I am so happy not having kids

[ForestGoblin]

Had an existential wobble but now I'm of an age where the window is closing I'm feeling real alignments with this life.

No life is perfect but I really feel it's a blessing to have had this choice. Thank GOD for living now, when we can really live as our authentic selves.

High five to everyone who is living the old Polonius lifestyle, whatever that looks like for them.

I understand celebrating the joys of being child free. I don't understand calling children 'ghastly' and talking sneeringly about them. I'd be equally concerned if you referred to elderly people as ghastly. And yes I know it's 'child free' Mumsnet but it's still a public forum and everyone is allowed an opinion.

You can celebrate being child free (and I can 100% relate, in spite of being a single parent) but I think threads like these can veer into unnecessary nastiness. Other than that, enjoy your freedom, and I salute your choices!

If you go over to the "screaming kids on holiday" thread, you'll see women with children suggest that hot food is "accidentally" dropped onto the heads of unruly children, or tripped up by a walking stick. Now that's nasty.

Don’t try and police peoples posts so long as they are within talk guidelines we can say what we like, don’t read if it upsets you.

I honestly think some people would prefer that. They think it's awful that women choose not to have children abd and a happy with that choice. Some parents appear threatened by it. It's strange.

*and are happy

Even in the childfree section they can’t bloody help themselves, can they.

Indeed. I would like to think that the childfree section is a safe space where the childfree can express how they feel (as long as it's within MN's guidelines) without judgement, or being harassed by parents. It seems not.

People would be a lot less frustrated and less likely to write stuff like that if parents didn't let their children run amok in public places like restaurants and then act mortally offended when it is commented on. The problem isn't the children, it's their permissive and overindulgent parents.

This is the childfree board where we post about being childfree. If we want to wast our time here what business is that of yours?

As for the forum made specifically for parents (so special they even get a capital letter) why don't you go and find the numerous threads hashing that issue out?

This is not a thread for women with children. You are in the wrong thread and your post is goady.

Fuck me, not hate AGAIN. Can't people come up with another word?

Go away. Don't read it.

I have kids and can really see the appeal of not having them, though glad I did personally. Fiercely in favour of people making the reproductive choices they like and other people not giving their two cents on it. But a lot of the comments I see on here amount to genuine hate for kids. Kids are people. They're just smaller and with different needs to older human beings. Would you feel comfortable saying the same kind of things about old people? And no it's not "policing" for me to say so, any more than it is for someone to notice and comment on the behaviour of a child.

I have 4 kids and I have to say I agree with so many of the posts on here. I actually quite like children per say but there is an AWFUL lot to be said for a life without them. I will always have admiration for woman who had the balls to stand up and say Children? Nope, not for me and get on living their lives.
I love each of my children so much but had I known back then what I know now would I have made the same choices? Probably not. Not afraid to say it either.

No one forced you to read the thread, I avoid all the many dog hating threads as they are not for me, it’s quite easy to do, you should try it sometime.

That is a really nasty comment to someone who was actually standing up for the thread.

That would require common sense and self-control, two qualities that many people lack.

We don't need your policing this thread. If you are so bothered by what is being said here, this isn't the thread for you.

All those people saying 'well you wouldn't say that about the old' - I assume you're new here; because I've seen some very unpleasant comments about the old and not so old.

Some people can't help themselves.

You want to see unpleasant comments, trying be autistic. MN is not an autism-friendly place.

It is policing, seeing as you brought up elderly people, it’s like me posting on the elderly parents section and someone is complaining about the burden of looking after elderly parents and me barging onto the thread claiming posters are all haters and horrible as my granny is sweet and adorable.