Nanny dilemma or how many of you nannies have had an affair with an employer?

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I have my hard hat handy here but this is the question:

My best friend's nanny as left after 7 years and she now has to find a new one. She has interviewed 20 ladies in the last couple of weeks. She really liked one girl - she was very enthusiastic about the job and interacted with the kids well.
The problem is, she is 19 and absolutely gorgeous, according to my friend. My friend WOH quite long hours and her dh works from home. So she is having second thoughts.

Her other option is somebody who was recommended by the current nanny who my friend thought was fine but not nearly as enthusiastic and energetic as the first lady.

OK, opinions please.

I was already well on the road to slutdom when I walked into his sophomore philosophy class .

Is that sophomore in Uni or Highschool?

Um, well, I was 19 and certainly not so thick that I failed high school.

Spent my sophomore year of high school in France - where I lost my virginity .

So essentially Paris is the start of the road to Hell.

Teacher/student
Doctor/patient
Boss/secretary
Dad/nanny

there is something about these relationships... When the person concerned is living in your house you also have an excellent oportunity.

They are classic man in charge woman under them as it were, literally in this case. Obeying orders etc. Let us not forget droit de signeure or whatever it was/is - male employer to sleep with the servants etc.

Xenia - no I don't feel that way, I like to be surrounded by clean, groomed, attractive people - I think it actually helps me keep my own standards high

Teacher/student
Doctor/patient
Boss/secretary
Dad/nanny

vet/dog?

tee-hee

on the smeel front, there was an aupair at the school where I do pick ups and do stand ins sometimes, and oh boy did he have a BO problem. It was awful It was really strange that the parents didnt say anything as they were veery tidy, well respected people. The mum in particular was a yummy mummy, she looked glam all of the time and smelled of expensive perfume. V strange. He suddenly started smelling nicely after a few weeks when my youngest charge in the school queue standing next to him said 'eurrrgghhhh, what is tha smeel ,you smell like meat pie...' I could have died. Out of the mouth of babes?!

smeel (smell oops)

Xenia I agree it is about power but it is not necessarily always men in charge. It works both ways I think.

This Labour government scuppered sex with animals in the Sexual Offences Act a few years ago I'm afraid so the vets have to go abroad I suppose if that's what they're into.

Bit weird to need to see attractive people, Anna, isn't it? What if your daughter have been or becomes disfigured or your partner? How would you handle that?

shepherd/sheep
farmer/cow

tesco delivery man/ box of cornflakes.....

Xenia - no I don't think it's weird, in fact wherever I've ever worked (always client focused) physical attractiveness has always counted for a lot in recruitment

I didn't fancy my partner at all when I first met him. I grew to love him the more I got to know him. Now I think he is devastatingly attractive. Attraction is a very strange thing and not something that is explained easily. Sometimes other commodities (for example wealth, power) are used in barter and trade for looks, but these relationships are precarious because they are not multi faceted and are therefore unable to evolve and mature.

So I suppose what I am saying to the original poster is the relationship between your husband and his attractive young employee is unlikely to last!!!!!

last caroline or ever start? I think she should trust him. What is a marraige without trust?

Our first nanny was extraordinarily fat, quite possibly 18 stone. Some friends told me how clever I was to go for a plump one, so that DH would not be tempted, but to be honest it had really never occurred to me.

I have to say that most of my nanny friends are rather gorgeous but would never think twice about flirting or starting a relationship with their boss!

(unless he was jude law!)

Robyn Williams left his wife for their nanny.

And he's hairy, short and ugly.

Rich, though .

fwoarrh robin williams? mork? Mrs Doubtfire?

so did keith chequin.......eurrggghhh, god what was the girl thinking.

Conversely I have known some people who I think at first are really very attractive and the more I get to know them the less attractive they become, one or two even morphing into the distinctly unattractive category!
I think the OP should choose the best person for the job and try and lay her insecurities to rest. I bet employers of nannies and au pairs are no more likely to have sex with the attractive ones than they are the unattractive ones.

It does happen....

I had an affair with my boss and I was a nanny.....

I was 18, young, slim, carfree, pretty...he was 40s beer belly, tash....!!!

Looking back now I just cringe to think of it! Was just a bit of fun for me back then, never considered the consequences...which were bad, I fell pregnant (which looking back now luckily for me was ectopic so I didn't go to term), his wife found out and our stupidity nearly tore their family apart..

Luckily they sorted themselves out and are still together today!

I know a few friends who have had liasons with their bosses too...

Jen

Jan - would it have made a difference if you had a car, do you think? LOL