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DD has a bruise that isn't going away.

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SaulGood · 10/06/2015 12:03

8yo dd complained a few weeks ago that she had a bruise on her inner thigh. She said she couldn't remember how she did it. It looked very much like a mark made by her little brother pinching her which on occasion, when frustrated, he does. He also tends to aim for her thigh or the tops of her arms. She's also as active as most 8yos and rides her scooter everywhere, occasionally crashing and bruising her legs. I put it down to that.

A week ago she mentioned it was still there and I had a good look and it had faded to a browny colour but I could feel a lump directly underneath it. Around the size of a pea. She said it was sore.

A week later and it's still there, same size, sort of a reddy colour but she says it's more sore than it was. She does admit though that she squeezes it because there's a lump underneath it and it 'feels funny'. I don't know if that's exacerbating things.

I have a terrible health anxiety, particularly where the dc are concerned and I am jumping to the absolute worst conclusions. Because that helps, obviously. Hmm

She's not ill, not tired or not herself. She's perfectly well. She's also had other run of the mill, fell off her scooter or got whacked with a golf club bruises in the last couple of weeks and they've cleared up within a couple of days. It's just this bruise on her thigh.

I've made a GP appointment for after school today as it's preying on my mind but is there a chance this is absolutely nothing and my sky high anxiety and terror is unnecessary? I need to stop googling.

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SaulGood · 22/08/2017 15:33

Afternoon everyone.

I'm sorry not to update more recently. The joys of driving home from Devon, unpacking and going back to work have kept us more than busy.

Thank you for all of your lovely messages. bundleof, that your ds got through his treatment and is happy and healthy is the best bloody thing I've read all week. It must have been a very difficult time for all of you. It's ruddy fantastic that he's well. Smile

begging, I suspect that dd is up for a similar pattern of interventions. I spoke to the paediatric registrar on the same day as the consultant. She had rung in order to book dd in for her contrast MRI (not until the 30th) and to explain the procedure a bit more. I think I kept her on the phone for half an hour asking a lot of questions. Thankfully, she was lovely and extremely patient. It seems that there will be one of three outcomes after her MRI:

  1. They know it's definitely malignant and they'll make a plan there and then
  2. They know it's definitely benign and they'll discuss whether to treat/remove accordingly
  3. Most likely given her history and the usual way things pan out, they still won't know and she'll need a biopsy under general anaesthetic

We're still in limbo I suppose. Tomorrow the specialists will look at her original ultrasound and MRI and I'll get a call from the consultant with an update. She did say that she should have more of an idea of what she's dealing with following that and she'd let me know asap. So at the moment I think most of my anxieties are centered around tomorrow. I'm not really looking after myself properly. I can't eat a full meal and I'm not really sleeping.

DD, as ever, is tickety boo. She's not here atm, gone to stay with her best friends for 2 nights. She has phoned twice to tell me what a great time they're having. I believe they're out in the woods den building at the moment.

I appreciate people listening and responding still. The kindness of strangers is keeping me going. Last week before I knew what ds had was noro and I was about to succumb to it, we were driving through Combe Martin (we had cabin fever and had been to sit on top of a deserted hill for half an hour as though no longer quarantined, didn't want to risk being around people). In that way you do with noro, I very suddenly felt very ill. We stopped near some houses so that I could get out of the car and be very, very ill (thankfully in the bucket we'd taken to carrying round with us as a precaution after DS's middle of the night escapades). A very, very lovely woman who lived in one of the houses came out and brought water, kitchen roll, offered us the use of a bathroom etc. She was blooming lovely and I like to think that she represented Mumsnet in a lot of ways. Just a lovely, caring woman who didn't think twice about offering support even though I was a bit of a pathetic, heaving mess. A nice metaphor for this thread I thought.

Kurri, wotcha matey. I hope you continue to be happy. Earlier in the thread (2 years ago), you were in the States iirc and had just had your decree absolute. How are you? Your children (not really children are they!)?

I should name check you all. I am grateful to every single person who has taken the time to respond. You're all brillig.

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KurriKurri · 22/08/2017 15:44

I'm fine Showy - home in UK now, happily divorced, we sold our jointly owned house and I bought a little terrace in Lowestoft and got myself a gorgeous little puppy. Kids are good - DS is married now.

Sending more love and good vibes for the consultant call tomorrow, and hope you get a few more answers so you know where you stand with all this. Is all her treatment scans etc going through Addenbrooks ? - They are bloody good there, she'll be in good hands. Sending huge hug to you, DH and children, stay strong lovely xxxx

MadisonAvenue · 22/08/2017 15:52

Thinking of you and wishing your daughter all the best Flowers

IrritableBitchSyndrome · 22/08/2017 16:35

Still keeping an eye out for the 'It's benign and DD is fine' message which I'm convinced will be here in the next few weeks. ;) Try to look after yourself and eat properly. I know it's hard when you're stressed but you need to be fighting fit. You could try something like Berocca or similar to keep your B vits topped up, as you need extra when stressed. Take care. Xx

MrsCK · 22/08/2017 18:38

Just checking in to let you know you're in my thoughts and prayers op

thisismadness77 · 22/08/2017 20:23

Hope you've got gin. Xx.

ShowOfHands · 22/08/2017 22:04

I've got warm milk? [Teetotal]

Loostarft Kurri. About as east as it gets right? Tell me more about your puppy. Big small? Boy girl? Congratulations to DS. Do you see plenty of him? It's been a bumpy few years of highs and lows for you.

All treatment for now is via Addenbrooks as they're the specialists.

Thanks MrsCK, that's v kind. You too Madison. Your good thoughts are gratefully received.

I pray I can write an it's benign message. I really do.

I might look into berocca. Or gin.

SaulGood · 22/08/2017 22:05

I'm incapable of using the right name when full of fish and chips. Evidently.

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KurriKurri · 22/08/2017 23:01

Yep - I'm as east as an eastern thing Grin DS and DDIL also live in Lowie so we see each other lots (DS and I go to a pottery class together every week) Puppy is a daft little boy, five months old now - poodle crossed with Jack Russel, and I love him to bits.

I take berocca to keep my vits up (warning it makes your wee temporarily orange !).

Waiting with you to hear that all is well and your gorgeous girl is fine. Waiting is the shittest most stressful thing so anything that helps you get through it you go for it. Loads of people on here rooting for the Showy family. Always here if you want to chat - PM me if there's anything at all I can do at any time that's useful Lovely - I'm not far from you xxx

2017SoFarSoGood · 23/08/2017 02:18

Hope you are getting a little bit of sleep, Show. I know your imagination has taken you to all of the darkest places already. So scary what our minds can create.

Not long now. Then you will know what can be known, and move on from that. Your medical team sounds amazing.

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CharlieBoo · 23/08/2017 04:05

Thinking of you x

Blastandtroph · 23/08/2017 08:16

Thinking of you and your daughter. Hoping today, after the medical review of the scans, brings a clearer plan going forward Flowers

YouRat · 23/08/2017 09:36

Flowers. Thinking of you.

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CuppaTeaAndAJammieDodger · 23/08/2017 11:01

Oh you poor lot - what tough times. Thinking of you all and hope you get some reassuring news from lovely consultant today.

MrsSthe3rd · 23/08/2017 12:49

Thinking of you all today Flowers

Eppia · 23/08/2017 18:21

You sound a fantastic mother. If you have health anxiety, it's really bloody hard to let the DC out of your sight. It's great your DD has gone to stay with her friend - good for you. I hope the anxiety has not been too bad today.

TractorTedTed · 23/08/2017 19:54

Thinking of you today, and hoping that the update brought reassuring news. Must be so hard being in limbo like you are at the moment. Flowers

Chocolatekeepsmesane · 23/08/2017 20:16

How are you doing tonight?

umberellaonesie · 23/08/2017 21:03

Have just read the whole thread and just wanted to send my best wishes to you and you DD.
Your kindness and consideration is shining through and I am a great believer we attract what we give out. That lady helped you when you were unwell because you would have helped her or me.
Keep on keeping on and hope MRI goes well. Xx

Tour · 23/08/2017 21:14

Sending lots of best wishes and hoping that you have very good news when you have the MRI

SaulGood · 23/08/2017 21:23

Evening you lovely bunch.

No word from the hospital today. I didn't want to ring them as I had no idea what time they finish their afternoon clinics and rounds and my parents were over for dinner, plus dd had her best friends (b/g twins) round. I figured their Mum had put up with their antics for 2 nights (1am bedtime they claim after eclipse excitement and midnight chats) and deserved a break. They wrote a play along with 5yo ds and performed it admirably. The boys were damsels in distressed dresses (I really have no idea) and the girls were post-apocalyptic cool kids (nerds). Really, I've read Joyce which was less screwy cerebral.

Sorry not to know more. I ummed and aahed about bothering them and then it got late. I'm kicking myself a bit for not calling earlier but actually, I think it's healthy that I was busy and able to devote time to DD and rl. I'll call tomorrow. DD is off to another sleepover tomorrow after a daytime drama club thing. DH and I don't have conversations anymore. We check arrangements for dd's social life and make arrangements accordingly and occasionally, one of us asks "wtf is for dinner then?"

I has tea and cake with a rl person today too and told her everything. She's a good friend and a nurse so a lovely sounding board who got it iyswim. I feel DH and MN have to listen to me way too much. It really helped. Plus, you know, cake.

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SaulGood · 23/08/2017 21:26

Oh the grammar in that post was rubbish. I blame small phone screens and Donald Trump. Well done if it made any sense whatsoever to you.

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Hassled · 23/08/2017 21:41

Oh Showy - I'm so sorry you've had all this. I always remember your description of your DD drawing a picture of an elephant up a tree (have I got that right?), and the image has stayed with me. Everything is crossed for you and for her. Lots of love.

Hassled · 23/08/2017 21:43

It made perfect sense but you're still right to blame Donald Trump.