I am so happy not having kids

[ForestGoblin]

Had an existential wobble but now I'm of an age where the window is closing I'm feeling real alignments with this life.

No life is perfect but I really feel it's a blessing to have had this choice. Thank GOD for living now, when we can really live as our authentic selves.

High five to everyone who is living the old Polonius lifestyle, whatever that looks like for them.

I agree. Speak for yourself @Florissante but I found @User1234567891011121314 post interesting and find for the thread.

Nothing to add, just blatantly placemarking 🍿

It’s mind blowingly crazy that people are posting on here getting upset that other posters are calling children as a whole ghastly. That’s just weird. This is a child free board and people can post what they want about the joys of not having children.

I very much doubt that children will give a stuff about what is being celebrated here. Calling them vulnerable and marginalised when in society they really are not, is odd. It minimises the experience of groups that are genuinely discriminated against.

Most of MN celebrates/worships/protects the interests of children to a very high level. Surely there can be one just thread that expresses relief at a different lifestyle? This thread is not harmful to children in any way, so I cannot see the problem with it.

There are loads of unpleasant comments and generalisations all over mumsnet about various different people. At least when children are criticised, it's with the understanding that they are unformed - that they can't be expected to be the finished product because their brains are still developing, and that they're meant to be pretty annoying and selfish really, as we all were.

Surely there can be one just thread that expresses relief at a different lifestyle? This thread is not harmful to children in any way, so I cannot see the problem with it

We're women without children and some of us are both happy and comfortable about that rather than - what was the phrase? - oh yes, jealous and bitter. For some people that makes us the equivalent of the Childcatcher.

Nope. We all have to be in lock-step being grateful that people with children allow us to have this board, although some of them cannot help themselves and have to come here to berate us and police our language.

I don't care if posters do or don't have children; this is the Childfree board and I don't want to hear about children. If someone wants to talk about children there are only hundreds of thousands of threads they can participate in.

Dont read it if you don’t like it

why is this such a difficult concept

Because some women with children have to show how superior they are to us by allowing us to have this board, though they have to post on here about having children.

Hint to posters saying 'I'm not being goady but -' you are, whether or not you mean to be. If you weren't you wouldn't need to say so.

MindPalace · Today 13:56
"It’s mind blowingly crazy that people are posting on here getting upset that other posters are calling children as a whole ghastly. That’s just weird. This is a child free board and people can post what they want about."

That's interesting, considering the comments I have seen from those that are childfree by choice on threads about parenting. I'm sure if an offensive sweeping cliche was made such as 'all child free women have a million cats' something would be said about it. Yet "all children are ghastly" is fair game. 🤔

*'User1234567891011121314 · Today 14:04
Florissante · Today 13:47

We don't want to hear about your children. This is the childfree thread.
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That's nice dear. As usual a normal friendly thread turns someone into a bitch like the above. Thanks to whoever said you found my view interesting!'*

Exactly this^ It is strange that some ppl are very nasty when they're supposed to be sooo 'happy.'

'Did you READ what she said, she bloody applauded you......before your rudeness that was. She was in no way being superior. You really have a chip on your shoulder. You were rude and nasty to a woman who came on agreeing with you and being really nice to boot. Only CF's answer her like you did.'

Exactly, I couldn't give flying F about whether ppl have kidd are now, but nastiness I don't tolerate.

I don't think children are ghastly, I just don't particularly enjoy their company.

Never wanted them, didn't have them and am now well past the menopause so that ship has sailed.

I can see how happy children makes some people. I'm just so bloody delighted I didn't have them and my life now as a retired, childless 58 year old woman is a flipping dream. Wouldn't change it for the world.

Who mentioned teen dc? This thread is about childfreedom generally. to most of us that means freedom from worry, stress, freedom to travel when and where we want to at the drop of a hat. Not having our leisure time and finances dictated by the needs and wants of children.

Why can't you just be happy for people who are happy with their choices and enjoy your own?

kids or not*

Because women with children are superior to us without children and children are always wonderful and to say otherwise is unacceptable.

It's so tedious, but there you go.

A question for the ages.

'Because women with children are superior to us without children and children are always wonderful and to say otherwise is unacceptable.
It's so tedious, but there you go.'

Keep the generalisations coming 😴

Not only am I happy not to have children, I am happy to post with people who don't have children on childfree threads.

I do my best not to go on parenting threads and say I'm glad I never had any.