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Paid childcare

Discuss everything related to paid childcare here, including childminders, nannies, nurseries and au pairs.

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Non medical but worrying day off that I can't cover wwyd ?

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AngelaChill · 02/09/2006 22:33

My CM has found a lump in her breast which obviously she's worried sick about and has booked herself an appointment at a private hospital for Tuesday, she's told me this, not asked if it's ok iyswim. Now I know i'd be worried to death about finding a lump but I really cannot take this time off and DH would be unpaid which we can't afford. I don't want to sound like a heartless cow but she had Friday off at short notice for an uncles funeral and now this, would it be completely awful to ask her to rebook for Wednesday ?

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WigWamBam · 03/09/2006 16:34

I had a breast lump many years ago, and I can assure you that when it happens to you, you do drop everything. Nothing is more important than ascertaining what that lump is, and getting rid of it if necessary. The fact that 90% of lumps are harmless doesn't take away the urgency of the situation. It's very easy to look at it as coldly as you are when it's not the thing uppermost in your thoughts, it's very difficult when it's you that it's happening to and you can't get that thought out of your mind.

There are ways around this, and many of them have been suggested on this thread. It seems to me that you're just not prepared to put yourself out to get around it - have a little empathy for someone who is probably worried frantic.

Flossam · 03/09/2006 16:34

Different types of cancer have different ages of risk actually. This isn't actually about my Mum though is it? Perhaps I shouldn't relate it to that and yet that is what upset me when I read your post. Your CM's life may be about to take a very different turn as unlikely as it may be. There are alternatives and yet you are just jumping off the deep end. I only hope for her sake that it isn't cancerous for you CM as she is going to be unable to work for a very long time with no source of income so you don't have to run the risk of being sacked and embarrassed. Poor lady.

thechildsslave · 03/09/2006 16:34

I have read all the thread . What happened to the saying you work to live not live to work . Even if she hasnt got the big C this time surely she will need more check ups in the future . Its only work .Money does not come befor anything else . My DH has cancer and untill this happened in our lives alot of things got taken for granted . Work was the least of my worries .

misdee · 03/09/2006 16:35

AC cal lthem now, not tomorrow night. FGS is that so hard to do? is it against the law to use the phone on sundays now?

thechildsslave · 03/09/2006 16:37

Just gone back to your last thread op . You are having a fucking laugh shall I give her notice . What planet are you on .

Flossam · 03/09/2006 16:37

Oh and Hunker - sorry I know I am getting a little involved here aren't I?

franyfroo · 03/09/2006 16:38

beginning to think this is a joke, i mean what is the woman on???

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AngelaChill · 03/09/2006 16:39

Ok the last word, yes there is a 1 in 10 ten chance that this could be serious but would seeing the doctor on the Wednesday instead of the Tuesday really make any difference - I'm not medically qualified but I suspect not.
I have just realised and this is my fault, I haven't said that DH doesn't work on a Wednesday so she could take this day without causing anyone any issues, I guess she just didn't think of that at the time.
It goes without saying everyone hopes it's a cyst.

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Greensleeves · 03/09/2006 16:40

Angela, if your dh earns £750 a day, why can't you afford to pay the CM without working full time? If he runs the organisation and makes such a huge amount of money, why doesn't he get paid for sick leave/holiday? You're obviously worried and stressed, but what you're saying doesn't really make sense to me - there must be more to it than you're telling us, surely? £750 a day is a huge sum to most of us. [puzzled emoticon]

misdee · 03/09/2006 16:40

of course shwe didnt think of your days off at the time, she just wants to get checked out.

tortoise · 03/09/2006 16:42

Well if he doesn't work wednesdays swap it to tuesday this week.

thechildsslave · 03/09/2006 16:42

Some consultants only work certain days and time of the week . Because their time is more imoportant than yours .

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AngelaChill · 03/09/2006 16:42

£750 a day is a huge amount to us which is why we can't loose it.
As I have said it would take me months to earn that to get our budget straight if he had to loose a day.

Look, I'm resigning if my work are difficult about, we'll both be unemployed but she'll not have to change the apppointment. That's it nothing more to say.

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noddyholder · 03/09/2006 16:43

She really should have considered your husbands calendar before booking the appointment!Get a life!

thechildsslave · 03/09/2006 16:43

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thechildsslave · 03/09/2006 16:44

Not mars thats for sure .

batters · 03/09/2006 16:45

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misdee · 03/09/2006 16:45

pluto

thechildsslave · 03/09/2006 16:46

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Greensleeves · 03/09/2006 16:46

That was unnecessarily nasty thechildsslave.

Angela..... I really would have liked to help because it sounds like such a nightmare, but I still don't really understand I'm afraid. If he earns £750 a day it doesn't seem possible that you could be living hand to mouth to the degree that a day's absence would be a disaster. And if you're working full time, what sort of job pays so badly that it would take 5 months to earn £750? I'm really baffled

franyfroo · 03/09/2006 16:46

sometimes though, these things just need to be said!

thechildsslave · 03/09/2006 16:49

If you have a DH with incurable cancer and a small child I feel I can tell her to F off and sort out her life and to think of other people not just herself .

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AngelaChill · 03/09/2006 16:51

Greensleeves - my finances are not up for public scrunity but ALL of my wages go to the CM, every penny.
We cannot afford DH to have a day off, end of.
So as I have been saying for hours and am being sworen at for, I have two choices.
She moves the appointment for the day she knows we can accommodate or I probably have to resign before I'm sacked and then we'll both be out of a job.
Incidentially, i fully intend to pay her for the day off and any other days she needs to take but she has to give and take too, that's the way it works in life.

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franyfroo · 03/09/2006 16:52

quite agree. never seen such a busy thread.

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