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Maternity Leave Equivalent (Wild Speculation)

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NeonSoda · 21/11/2023 10:57

So I was wildly speculating with a friend last night, and I said that I thought it would be wonderful if child-free people could have the same 52 week x £172 benefit given as maternity leave, but without having to have a child.

If that was something you could opt to receive, as a childfree person, what would you do with your 52 weeks of subsidised break from full-time employment?

(NB - the condition here is that you cannot do your job for those 52 weeks and also receive the money, just like a person on maternity leave can't.)

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fitzwilliamdarcy · 24/11/2023 10:32

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Literally nobody has said that.

One person has pointed out that pregnancy doesn’t just happen to people - if they really don’t want to do it, abortion exists.

How the fuck you got from that to where you are is your own concern.

LeaderBee · 24/11/2023 10:38

Imagine a world where there is a deadly virus that means you cannot work for 52 weeks of the year but the government still pays you at least 75% of your wage.

What would you do with that time?

Twentyonemillion · 24/11/2023 11:10

LeaderBee · 24/11/2023 10:38

Imagine a world where there is a deadly virus that means you cannot work for 52 weeks of the year but the government still pays you at least 75% of your wage.

What would you do with that time?

Stay inside and try to survive. That would stop so much stuff like travel, learning a new skill, education, volunteering etc it's definitely not a good fantasy scenario for me.

Possimpible · 24/11/2023 11:12

LeaderBee · 24/11/2023 10:38

Imagine a world where there is a deadly virus that means you cannot work for 52 weeks of the year but the government still pays you at least 75% of your wage.

What would you do with that time?

Not sure what point you're trying to make. Are you comparing mat leave to covid/lockdown..?

musixa · 24/11/2023 12:41

LeaderBee · 24/11/2023 10:38

Imagine a world where there is a deadly virus that means you cannot work for 52 weeks of the year but the government still pays you at least 75% of your wage.

What would you do with that time?

If you are a key worker - carry on as usual and take your chances!

(relevance to thread score - nil)

musixa · 24/11/2023 12:49

ColleenDonaghy · 24/11/2023 08:23

I don't think so. Women having children would still be obliged to take the time in their 20s and 30s while others were striving to build a career, because biology. Everyone else could then establish their career, get some savings behind them and then take the time in their 50s, say, when they would have much more freedom. There is no way to cut this as not being discriminatory against women.

Not to mention returning to work rested and recharged after a sabbatical, as opposed to exhausted and stressed over childcare arrangements after maternity leave.

Sabbaticals for all. Great. Maternity leave is not a sabbatical.

Edited

I agree it can probably never be eliminated, but I said 'go some way towards' this rather than solve it completely.

If you take a year out of the workplace you will be disadvantaged, whether you are 25 or 55 or 65, male or female. Mat leavers have to take this hit. Childfree people might be willing and able to - as is often mentioned, the equation child-free = career-obsessed = false. I don't agree that everyone would wait until mid-life, there are things people might want to do while they are still young and fit, before menopause comes along and starts a health decline.

LeaderBee · 24/11/2023 13:09

Boomboom22 · 24/11/2023 07:15

Just sounds like sexism and hatred towards mothers as usual on this board. Society would collapse if noone had children so it cannot be described as a lifestyle choice. It is in no way unfair that parents get parental leave ffs.

So it sounds like the alternative is that people are forcing you to have a child?
Society would indeed collapse, look at the ageing population of Japan and the problems they are facing over there... But don't tell me that the government is pinning women to the floor and stuffing a turkey baster up their vagina to solve it.

MrsDanversGlidesAgain · 24/11/2023 13:16

LeaderBee · 24/11/2023 13:09

So it sounds like the alternative is that people are forcing you to have a child?
Society would indeed collapse, look at the ageing population of Japan and the problems they are facing over there... But don't tell me that the government is pinning women to the floor and stuffing a turkey baster up their vagina to solve it.

Now there's a mental picture I didn't need.

Saverage · 24/11/2023 14:30

If the 'thought experiment' had been 'what would you do if you could take a year of your state pension any time in life and defer retirement a year', I doubt the retired would have marched onto the thread to say 'It's not a holiday you know! It's for us to rest and recuperate our many ailments, we get no pleasure from it! Why do you hate the elderly so much!'. This thread isn't about mothers and their maternity stories or anyone else but the childfree it was intended for.

Some massive over reactions and offensiveness from parents on this thread, though thank you Colleen for at least trying to be reasonable.

NeonSoda · 24/11/2023 14:41

LeaderBee · 24/11/2023 10:38

Imagine a world where there is a deadly virus that means you cannot work for 52 weeks of the year but the government still pays you at least 75% of your wage.

What would you do with that time?

I mean I didn’t get any money, my mental health crashed, I had a breakdown, and then had to abandon my PhD shortly after Covid because of it.

sounds like yours went better than mine.

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Alphabet1spaghetti2 · 24/11/2023 15:44

LeaderBee · 24/11/2023 10:38

Imagine a world where there is a deadly virus that means you cannot work for 52 weeks of the year but the government still pays you at least 75% of your wage.

What would you do with that time?

Well I worked 109 hour weeks without a day off and zero holiday for the entire time. Zero thanks or ‘clapping’ for my sector as seen as being totally expendable - zero ppe as well.
I did get to hear the moans of boredom of people who got oif to stay at home. Funnily enough they didn’t want to swap places!!
The joys of being a key worker.

WhereWhoWhen · 24/11/2023 18:43

Saverage · 24/11/2023 14:30

If the 'thought experiment' had been 'what would you do if you could take a year of your state pension any time in life and defer retirement a year', I doubt the retired would have marched onto the thread to say 'It's not a holiday you know! It's for us to rest and recuperate our many ailments, we get no pleasure from it! Why do you hate the elderly so much!'. This thread isn't about mothers and their maternity stories or anyone else but the childfree it was intended for.

Some massive over reactions and offensiveness from parents on this thread, though thank you Colleen for at least trying to be reasonable.

Yes, thank you to those on the thread who disagreed but did it politely and called out others who weren't quite so polite.

daliesque · 24/11/2023 19:05

IN MY FANTASY THOUGHT EXPERIMENT WORLD

Just to totally lower the tone. In my fantasy thought experiment world, after watching the covid enquiry this week, Id quite like to spend a funded year on a desert island with Chris Whitty 🤣😍

daliesque · 24/11/2023 19:08

single person's leave'

Why are you assuming that only single people have no children?

daliesque · 24/11/2023 19:14

LeaderBee · 24/11/2023 10:38

Imagine a world where there is a deadly virus that means you cannot work for 52 weeks of the year but the government still pays you at least 75% of your wage.

What would you do with that time?

Personally I spent it head to toe in PPE for over 12 hours a day in an ITU watching people die.

Alphabet1spaghetti2 · 24/11/2023 19:30

@daliesque Greg. Davies.

daliesque · 24/11/2023 19:35

@Alphabet1spaghetti2 I get that.

KimberleyClark · 24/11/2023 20:11

Alphabet1spaghetti2 · 24/11/2023 19:30

@daliesque Greg. Davies.

Only with his glasses on. Don’t fancy him at all with them off.

APocketOfGooseFood · 24/11/2023 20:27

KimberleyClark · 24/11/2023 20:11

Only with his glasses on. Don’t fancy him at all with them off.

I endorse this message. And he clearly knows the effect the glasses have. Naughty monkey.

daliesque · 24/11/2023 20:28

He certainly does!

musixa · 24/11/2023 20:44

I'm going admit I prefer him sans spectacles.

SoRainbowRhythms · 24/11/2023 20:47

He was my drama teach at school. Scared the bejesus out of me.

Alphabet1spaghetti2 · 24/11/2023 20:59

I prefer with glasses, but will happily accept either.

Alphabet1spaghetti2 · 24/11/2023 20:59

SoRainbowRhythms · 24/11/2023 20:47

He was my drama teach at school. Scared the bejesus out of me.

Space travel?!

APocketOfGooseFood · 24/11/2023 21:41

Alphabet1spaghetti2 · 24/11/2023 20:59

Space travel?!

I was really hoping that @SoRainbowRhythms was going to tell us that she did three terms of Space Mission! Was there a Dennis in her class?