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Intimate hygiene in girls

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cleanandfresh · 19/11/2010 23:23

Yeah I know crap title and I apologise in advance for "twee" terms BUT I am genuinely a bit confused about cleaning my little girl's "bits" (and I am calling them bits for brevity's sake rather than getting into labia major and minoria etc...)

So my girl is nearly 3 and she has a bath before bedtime most nights (except Fridays). I know that soap is not a good thing for the intimate regions so I don't get her to soap there but do remind her to "swish her twinkle" (yeah shoot me!) along with swishing her tummy and legs etc.

I have noticed these past few days that she has white, creamy deposits in the folds and around the top of her clitoral hood and wondered whether I should be trying to wash these away. She's been ferreting around this area occasionally and has said "look it's creamy" but it doesn't seem to bother her. The other day she was pretending to be a baby and have her nappy changed so I took the opportunity to get some cotton wool and try to really clean in this area but she really didn't like me doing it and I must admit it didn't feel right.

I guess I worry about thrush but I don't think it is and then I worry about messing about where I should just leave well alone. But then I worry about being too coy and maybe I should be actively encouraging her to "clean" there a bit more. I know on Mumsnet there is a small sector that think any female scent or secretions should be disinfected away and I don't want to fall into that trap - but I do want to keep my daughter healthy and instill a healthy, positive attitude towards her genitalia. I always use the words beautiful and fresh in relation to her body as in my own childhood I was very much given a negative impression of that area of my body.

Mothers of girls please help me out here Smile

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cleanandfresh · 20/11/2010 20:18
Grin
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AitchTwoOh · 20/11/2010 20:19
thelibster · 20/11/2010 20:20

OUCH! Aitch that was below the belt. I was one of the ones who said she might be American Blush Maybe she'd just got some of her terminology from American websites? I'll comfort myself with that thought anyway! Wink It was the "platelets" that convinced me in the OP btw. Someone had obviously been googling pretty seriously to come up with that! IMO Grin

HalfTermHero · 20/11/2010 20:21

Not at all, aitch. If you don't know what to do re child care then seek appropriate help. The law expects this too......

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Lulumaam · 20/11/2010 20:24

what if it , like some doctors, it can take 2 weeks to get a non urgent appt?

suggesting this is neglectful behaciour is ridicolous

if you go to thte docs or hv every time your child has a minor issue, you'd get short shrift

cleanandfresh · 20/11/2010 20:24

That Grin was to Aitch btw.

HalfTermHero - please, no more, I really don't need to hear your hopes regarding my daughter's wellbeing - thanks all the same.

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AitchTwoOh · 20/11/2010 20:25

it's not a health concern, it's whether or not to take a damp flannel to your girl's bits. mn IS, or should be, appropriate help.

not seeing a lot of apologies here, btw. am surprised again. would have thought better of many on here.

thelibster · 20/11/2010 20:26

Someone, please lean over and remove the pole stuck up HTH's arse? Grin

HalfTermHero · 20/11/2010 20:27

any health visitor would happily deal with a call from a parent who did not know how to wash a child ESP in circs where the child was uncomfortable/ had discharge.

BarbaraSeville · 20/11/2010 20:27

Surely she would be better seeing her GP about that rather than some random MNer, Libster?

cleanandfresh · 20/11/2010 20:27

And I never used the words "platelets" did I?? Not that I think the use of that word would have indicated child neglect either. Look, let's just leave it now HalfTermHero OK?

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HalfTermHero · 20/11/2010 20:27

Oh it hurts when someone is right eh? Grin

BarbaraSeville · 20/11/2010 20:27

I am, of course, joking.

Bear, anyone?

MoonUnitAlpha · 20/11/2010 20:28

Why is anyone posting any question on mumsnet then HTH? I'm sure social services would be very interested to read all the threads about weight gain or colic in the Feeding section, loads of neglectful mothers there...

Lulumaam · 20/11/2010 20:28

yes, if there is a HV In the area and can return a call

gods sake, tehre has been conflicting advice about what to do , and HVs don't alwauys give the right/best advice

this is insane

really cannot be bothered having a dingdong about this

cheery-bye!

RumourOfAHurricane · 20/11/2010 20:29

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HalfTermHero · 20/11/2010 20:29

Off to x factor thread myself. let's hope that op sorts this out one way or the other.

thisisyesterday · 20/11/2010 20:30

funny that isn't it Aitch.

turns out it's harder to come and say sorry than it is to say "i think you're a perve"

Hmm
nameymcnamechange · 20/11/2010 20:30

Oh hello,

Sorry to you Clean&Fresh for trying to explain to you why some people (including me) thought your op was supsicious.

Will that do Aitch or do you want more?

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AitchTwoOh · 20/11/2010 20:31

er, no... i don't think you ever did apologise. i saw you promise to apologise if your sinking feeling was correct. so no dice there, shiney. i would expect better from a five-year-old.

thisisyesterday · 20/11/2010 20:32

lol @ nameys fake apology

yes here, let me apologise for telling you why you are WRONG and i thought you were a troll

nice

AitchTwoOh · 20/11/2010 20:32

same to namey. appalled by this. grow up and apologise like adults, not mealy-mouthed kids. you were WRONG. there was no reason to be suspicious other than your own tiny dirty minds. shame on you.

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