Prof sleep trainer / night nanny needed for 10-month old - any recommendations or interest?

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Our ds (10 months old) is waking up various times a night. This coming week is horrendous at work for both dh and myself, so I'm looking for a night nanny.

I'm now thinking I might as well combine both - so instead of someone just helping with his night wakings (which is normally solved with a pick-up / tapping / formula milk feeds), get someone who does this kind of sleep training for a living.

I know I really should have started coaching him into sleeping through anyway, but as I'm not into controlled crying at all, thought I'll just leave it to sort itself out in a couple of months. However, we can't really cope with not sleeping this coming week, so am rather desperate!

Please help!

(PS: Not sure whether this was supposed to go in sleeping, so please feel free to shout if so.)

def time - it really does seem longer,esp after a glass or 2 of wine

i should also go to bed, as will be up 7.30ish tom, instead of 111am

roll on my lie in on thur

night honey x

Hmm, glass or two of wine... Have you spoken to www? lol (Disclaimer - I haven't actually drank anything yet, but suspect I should have! Did threaten to take a bottle of wine with me to bed, mind you...)

Night and thanks again!

she just texted me

hmmmmmmmmmmm wine

though tbh i could have had a glass but havent

welcome anytime

ciao x

disclaimer - I said nothing about a bottle of wine!!
me think the lady doth protest too much
not really, good luck for tonight, but I'm sure it will be fine+I'm really, really looking to seeing you both+little man again tomorrow night
x

I know this is a bit off-topic, but I am a nanny and would really like to get into night nannying/sleep training (though not necessarily maternity nursing) - WWW/Blondes, have you done specific sleep training courses?

I'm a maternity nurse and have done sleep training in the past if you need any other help. My email is nz us uk @ hotmail.com.

hi tankie

no i havent done a sleep training course, i got into nn/st many years ago - most of my jobs have been from nb and one day years ago one of my local agencies who know me well said they had a mum with a nb and needed help at nights and was i interested

i sadi yes, and it went from there

some babies i have from nb/3weeks and done nights and written out a routine for the day for parents to follow

others i have gone in at 8/12/15mths etc and the parents are fed up with being woken up 2/3times a night for milk

i do it as and when, might not do any for a few months then either get a call from my agency, one of my known mums with new sibling or just word of mouth

sal - all 3 slept 13hrs 7.30 - 8.30

was going to poke them then heard no 1 get up - guess i wore them out

Thanks, nz.

Well, hello again everybody. Blondes, that's great! Just you wait, in a couple of days I'll come on here and brag about my great sleeper! Just you wait.

Well, last night went better than expected, actually. Was a little hard at times and we did get to a stage when we were looking at each other, wondering whether or not to go and rescue the poor thing [whimps emoticon], but it passed and I think all in all we didn't really have a worse night than others.

I think the hardest part was when he had a soaking wet nappy (which started to leak), so I had to change it, but didn't want to give him milk again to go back to sleep (as this is where I think I went spectacularly wrong in the past - can't go to sleep without milk). It took him ages (and heartbreaking sobs) to go back to sleep.

The power was off today (until 4 I think), so we went to Bluewater for lunch. Had that glass of wine after all - tonight I'm going to sleep well, you just watch! (sorry, www!)

hi sal
got your email-just about to reply

btw, i LOVE bw!!!

Blondes, thank you SO much for all your help!!! If you're ever in London, give me a shout and I'll buy you a drink.

He's able to fall asleep without a bottle easier now, so I guess that is progress (some moans, but not long). Had a full 45 minutes crying his heart out last night, poor thing, but hoping it'll get better soon.

welcome honey

just as easy to give advice via email then face to face - just follow it

glad last night was better

tbh 45mins isnt bad for 1st night - it will get shorter xx

little man did pretty well I thought - that 45 mins was at 3.30am (on the dot I'll have you know lol) so for the rest of the night apart from 1 or 2 peeps and the odd cough, he actually did pretty well!

and I got a big smile in the morning so I don't think he hates me - yet

MB+DB also did very well too!

Well, wish me luck for tonight! I promise I'll do my best to stick to the plan. If however he prefers to do his difficult session at, say 11pm instead of 3:30, I wouldn't mind at all (hint hint to ds)! (Now only if he could read it would have helped...)

(I suspect www ordered the snow on purpose to test me )

as heavenly (!!) as I am, I cannot take credit for these random acts of god LOL

all will be fine though I'm sure

I just spend a 2 hr epic journey to asda - it is chaos, you'd think it was the apocalypse or something!!

I promise not to let myself in and nibble on your biscuits btw hehe

stick to the routine i gave you or else!!!!

sure all will be fine, but DONT give milk at 3am as you didnt last night, so he is learning

bet he cries less than 45mins this time

Ok, ok, I promise! I keep trying to think that not long now, and this will be easier.

Blondes, I followed your routine today, and he's in bed sleeping now (skipped the late meal, but gave the 4pm one at 5 instead). I'm going to speak to the nursery (it's a small one - usually only 4 or 5 under 2) tomorrow to see if they could move his meal later. Thanks so much.

fab - glad my routine is working - BE STRONG in the early am hours

as i said to you via email - i have never had a failure yet

sure nursery will do it,makes sense,eating at 4pm is too early

I think it might actually be easier for me tonight. Tbh, I think if www wasn't here last night I might have buckled. It's nice that she was here, as reassurance almost. You know that feeling where, if you see (or in this case hear) something for the second time it's not really as bad as the first time? That's what I'm hoping for.

it will be easier, time it if you want

a screaming baby sounds much longer that what you think

you will be fine, just dont give in, or last night would have been for nothing

you can do it sal!

I have every faith in you, I just hope you still need me on sat night, I bet you'll have cracked it and will kick me to the kerb lol

its really good to know I was of some help to you, I am so annoyed I couldn't make it to you tonight... bloomin' snow!!

stay strong girl!

hello all

sal how did it go last night? have been lurking and following with interest as i think i'm approaching having to do this myself since i'm back to work in 6 weeks , where did all that time go?!hope you found it easier than the night before and there was improvement.

my ds is much younger (5 mo) and not on 3 solid meals a day yet but i know is waking 2/3 times a night and wanting to feed out of comfort and habit. the total lack of hunger at 7.30am kind of gives it away!

blondes and www - is it too soon to stop feeding at night? i know he's still little. should i wait til i KNOW for sure he's not hungry, or will it only get harder to do the older he gets? TIA

and sal let us know how you're doing, it's always great to hear success stories!

hi waytomuchchocolate

i know guidleines say dont feed till 6mths , but would you increase your childs food during the day

my baby was sleeping through from 8 weeks(dream feed at 11pm) and then 7-7 by 12weeks - she started waking at 16weeks every night, so we started on solids -best thing we ever did

generally feeding during the night is habbit and not needed - so you need to wean your baby of the 2/3night feeds

hi there

thanks blondes - yep, i've started him on fruit and veg puree & finger food etc, but he's only been at it a week or two so not fully on solid meals if you see what i mean!

i know it's habit waking really, although he never has slept longer than 4 hour stints really.

i've read so much about the various different ways of dealing with stopping night feeds i'm now totally confused!

would you say wean off all night feeds in one go, or feed at say 10pm and 2am, but then not again until 7am? and then work on the 2am one once it's down to one feed only...? see - totally confused!!

how often do you night feed?

i would give one at 11pm and then not give anymore till 7am if always waking

the first few times, they will have a moan, but it will get easire and time yourself, i keep saying it, but a screaming baby sounds longer than it is - esp in middle of the night

depends if you want to do cc and sleep training - many parents on mn dont want to - and thats fine - but dont moan your child wakes up

some parents prefer to get long sleep,and baby will sleep past 11 but wake up at 2am