clinic is not near school and would require huge chunks of travel time/disruption (no direct public transport links, would always require one of us to drive her). I did suggest we could mitigate it a bit by choosing very early or late appointments and trying to grab holiday appointments where possible.

DH and I are torn. On the one hand, clearly essential healthcare is the most important thing. On the other hand, how can we be sure that this is essential healthcare, and thus whether it overrides GCSE education? And finally, neither of us would want to make DD have this treatment unless it really is essential.

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BreakTheChain · 19/10/2023 09:35

Is it actually essential health care? Will the over bite get worse and effect her eating or speech? I have a natural over bite even after braces and the orthodontist said he couldn't eliminate it completely or it wouldn't sit right. If she doesn't want it and it isn't essential don't do it. She can pay for braces as an adult if needed. They will try and get her in ASAP as once you over a certain age you can't get it free

Mischance · 19/10/2023 09:46

EarthlyNightshade · 19/10/2023 08:57

NHS treatment would probably not have been offered to any of you in this case.
NHS usually treats medical need not cosmetics. These days it's hard enough to get an NHS dentist, let alone get orthodontic work offered.

There was no dental need for DD1, none at all - purely cosmetic. She was fine with how she looked so said No.

The other members-by-marriage of my family who have a slight overbite are very happy with how they look and have refused the offered treatment.

One of my children did have a complicated dental need, but we sought a second opinion and the problem was solved without the use of a brace.

It worries me that children are told they need a brace because their looks are not up to standard - what a message to send to a young person!

It is also about fashion. Many young people with braces now would not have been assessed as needing them when I was a child.

EarthlyNightshade · 19/10/2023 10:59

Mischance · 19/10/2023 09:46

There was no dental need for DD1, none at all - purely cosmetic. She was fine with how she looked so said No.

The other members-by-marriage of my family who have a slight overbite are very happy with how they look and have refused the offered treatment.

One of my children did have a complicated dental need, but we sought a second opinion and the problem was solved without the use of a brace.

It worries me that children are told they need a brace because their looks are not up to standard - what a message to send to a young person!

It is also about fashion. Many young people with braces now would not have been assessed as needing them when I was a child.

I agree with you on this, but the OP child is being offered it on the NHS which likely means more than just cosmetic.
Parents have to pay out thousands for braces if they are just doing it for fashion. Perhaps some might but generally people who are wearing braces do need them.

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