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DD has a bruise that isn't going away.

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SaulGood · 10/06/2015 12:03

8yo dd complained a few weeks ago that she had a bruise on her inner thigh. She said she couldn't remember how she did it. It looked very much like a mark made by her little brother pinching her which on occasion, when frustrated, he does. He also tends to aim for her thigh or the tops of her arms. She's also as active as most 8yos and rides her scooter everywhere, occasionally crashing and bruising her legs. I put it down to that.

A week ago she mentioned it was still there and I had a good look and it had faded to a browny colour but I could feel a lump directly underneath it. Around the size of a pea. She said it was sore.

A week later and it's still there, same size, sort of a reddy colour but she says it's more sore than it was. She does admit though that she squeezes it because there's a lump underneath it and it 'feels funny'. I don't know if that's exacerbating things.

I have a terrible health anxiety, particularly where the dc are concerned and I am jumping to the absolute worst conclusions. Because that helps, obviously. Hmm

She's not ill, not tired or not herself. She's perfectly well. She's also had other run of the mill, fell off her scooter or got whacked with a golf club bruises in the last couple of weeks and they've cleared up within a couple of days. It's just this bruise on her thigh.

I've made a GP appointment for after school today as it's preying on my mind but is there a chance this is absolutely nothing and my sky high anxiety and terror is unnecessary? I need to stop googling.

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Eppia · 25/08/2017 20:13

The waiting must be awful, but what the HCP said is genuinely reassuring and you should definitely focus on that! Hopefully you're going to have a really busy few days so as to keep you from spiralling into panic? That's the only way I can cope with my health anxiety when it's bad.

LetBartletBeBartlet · 26/08/2017 20:49

As part of my job I've hadto go through all of the test results from the weird lumps and bumps that they've removed from adult patients.

Out of piles and piles of letters (daily) the overwhelming majority are benign.

Will you have any time to explore Cambridge whilst you are over for the tests? A trip to the botanical gardens/museum (or similar) might just give you a bit of a positive distraction during the day itself Smile

SaulGood · 27/08/2017 10:56

Awesome name Bartlet. The West Wing is keeping me distracted in an evening when the anxiety is at its worst. Annoyingly DH is on late shifts (copper) and not getting home until midnight (or 5am this morning as it all kicked off) so I can't watch without him as that's just rude. I'm on ep 16 of s1 and counting down to Mandy bogging off.

Not sure if I'll have time in Cambridge. MRI is at 9.45 and they're trying to fit her into afternoon clinic while we're there so they've ticked all boxes. I'd like to go to Kettles Yard if we have time or we have friends in Impington we could visit too. I think we'll play it by ear.

Misdee, lovely to see you. That all sounds difficult with DD? How is she? And the rest of the tribe? I don't believe I've seen you on here for ages.

Scrambled, it's fecking terrifying right? Child + lump + medical urgency = failure to cope. I just need to KNOW. That's a lie btw. I just need it not to be happening. Glad it upped and bogged off on its own.

Begging, the drama doodah was at Open and really very good. DD was Mis Hannigan in a condensed version of Annie. She loved it.

Apuski, glad it was nothing but I remember that hideousness as a child. When parents worry then you know it's bad. Hence keeping it from DD.

Eppia and Freezing, thank you for posting both of you. I know I'm replying sporadically but I'm trying not to dwell iyswim. It's the holidays and there's lots to enjoy.

Seeing my lovely brother today, the ILs for lunch tomorrow and then work on Tuesday. DH has taken dependents leave for Weds so that he can look after ds at the hospital and I'm not distracted and can support DD.

DD is tickety boo still. Had her long hair chopped off into a v short graduated bob. She wanted Tilda Swinton hair but we compromised. She also wants to paint her bedroom black and purple. Not sure what the compromise is for that...

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misdee · 27/08/2017 11:27

I've been about. Mainly hiding in special needs due to dd6 long long diagnosis journey.

Rest of the tribe are good.

SaulGood · 27/08/2017 13:00

I hope you don't mind me searching misdee. I had no idea all that was going on with dd6. So many appointments and still not all diagnosed. What a time for you. In the nicest possible way, you couldn't make it up. Everything you've been through medically is incredible and you keep on keeping on with your tribe. You must be running on empty. I remember you mentioning going to college at some point. Is that still on the cards?

I'm currently on the ceiling. DD has athletes foot (every ruddy summer) and yesterday she picked it. It's infected now. Pus and redness. I've decided her body can't fight infection and we're doomed. I'm sobbing in the bedroom. FFS. I've done the sensible drawing round it with a sharpie thing but I'm fucking panicking.

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misdee · 27/08/2017 13:06

I don't mind searching x. They are pretty certain it's leukodystrophy now. It's just waiting on genetic results.
No college this year sadly, it may be put on hold til dd6 starts school in 2019, which isn't ideal, but we have a lot of appointments still and mainstream schooling may not be an option really.

Hope her foot clears up, these children are sent to test us. Hope the health anxiety lessens after her appointment and you can go forwards with some answers at last.

KurriKurri · 27/08/2017 13:38

Still thinking of you all my lovely, and hoping next week brings some reassuring answers.

Athletes foot is a pain - but feet are easy to get infected, and maybe she is just a little rundown after the noro bug you had on holiday ?

I think Kettles Yard might be closed for refurbishing/repairs atm - which is a shame as it is really lovely and peaceful there. Botanic Gardens also nice for a quiet potter, or just a nice walk along the backs is gorgeous on a warm sunny day, if you have any spare time.

Try not to panic (easy to say I know) and weekends are worse because everything goes on hold. I know they are cliches, but when I was having my chemo etc. a nurse told me to take it a day at a time and to deal with what you know - try not to let your mind go diving off into the unknown, handle each thing as it comes along. Sending huge love xxxx

SaulGood · 27/08/2017 13:48

Thank you lovely Kurri. It is worse at a weekend, you're right. Today I'm not coping at all. Her foot has tipped me back over into panicking. I drew round it 90 minutes ago and it hasn't spread. She did pick it quite comprehensively and had been barefoot in the garden yesterday.

Oh I don't know. I just want this over with. I feel sick constantly.

Luckily Cambridge is lovely so we'll find something. Bugger about Kettles Yard though. I love it there.

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Hassled · 27/08/2017 15:47

I wish I had something constructive to say - I do recognise that sick with anxiety feeling, when there's nothing you can to do make time move faster or for it all to just go away. I had various biopsies last year - all non-sinister, but that constant, nagging, awful anxiety absolutely floored me. Good news the foot redness isn't spreading - she probably just picked it with slightly grubby hands/stepped on some mud and caused a reaction - but you could do without the additional reason to stress. Keep watching West Wing - it serves its purpose very well as another world you can lose yourself in, albeit temporarily.

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SaulGood · 27/08/2017 17:41

Then nature is a git. Grin

The red area has lessened and the central pus-filled bit has burst on it's own. I've cleaned it and liberally applied germolene. I'm still at peak anxiety though.

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ShowOfHands · 27/08/2017 17:41

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aleC4 · 27/08/2017 19:05

Oh SoH, you're still really going through it aren't you?
Sorry dd has given another thing to stress about. Let's hope you get sone answers this week.
(Your dd's hair looks fab by the way!)

SaulGood · 27/08/2017 19:41

I've failed that course. Twice. No more re-takes. Grin

Her hair is lovely. A little grown up too. She's very pleased with it.

Current distraction chez Showy is WhereTF is ds's tablet. It's the end of the world apparently. He NEEDS to check Minecraft.

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PandorasXbox · 29/08/2017 11:31

New to thread but wanted to offer a hand hold. How are you today?

SaulGood · 29/08/2017 13:39

Hello Pandora (cool name btw).

Today I'm okay actually. I think because I know tomorrow that something is happening, I am not so powerless if that makes sense. Not long to wait until we're closer to knowing what's happening.

To balance it out, yesterday I was a tearful wreck of course!

We're off to the coast right now for a meander. Operation Distraction.

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beggingbehind · 29/08/2017 19:18

Ahhh Opens great! 2 of my DS's go there all the time one was at a drop in today!

LexieLulu · 29/08/2017 19:47

Good luck for tomorrow OP, fingers crossed for your daughter x

lazycrazyhazy · 29/08/2017 19:50

Will be thinking of you tomorrow.

PandorasXbox · 29/08/2017 19:56

Yes the waiting is hard. Hope you get a good nights sleep, will be thinking of you and DD tomorrow.

Eppia · 29/08/2017 22:30

Sleep well. Not long now, and I have fingers and toes crossed that you will be back soon with an ecstatic "It's benign" post!
Thinking of you all.

Elpheba · 29/08/2017 22:36

Fellow Norfolker here- will be thinking of you tomorrow Flowers

aleC4 · 29/08/2017 22:49

Good luck tomorrow SoH, will be thinking of you all.

misdee · 30/08/2017 00:09

Hope today gives you some answers x

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