Suprised at CM's request. What to say?

[Notinahundredyears]

Hi All, DD2 is 2y9m and is at CM's school hours twice a week. Today her CM's told me that she would like to go to her son's school sports day and would I mind to pick DD2 up from his school? Or otherwise, she can bring her back to my house slightly later. Not a huge deal, only to my question if DD2 will have a chance of any quiet time that day as she also takes her to a music class in the morning, there was a firm 'No, she won't'. I am slightly annoyed tbh. This means that by 3.30pm I'll have a tired, grumpy, angry and very difficult to deal with little girl as this is what happens if she gets no sleep/rest during the day, so I'll have a hellish afternoon. CM knows that I take her rest seriously & I ask every time if she had any rest. Is CM right to do so? I just thought that CM should act in the child's best interests but wonder what you guys have to say... AIBU?

Sorry the body I didn't get it was a joke. Looking again I can see it was, sorry.

I take the children I look after out and about all over the place and part of the reason I became a childminder is to provide an interesting upbringing for my daughter, be able to look after her and earn, and to be available with a flexible career to attend things like this. I'm sure she wouldn't do it if she didn't think your daughter could cope. If it really is a problem I would discuss with her, she sounds reasonable and would probably be horrified that you thought she was not taking your daughters needs into consideration.

PFB (much).

You sound bitter maybe you should stay at home and care for yor child

For parents like you I have three words.
Get A Nanny

My children are looked after by a CM, actually a family of CMs, and I've always liked the fact that they've taken part in school runs as babies, and gone out.

I would hate to be OP's CM if I needed to actually take a day off for something that I couldn't just take mindees along to.

Can't a buggy go in the car too?????

I think that you should give the cm some leeway here unless she is regularly wanting to change routines.

I regularly put myself out for parents and work on a "swings and roundabouts" principle. If children are tired enough they will sleep anyway. Perhaps a middle ground would be for you to arrange for the child to stay longer with the cm so that the child can have a delayed nap whilst you do whatever you have planned for the afternoon???

Would you prefer for your CM's son to have nobody there cheering him on so that your 2.9 yo DD doesn't miss a nap?

I think you are a really out of order and only thinking of the impact on yourself i.e your non-rested daughter will "ruin" your afternoon.

so what did you do op?

collect early or allow your dc to go with cm?