Me again! Thinking about telling my newly employed nanny that she can no longer have the job!

[ziopin]

Hi,

I'm thinking about telling the new nanny that she can't have the job now!

I'd verbally offered her the job (not signed contracts yet) and she has accepted it, but that was before I found out she was getting married, and needed 2 1/2 weeks off term time - but hadn't told me at the interview.

I have been trying to sort out something for these weeks - but have been uable to fill this time (I don't really want a temp nanny and my Mum is away during these weeks)

Will it be ok if I withdraw the offer?

Hmmmm... 20 hours a week sounds like an au pair to me. Do the kids share a room? If not could they, freeing up a room for a lovely au pair, who will cost you a whole lot less than the nanny and her perceived entitlements.

Just an idea. I've probably forgotten some critical bit of information which is the reason why this is not feasible... like one of the kids is 6 months old or something.

My kids share a room so that we can have a live in nanny.

I really thought about an aupair, but there is so much hassle trying to find one, you just have to look at all the posts on her to see what a bloody nightmare that would be!

When I went for interviews 6 months before I was getting married I told the parents there an dthen the dates I woiuld need off and told them they were non negotiable as everything was booked. It didn't stop me getting the job.

What I should add, it was because they had so much notice that they just took their holidays at the same time.

I think they fact she didn't tell you at the interview would make me think she wasn't being open.

No legal repercussions. She was a temporary. Hired to do a certain number of days over a certain period. And, at the inteview, all the days ere fine. And then, bit by bit, they weren't.

I was going to say exactly the same hing, Jura. Great minds...

so Ziopin - have you told your nanny to be that you dont need her anymore?

And started on the new hunt

No, must admit I haven't yet Must do that!

Jula & AtheneNoctua - thats very true!

dont au pairs have to live in (as from another country) and didntthink you wanted a live in

if you REALLY are going to get rid of her,do it soon, as you need to find a new nanny,and time is getting on - its JULY tom

yes aupairs are live-in /part of the cultural exchange ;)/

NKF, what was the nanny like with your dc's? Given that she'd obv done even a little work for you were you more or less inclined to accomodate her requests?

Playing devils advocate a bit, certainly seem to do that a lot on here but I am VERY curious!

She wasn't good with them. Had she been, I would have been more accomodating.

I hope you have by now said something to "the nanny" who thinks she has a job to start, i realize she's not the nanny for you, but you really really must tell her soon, as she will i expect be upset as she has no idea that you have changed your mind about her!! She has the biggest day of her life coming up and now she will have to go job hunting again!!