First thread!

[Florissante]

Hello everyone

Welcome to the first thread of our new board.

'I'm glad this board exists. Everyone around me is having children atm and although I know it's not for us, I can't help out feel a bit left out and panicky... Like... I feel like the odd one out'

Absolutely hear you. It's like there's a big party going on but your invitation got lost in the post! I find contact with other women who don't have children really healing and comforting, so I'm really grateful for this board

I find contact with other women who don't have children really healing and comforting

Me too. I love my friends with kids but I feel like they're all shooting off on a different direction to me and it's always been their destiny whereas I'm just here doing my boring work and my hobbies... I sometimes feel my world is a bit inconsequential compared to theirs, you know?

But you can't force yourself to want something you don't want!

I agree! For me, this board is the online equivalent of being able to stretch out my legs and relax.

Odd. I don't recall your posts lobbying for this board.

And there has been a name change because of complaints, largely because of Sore Loser Syndrome.

Given that some of the people who objected to the name have lost children, I'd like to think you hadn't thought that through when you posted about sore losers

We discussed names at length on the 1000 post thread on site stuff. It is a pity to have the excitement of having been given our own board, and a name that the majority - some of whom had also lost children - had agreed upon, be overturned by one adamant complainer, one very late arrival to the site thread, and a cluster of parents previously uninvolved in the discussion.

@lemonchiffonpie, I have disagreed with what you said in the other thread but I am 100% in agreement with you on this. I look forward to agreeing with you more in the future!

Ok, I now accept the name is the name, can we just move on now and rejoice? It does not matter whether someone 'lobbied' or not, that's just unnecessary gatekeeping. We should stick together as people without children (that's my preferred, neutral, term), not let this issue divide us!

Quite happy to do and the posters who objected to this board will have just to live with the knowledge that it exists.

Maybe people weren't aware of the discussion. Feels a bit unfair to say they aren't allowed an opinion

I think we're easy to ignore/hide in any case. Just like I do with all the "line eyes"-type threads 😀

Seconded! Thirded! Fourthded!

Fifthted!

I somehow missed the lobbying and have no opinion on the name of the board, but am very happy to see this space 👏🏻

And you are most welcome to be here!

I feel the same way!

The thread monitors are out in force, I see. Didn't take long.

But you know what? We've got our board! And it's delightful to be able to speak about issues that don't involve children and childcare.

I am on the other thread, but I do name change frequently as I have a tenancy to give too much away and would rather not have all my posts joined up.

That's allowed here you know.

Yes, it's great to have this space!

The tail that wags the dog.

It took me about 10 tries to understand what you meant in your post. (Just getting over a rotten migraine so was probably not functioning at 100%.) But now that I've got it, I agree!

A question for the Members of the Board: is it possible to hide boards and not just threads? I realised that there are some boards I have no interest in and woud rather not see them in my feed. I know I can hide or scroll past threads, which is what I currently do, but am wondering if there is a more wholesale approach I can take.