Nanny dilemma or how many of you nannies have had an affair with an employer?

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I have my hard hat handy here but this is the question:

My best friend's nanny as left after 7 years and she now has to find a new one. She has interviewed 20 ladies in the last couple of weeks. She really liked one girl - she was very enthusiastic about the job and interacted with the kids well.
The problem is, she is 19 and absolutely gorgeous, according to my friend. My friend WOH quite long hours and her dh works from home. So she is having second thoughts.

Her other option is somebody who was recommended by the current nanny who my friend thought was fine but not nearly as enthusiastic and energetic as the first lady.

OK, opinions please.

Gosh, she forgave him? I would never forgive my husband (or the nanny) if they had an affair. NEVER!

The marriage would be over and it would be his fault.

Eleusis - perhaps their oldest child is the gardener's, so she forgives from a different perspective .

Oh my! Never considered that.

Does anyone remember that woman a few years ago whose story was all over the papers, Lady somebody or other, who hired an au pair from Poland? Au pair was actually described as looking like "the backend of a bulldog" in the papers, also published really unattractive shots of her. The woman's friends said, you've done well there, no chance your husband will be interested. Anyway...you can probably guess what happened next, he did run off with her, they moved into a flat together etc etc. Finally fizzled out and she was attempting to rebuild her marriage.

Her takeaway on the situation was that it doesn't matter WHAT the woman looks like in many cases, it's all to do with the fact that some men just can't resist women (especially young women) with crushes on them. Too flattering.

Sooo...re OP...setting aside the trust issues, not sure weeding out the gorgeous ones is the answer, I guess I would look more at the person's attitude and her chemistry with the whole family. I'm sure the OP's friend is just nervous about the whole idea of having someone new around.

my dsis got rid of a maid because the girl had such an obvious crush on her dh. well, the girl was also really crap at her job, but dsis didnt want to deal with issues that would have arisen from temptation etc etc etc. even thoguh she trusted her dh completely.
there's trust, and there's being stupidly naive.

I remember that programme on TV - I think she met her husband whilst he was in prison and she was doing some theatre work for convicts (sorry if that sounds Mr Micawber-ish) and she went on to marry him when he was released from prison. She seemed rather messed up to me. Sadly shagging the nanny is not an indictable offence. LOL