Non medical but worrying day off that I can't cover wwyd ?

[AngelaChill]

My CM has found a lump in her breast which obviously she's worried sick about and has booked herself an appointment at a private hospital for Tuesday, she's told me this, not asked if it's ok iyswim. Now I know i'd be worried to death about finding a lump but I really cannot take this time off and DH would be unpaid which we can't afford. I don't want to sound like a heartless cow but she had Friday off at short notice for an uncles funeral and now this, would it be completely awful to ask her to rebook for Wednesday ?

why arent you calling your friends now?

so glad i'm not a childminder.

None of this adds up or makes any sense!

Is it just me missing something?

What does your DH's cancer have to do with this thread, because your DH is ill that's an excuse to behave badly is it. I'm sorry to hear your DH is dying that is awful, my CM is not as far as we know so can we not write her off just yet ?

no angela in RL, if someone is ill and needs medical attentio nthen every single bloody day counts in getting treatment.

if i had left it a day later for my dh to be seen he may be dead now, if i had got him seen a day or so earlier he may not be where he is now, and may not have needed to be on the transplant list.

every day counts.

What are you missing Clayhead ?

Who says I'm not calling people, I have left two messages but really that is not going to happen due to other people working, being heavily pregnant etc

No need for that at all, thechildsslave.

Angela, medically one day might not make much difference to her condition, but emotionally it could. Every single day that you wait with a worry like hers is dreadful. It really does feel as if you have the weight of the world on your shoulders, and you can't see any further than when you'll get to see the consultant.

Did you truly expect her to consult your dh's diary before she made the appointment? From experience, when you are making appointments for these things, the last thing on your mind is whether it's convenient for anyone else.

WWB - the same day is available every week, it's not like she doesn't know that, but of course it won't have been on her mind at the time.
As I have said a thousand times now, I won't mention it to her but the result maybe that the lump beningn and we're both unemployed

TROLL

stop feeding it

Twigglet - I'm not a troll - do a search

Better her with a benign lump and no job than with a malignant lump and no job.

Flossam - of course, but i can't control cancer I can control whether she has a job or not, so that's what i'm trying to do.

Oh Ok.

I don't usually involve myself on threads such as these, but Angela can I ask you if you've approached your c/m and told her your concerns?

If any of my parents had such an issue then I think I would want to know,btw I wouldn't be changing the appointment if I were in the same shoes.

How dare you have a health scare .. you're fired

still think its trollish

taking this for real for one moment .. would you want to work for a company who would fire you because your children need you for ONE day

I bloody wouldn't

OP I think you sound pretty heartless

I'm missing something here, I think.

Your DH earns £750 a day. All the money you earn goes to the CM. You attachment parent and you hate your job.

Why are you working in this job? I'd have thought you'd be glad to resign. Is DH putting pressure on you to earn money?

I'm struggling to work out why your budget would suffer from the loss of one day's work if he's fulltime. But I can see why it would if he works short-term contracts and is often not earning such a high amount.

So what about the new job you're starting the week before the Robbie Williams concert?

HenniPenni - no I haven't discussed this because that was the orginal post, shall I discuss this with her or just see what happens when i approach my boss for another day off.
Twigglet - it isn't one day it's the 2nd day in under a week I will have had to take time off because something has come up with my childcare arrangements. The something being perfectly valid reasons but tbh when you're still on the 3 month probationary period my employer like many others couldn't give two hoots why you're not there, they just note the fact that you aren't.
Hopefully this will all be sorted by kind smile by my boss who says it's fine, but somehow I don't think it will and I have no plan B (which i acknowledge is my problem, but it is a problem none the less).

AngelaChill, you have a problem!

By AngelaChill on Monday, 28 August, 2006 11:40:55 AM
I've been offered a nursery place which is ideal for us and the other two children are now at school so we no longer really need a nanny. Therefore can I just give her a months notice and say we don't need her anymore ?

By AngelaChill on Monday, 21 August, 2006 10:04:06 PM
As a single mum I wouldn't recommend mentioning anger management issues to your HV or GP, SS get wind pretty quickly and start taking an interest. Be a bit more subtle and enroll on a parenting course or ask for help within the family first.

By AngelaChill on Monday, 28 August, 2006 9:13:21 AM
The cat was hubby's birthday present so he won't hear of it. Securmummy i have emailed you.

Rusty bear that is my plan C job that I may have to take.

I cannot believe our family budget is under discussion, but yes that is exactly the problem. We have a huge mortgage, when DH works it's all fine and dandy, when he doesn't we're stretched to say the very least. I want to work in some capacity to keep my hand in so if it did ever go completely tits up my CV isn't a blank space for 6 years.

Message withdrawn

Thistles - I was talking to the OP - she was the single mum not me.
CM = Nanny, whats in a name, she looks after my child.

NUTTER

oh dear Where is the nanny?