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Childfree only child

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Strawberriesandpears · 07/07/2023 18:39

Hello folks,

I was wondering if anyone here is an only child and / or if they know of any older people who have gone through life as a childfree only child and been ok?

This is the situation I find myself in (I'm 36 and I think very unlikely to have children) and recently it has hit me like a ton of bricks.

I'm not overly concerned about old age in terms of care (I have a very good financial buffer and obviously you can't rely on children to provide it anyway) but how on earth do you deal with the lack of connection without family (I do hope to have my partner for a long time though). Can you really make a 'family' of your own through community connections (volunteering etc) as some seem to suggest?

I'm feeling really sad about the rest of my life at the moment. There is some good (a lovely partner and financial security) but society seems so geared towards families, that I'm feeling increasingly scared and like I don't belong.

Thank you for reading.

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Strawberriesandpears · 30/11/2024 22:04

Treesnbirds · 30/11/2024 21:30

I like the quote "friends are the family you choose for yourself".

Yes, that is a nice saying.

I remind myself of it whenever I hear the dreaded (for me) phrase 'Family is everything.'

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Princessfluffy · 01/12/2024 08:08

"Family is everything", yes for some people
Although some people say it just as a naff thing to say for their social media photos

Also for other people
"Friends are everything"
"Animals are everything"
"Art is everything"
"My work is everything"

And for me, nothing and nobody is everything, I have many loves and many passions. I recommend!

Strawberriesandpears · 01/12/2024 13:38

Princessfluffy · 01/12/2024 08:08

"Family is everything", yes for some people
Although some people say it just as a naff thing to say for their social media photos

Also for other people
"Friends are everything"
"Animals are everything"
"Art is everything"
"My work is everything"

And for me, nothing and nobody is everything, I have many loves and many passions. I recommend!

Thank you @Princessfluffy I love your way of looking at the world!

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Princessfluffy · 01/12/2024 17:11

<<<blows kiss to @Strawberriesandpears >>

Strawberriesandpears · 01/12/2024 20:06

Princessfluffy · 01/12/2024 17:11

<<<blows kiss to @Strawberriesandpears >>

Thank you and blowing one back to you too! 😊

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