PREGNANT MN CHILDMINDERS - come over here......

[looneytune]

Right, as mentioned in the staffroom, there is definitely something in the water!! Due to there being a few of us now, I thought we should have a thread to keep tabs on when everyone is due etc.

I'll put the info I know so far, come and add yourself/your details or even better, copy and paste this list and update accordingly

Crace - C-section booked for ??? May
Looneytune - EDD 23rd June (BOY)
eleanorsmum - EDD ????
MamaG - EDD ???

I know there are others but I just can't remember now (don't you just love the pregnancy brain!). Tori has her baby last night and I think another had theirs recently too but still thought there were more pregnant C/Ms????

I'm even more pi*sed off with Drs/hospital now......just had the Dr who runs our local surgery on the phone. He 'wanted to discuss my urine samples'. I said that was interesting as I'd not been happy with things and it's been all over the place for over a month!!! Anyway, turns out the prescription the hospital gave in case I needed it (back in march) was no good after all as 'the germs in my particular samples are ones that are resistant to most of the drugs out there!!!'. WTF does that mean? He seemed a little concerned and has done me more AB's to collect this afternoon and HOPES they will be the ones to fight it however he won't be happy til I've had that lot and done a clear sample after as 'it's even more tricky in pregnancy' . I just hope they work and I don't get more and more of this agonising back pain! I would have questioned him more but battery getting low on phone and mindee crying in highchair in the background so felt I had to rush it. Will deffo quiz my GP on friday!!

x-posts. Poor you crace, can you get dh to talk low down on your bump to see if baby tries to find the sound - recommended to me and must say it makes him move more. Good luck xx

Can I just SCREAM for a sec??!!!! ARRRGHHHHHHHH. I'm so fed up with medical people, it's doing my head in.

Can't be bothered to type all out so here's one of my threads (other is in health section)

Just don't know whether or not to take these bloomin tablets now I know there could be risks for the baby. Dr never told me this!!!

Sorry, I'm very hormonal right now and it's just a bad time for them to be throwing all this at me!!

Rant over

Bloody blinking hell LT. What did Dr say to do - will go and have a read, but only have a sec.

Btw you sound like me, too tired to post these days huh? I just feel so fed up with it all that I just don't have much to contribute. Late pregnancy + childmining are just not friends.

Hang in there -

Oh dear LT and Crace. Sorry you are both having a hard time of it right now.

I'm glad I'm finished for the day now as my nausea has decided to turn into proper morning sickness this afternoon and I'm feeling like poop. But, I'm also quite glad as makes me feel like it is more real so hopefully it's all a good sign!

crace - update on both threads, been in tears most of the day on/off worrying about what to do for the best but sounds like I have no choice but to take the risk and hope bubba will be ok (sure he will be, hormones just make me worse!). I've felt so rubbish with the pregnancy and now I know why I found it really really hard to cope in the last month, a lot of little symptoms are making sense now.

Problem I now have on top is that I'm so extremely thirsty, I just have to drink, drink, drink which is very unlike me. I thought this would be related but Dr doesn't seem to think so. Oh well, off for GP check tomorrow so can talk more then.

Must say I'm not liking the way I feel right now since taking my first tablet. Need to snap out of it as off on school runs in 15 mins.

Liking your countdown

SBelle - sounds good to me, hold on to that feeling of reassurance x

here's the thread from health - a post near the top may help you understand why I've been worried sick about it

Hope you are ok LT. Have you had any more clarification about it?

Saw dr today, who actually was very nice! He said that the mc in feb should have no impact on this pregnancy. He thinks the bad skin is ezcema and has given me some baby friendly cream but said if it gets worse then to go back. He also recalculated my edd to the 24th December (like that really matters tbh!). Have my first midwife appt on the 6th May which is good.

Hi SBelle, pleased the appointment went well and hope you manage to sort your skin out

Yes, spoke to the Dr. Here is the update I put on my other threads:

Dr given go ahead to take these tablets. Basically, he's more worried about my health as this bug I have is particularly nasty and this concerns him. Unfortunately, as it's built up a resistance to pretty much all the other usual drugs, he said this drug is my only choice really.

I asked if there were risks if I didn't treat this infection and he said yes, it could cause renal failure and he went on to explain what that means. He's concerned that it's likely I've already had this nasty infection for at least 5/6 weeks so he wants it treated asap.

So, I've now taken my first tablet as I don't feel I have much choice. I just hope they work.

He did confirm that there are risks in pregnancy and yes, they don't usually give to pregnant women HOWEVER, the risks of me not being treated outweigh the risks to baby so I have no choice really but to go with it

((HUGS)) LT, yes, unfortunately it sounds like YOUR health needs to come first in this instance. I am so sorry, it has really put you in a shit position to be in, how unfair.

When will you know if you and baby are safe?

SB - Great news! Glad things are on the up.

As for me, still in the "don't ask" category - 4 weeks tomorrow is all I will say. I have a million things to do and no energy to do it. I am hoping when I stop those 2+ weeks I will have I can get things done. Here is hoping anyway!

Cheers for the hugs crace, I've been very up and down today but there's no point in worrying about the what ifs at this stage. I really shouldn't have read things online as I saw case studies with things like 3 out of 5 women on this had stillbirths etc.....I closed it all down when I saw that and decided to look no more as too upsetting. As the dr said, if I end up with renal failure as a result then baby is at risk anyway!! Dr deffo wanted me taking these, methinks he's a tad worried that some damage has been caused as a result of their f* up and me not getting treated over a month ago!! He just wants a clear urine result after I finished the course to put HIS mind at rest too, pretty obvious.

My tablets are for 5 days (today day 1) and then I need to wait 2 days after then do a urine sample and drop it off. I then need to wait for those results. I will be providing my urine sample on Thursday morning so I imagine I won't know anything about ME til the following week. As for baby, think it's a case of I'll know once he's born unless anything bad comes up beforehand (sure it won't but it's natural to worry under the circumstances isn't it).

So crace, what you got left to do? Maybe we should have a To Do list on here so we can all make sure we remember everything

Oh good lord, LT more than I want to write down. First things first I need to clean and organise my bedroom so the baby has somewhere to sleep! I have the babys bag packed for hospital and mine is 50% down as I am using some of it still!

Once I get that done I will feel better. I also need to clear out the c/m stuff into storage as it takes up so much blinking room!

And so so so much more. Cleaning and organising. I have three weeks to do it in so hopefully a little each day we will get there.

And yes, I agree don't read any more on it. No point in scaring yourself. You've got to, really, take care of yourself this time. Sounds like you are dealing with something quite nasty and you will be no good to baby if you give yourself long term damage.

Bless you, it's so shit that you are dealing with this.

Anyone here know anything about maternity allowance? I'm thinking about taking the whole time off (is it 6 or 9 mths?) starting 6 weeks before my EDD. Finding the forms a tad confusing though.

Ellie this thread

Call the jobcentre plus if you have any questions on the form. I had to!

Thanx crace that thread was helpfull!

Hiya crace, try not to stress about it (don't want baby coming early ). Can dh or anyone else come and help you at all? I know I have no-one around who can help me but I'd probably get dh moving stuff around for me.

I haven't done a list but going to put one together now whilst baby napping and other playing nicely. Then I've got something in my face to remind me! I've just not felt well enough to do much of it recently but I really need to crack on as time flies and all that (although I'm aware I have a lot longer than you!). Here goes:

Our bedroom (so ready for baby to sleep):

Dh to sort BIG hole in ceiling (plasterboard)
Dh to put coving up and paint that and ceiling
New carpet to be fitted
Dh to put bedroom units up
Dh to hang and paint new door (but door frame needs sorting 1st)
Assemble Ambe Nest

it's dh who decided to decorate our room before baby arrives!

Spare room (where mindees nap but baby will go after first 6 months):

Build a wardrobe on top of boxed off bit (dh's friend hopefully coming tomorrow to give some ideas)
Once got wardrobe, get all of ds's old clothes, towels, blankets etc. from loft
Wash these items then put away
Search in loft for baby bath and many other important baby bits (which dh keeps saying he can't find!)

Thoroughly clean house (more than usual, still hoping for homebirth)
Get birthing pool and practice filling etc.
Pack hospital bag in case
Buy items needed for homebirth if get the all clear
Pack bag for baby (whether for home or hospital)

Buy nappies, cotton wool, baby bath support sponge etc.

What else?????

Think I'll copy and paste this list later so I have something for myself to work from!

I just feel a lot of MY sorting is on hold until dh finishes the bedroom (as stuff from our room in spare room whilst in mid-decorating so no room for sorting new stuff!)

Right, I'm off. Got GP this afternoon and interested in what position baby is in this time (hopefully not still breach). Going to be having 'words' about my UTI problem whilst there too!

Bye for now xx

LT how did it go at docs?

Hope it went ok at the doctors LT.

I did another test this morning (me paranoid?! nah ) and a very strong postive line so feeling good!! No more tests left now so need to stop worrying about it and just let it be!!

SB - if you knew how many I took you would be - I bought a 10 pack of those internet cheapies. I still have them in fact, glued them down in chronological order Paranoia is something I know. We lost our baby at 9 weeks last May (EDD was Xmas day of all things!) and I felt justified in my paranoia! I just couldn't freaking believe it. lol

Anyway, test away, you aren't alone!

Morning all

crace - Spoke to my own Dr at the appointment and she was great and explained everything very clearly. I asked if she could write the name of the germ down for me and she did one better and printed the latest of the Microbiology reports for the urine tests. It re-confirmed my lack of choice in having the anti-biotics I didn't want. It listed 6 medications they tried in the lab to fight the germ and 5 showed 'resistant' meaning wouldn't work, the one I'm on was the only one not showing as resistant. Dr told me not to get too 'het up' on the name of my germ and that she was sure it would be ok (I know why as there is some scary stuff on the net about it but I think that's if you get it in other parts of your body). When I asked how I got it she said that a normal healthy body wouldn't 'allow' it in and if I'd not had UTI's in the past, it would never have got in. Basically, my body has been run down and being pregnant is part of it and my defences were down and allowed it in. I've got 2 more days of my tablets then need to wait 48 hours after and re-do a urine sample. The test on Friday showed leu ++++ which I've since checked on MN and found that to mean that it's basically a good-going bug (been in system a long time) and lots of bacteria showing and that my body is trying very hard to fight it but unfortunately unsucessfully.

I told the Dr about a few things I'd been feeling like on top of the pain and turns out it's all related as my body had been working hard fighting the bug. So feel better I know it's all related and why I've not been coping well (very tearful).

She said my blood pressure is 'holding' which is good. It has gone up but it's not too high.

SBelle - I was also the same so don't feel embarrassed! We've all lost babies and obviously just wanted that reassurance after, quite understandable

So, what's everyone been up to this weekend? I spent a chunk of yesterday in bed feeling dreadful thanks to these tablets. Turned into me and dh having a huge row as he was p'd off I was't well because it mucked up plans i.e. he wanted to go for a ride on his motorbike in the sunshine but felt he couldn't leave me with ds. I told him I was really upset that he stormed off like he did as I felt crap enough without feeling like I'd buggered his day up. Anyway, turned into a big talk about 'us' in general as I've not been happy for a while as felt he doesn't want to be here. We're all sorted now and have agreed to make more time for each other and slot in 'family stuff' at weekends as we never do anything together anymore We're always working on something that needs doing and it's affected our relationship.

Gosh, that was a bit long. Suppose I just needed to get that off my chest.

Anyway, what you guys up to today?

crace - you must be so looking forward to Friday when you can finish childminding for a bit? I know you'll miss them but you need to rest. I personally can't wait for my break to start!!

Holy moley moley - well I would have more confidence in them now with that microbiology report in hand. Geez Louise though - what a nightmare. How in heck are you coping with working on top of this gubbage??

Glad you worked things out with DH - I swear they are like another child! Well - you know there is stuff that WE want to do you know?! Like a honking great big glass of wine, and maybe even a cheeky fag? LOL (insert craving emoticon here)

You do need to spend time together as a family - otherwise you just feel like roomies. DH and I try really hard to do a couple of things as the 4 of us, even if it's just the shopping. We spend enough time apart during the week, no?

I am looking forward to stopping - this weekend I have been trying to organise the house - deciding what's going into storage and just cleaning out. It annoys me I need to stop next week for work I just want it done and I feel like I am running of time and energy

Cheers for letting me moan crace. I've actually had a mindees mum ask her sister all about what's happened and what it means as she specialises in kidney related problems. I feel I understand even more now and I have been advised to document everything that's happened so far, in case I need to make a formal complaint or something. How am I coping.....errrr, I'm just about surviving! On top of already feeling rubbish and working, ds decided to have nightmares and sleep in our bed on Sunday night meaning I didn't really sleep all night as couldn't get comfy plus he kept grabbing me as scared. Then last night I babysat a mindee as a favour so didn't get the early night I really needed. At least it's Tuesday and I finish around 5.15pm so I think I'll get ds's dinner sorted early and go to sleep on the sofa for a bit once 2nd mindee gone home!!!

Hehe about large glass of wine and fag - I'm right there with you mate!!

Yes, dh and I have been making an effort to be nice to each other, make time to say hello, had nice day etc. And will be doing things at weekends, starting this weekend. We have no money but we will do SOMETHING together as it's important and we haven't done that at all this year I think

So, over to you.....how you feeling? Counting down the hours? How you getting on with your 'to do' bits?