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WWYD re nanny

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HelloDolly · 30/06/2006 21:57

We went out on wednesday night and our nanny babysat as usual. When we got home she mentioned that our middle child had played up a bit and called K upstairs 4 times but there was nothing wrong so in the end K just left her to cry and after 10 mins she was asleep.
Well of course middle DD spent the entire night and next day throwing up and generally being unwell.
I know the nanny couldn't have known she was ill but do you think it's out of order she just let her cry ? She knows we dn't do controlled crying with the baby.
TIA

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Greensleeves · 02/07/2006 11:11

I defer to your superior offensiveness, Uwila

I don't think people have been too harsh, though. Rude, obnoxious snobs generally get their comeuppance on MN. It serves her right for showing such a stinking attitude. IMHO.

doobydoo · 02/07/2006 11:21

You just can't get the staff these days

MaryP0p1 · 02/07/2006 12:36

I did not saything offensive or even questioned her parenting skills at any point but suggested it was a misunderstanding between nanny and Hello Dolly. However when Hellodolly started namecalling and insulting childcarers as little more than a person who wipes bottoms and implying her superiority because of this I did feel HelloDolly has made herself fairgame.

looneytune · 02/07/2006 15:14

I totally agree. Noone was namecalling or anything until this woman, who is clearly above everyone else, started being incredibly rude and I mean TERRIBLE TERRIBLE attitude!!!

I never get involved in things like this but was so at her attitude towards us lowly nothings that I had to post.

I still think she's an incredibly rude snob and I dread to think how her children will turn out.

Where has she gone anyway????

HappyMumof2 · 02/07/2006 16:17

Message withdrawn

looneytune · 02/07/2006 16:49

yep, probably!!

Greensleeves · 02/07/2006 16:58

This is what makes me uneasy about the whole issue of nannies, mothers' helps, au pairs, cleaners, any "staff" employed to work in the home. I know for lots of people it works fine, and many people treat each other with courtesy and professionalism - but I can't quite forget that not so long ago in our culture it was normal and acceptable to look down on people who did domestic/childcare work quite openly, and treat them like menials. It makes my blood boil just thinking of anyone being treated like that, or anyone having the fcking nerve to think that they have the right to treat any employee with such disrespect. It's just snobbery*. PLain and simple - spoilt, ill-mannered, socially stunted, unattractive snobbery.

God, that's better

looneytune · 02/07/2006 17:03

WELL SAID!

Do you think we've scared her off?!

MaryP0p1 · 02/07/2006 17:04

I reckon

Greensleeves · 02/07/2006 17:05

Good.

trinityrhino · 02/07/2006 17:07

I want her to come back and stand up for herself, if she thinks she is right in the way she is acting then she should stay and fight

looneytune · 02/07/2006 17:08

Good.

Seriously though, I really hope this thread has made her take a long hard look at herself and her attitude towards others who are providing a 'professional service', they are not slaves!!!

If it wasn't so I would be really about her attitude!

looneytune · 02/07/2006 17:08

Yeah

FIGHT, FIGHT, FIGHT, FIGHT!!! hehe

MaryP0p1 · 02/07/2006 17:09

TBF perhaps she phrased it badly. I would like to understand where's she coming from because TBH I don't right now.

HappyMumof2 · 02/07/2006 17:15

Message withdrawn

looneytune · 02/07/2006 17:18

PLEASE COME BACK!!!

Greensleeves · 02/07/2006 17:19

I used to encounter people like this when I was working as a temp after I left uni - I did audio typing and data entry and various other temp office jobs. Some of the more old-fashioned outfits I worked in were shocking. There was one bloke who insisted on being addressed as "Mr XXX" by me but called me by an abbreviated version of my Christian name in a really patronizing way. He asked me if I wouldn't mind wearing a skirt to work as he felt it looked "smarter" than trousers There was another one who used to interrupt me when I was working every twenty minutes or so, to order me to "do another round of teas and coffees" for him and his horrible wife and son (family firm - shudder). I ended up telling him it wasn't my job to make him drinks, I accepted the job as an audio typist, not a maidservant. He said "I pay for you, you do whatever I tell you to do!". I replied "No, you pay for my fingers, my ears and one of my feet. You couldn't afford the rest of me."

Anyway, I digress . But I despise people who have this constant need to assert their superiority by treating other people like dirt. I bet most nannies come across the occasional rude egomaniacal snob.

jamsambam · 02/07/2006 17:29

ive just had a bit of a look through this thread..
i thought people had moved on in recent years!!

jamsambam · 02/07/2006 17:31

assuming hellodolly and HelloDolly are the same person, she is still around loonytune..

looneytune · 02/07/2006 17:34

oh, just did a search for her and nothing today that I could see?

VeniVidiVickiQV · 02/07/2006 20:12

Can i just point out, if you read my post, i was in fact, being a bit rude. I couldnt help myself because the OP seemed to place herself above general advice/conversation. I went for shock tactics. It may have worked. Although I note that HelloDolly did not call me specifically, a prat.

I hope that clarifies the situation.

NannyL · 02/07/2006 20:31

LOL no... she called ME a prat! lol

its nice to see that most otehrs dont agree though.... my opinion of her is not very high anyway!

Thankfully i know of far more employers who respect their nannies and treat them nicely... including all my bosses!

WishICouldGiveUpWork · 02/07/2006 21:45

Greensleeves-I think that many nannies come accross their fair share of HD types.
Personally I genuinely love my nanny as much as she genuinely loves my dd.
I know that she would never let any harm come to her and to be honest,whilst I started with some basic ground rules, it really is a partnership now and I totally trust her to make decisions about dd when I am not around (ok so not life or death stuff)
I couldn't/wouldn't leave dd with someone I didn't trust in this way.
I really feel for HD's nanny-I can't imagine what she must be like as an employer.

Uwila · 02/07/2006 22:14

HelloDolly, tried to CAT you, but you aren't accepting them. I hope you come back. You are welcome to CAT me if you like.

amber5 · 03/07/2006 10:33

sorry, i don't know how to do links - but i saw this and rolf. hd commenting on how large families aren't hard work!!!! cause they're not when you don't actually parent them yourself...

By HelloDolly on Sunday, 25 June, 2006 9:17:12 AMWell I'm 30 and on the verge of having number 4, large families aren't as much hard work as people make out. My children are quite close together and spend hours playing together and are the best of friends.
I think you have to look at the finances too and decide if you can give a good quality of life to all three children and if so go for it, you'll never regret having a baby.