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Non medical but worrying day off that I can't cover wwyd ?

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AngelaChill · 02/09/2006 22:33

My CM has found a lump in her breast which obviously she's worried sick about and has booked herself an appointment at a private hospital for Tuesday, she's told me this, not asked if it's ok iyswim. Now I know i'd be worried to death about finding a lump but I really cannot take this time off and DH would be unpaid which we can't afford. I don't want to sound like a heartless cow but she had Friday off at short notice for an uncles funeral and now this, would it be completely awful to ask her to rebook for Wednesday ?

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HenniPenni · 03/09/2006 17:23

A nanny is not the same as a childminder!!

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AngelaChill · 03/09/2006 17:23

The nanny is under the patio obviously

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HenniPenni · 03/09/2006 17:23

No offence to nannies!

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AngelaChill · 03/09/2006 17:24

I called her a childminder for simplicity because she does the same job as a childminder at her house but exclusively for me, ie no other mindee's.

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Flossam · 03/09/2006 17:24

Although a nanny might fit in better at the mansion than a lowly CM...

hunkermunker · 03/09/2006 17:24

Your thread re nursery place - is my suggestion a feasible one?

And you say you have a new job starting soon?

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AngelaChill · 03/09/2006 17:25

According to you the CM/Nanny won't have to worry about fitting anywhere she'll be in a wooden overcoat beforew the week is out.

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HappyMumof2 · 03/09/2006 17:26

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rustybear · 03/09/2006 17:26

The difference is that nannynick spent a lot of time advising you on how to give notice to your nanny, which is totally irrelevant if she's a childminder. It just makes people wonder how accurate any of the information you've given here is.

hunkermunker · 03/09/2006 17:26

Oh, now that's uncalled for AC

Flossam · 03/09/2006 17:27

I have hardly ever suggested that Angela. Only just goes to show your ignorance of breast cancer dosen't it if you think everyone who has breast cancer dies. Some do, but an awful lot more survive by going through a hell of a lot.

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AngelaChill · 03/09/2006 17:28

Happy - I've known her 2.5 years ok ?

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HenniPenni · 03/09/2006 17:28

Well, she's a childminder then, anyway to get back to the point- I think you should let her know what could happen if she doesn't change her appointment, that way she can make an informed decision about whether she can look after someones child who would put money before her childminders health.

Note to self..Hennipenni please step away from the computer.

HappyMumof2 · 03/09/2006 17:29

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AngelaChill · 03/09/2006 17:29

Flossam - I know most people survive which is why I am rather amazed at how out of proportion this is getting.

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hunkermunker · 03/09/2006 17:29

So you say on the other thread that you don't want to let her go if she's ill, which is commendable.

But it's hardly doing anyone any favours if she can't be the reliable childcare you need if your work are so uppity if you need short-notice time off (which, to be fair, a lot of jobs would be if it kept happening, regardless of any parental leave "rights").

Do you like the job you have?

franyfroo · 03/09/2006 17:30

should you not just go away and perhaps change your name or find some other form of ammusment??

Flossam · 03/09/2006 17:32

Oh - ok so as long as you survive - nothing to complain about? WTF are you on?

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AngelaChill · 03/09/2006 17:33

I don't love the job but i'm prepared to do it to a) keep Kathy in a job
b) keep my LO with the carer she loves spending time with
c) give me a bit of me time and
d) keep my the dayes on my CV in this century.

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rustybear · 03/09/2006 17:35

Couldn't the grandparents you go to church with help?

jessicaandrebeccasmummy · 03/09/2006 17:35

ok so husband earns £750 a day and it would take 5 months for you to earn that amount - thats a shite full time job you have there

is the childminder registered with offstead?

why work if all money goes to childminder - makes no sense to me - surely better off looknig after your child yourself and not be in a shite job with shite wages

what is this about starting a new job after a robbie concert?

How can you be so cold with regards to a potential life thretening situation?

so many discrepancies im sorry, i dont believe a word.

HappyMumof2 · 03/09/2006 17:35

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jessicaandrebeccasmummy · 03/09/2006 17:36

and last point - keeping someone in a job is not a reason to work.

if the CM wants to work, then she will take another child - it hasnt got to be yours.

if every parent who uses a CM had that loyalty to their CM the whole thing would fall apart.

its a crock of shit

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AngelaChill · 03/09/2006 17:37

TBH I really couldn't care less what any of you believe.

I have asked whether I should ask her to move the appointment or not, you've all said no so that's that.
And the outcome will be whatever it will be.

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jessicaandrebeccasmummy · 03/09/2006 17:37

why ask then

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