DS @ CM,noticed incorrect car seat

[Funky2sarah]

Hi There

My DS aged 2years goes to a CM once a week for the whole day. Today she picked him up from me, I noticed that when she put him in the car he wasnt in a 5 point car seat with harness, just a seatbelt on a booster. Now I am sure that this isnt SAFE and defo not legal.I let him go with her but kicking myself for not saying something!
How do you approach this?
Also I locked my self out this morning and as I had just dropped daddy of at the station, I didnt have any of my DS stuff with me (coat/nappy bag/snacks etc), was all in the house. Anyway, rang MIL who was en route with key. CM arrived, I apologised and said that I didnt have anything because of my mishap. She just shrugged her shoulders and said oh well, I asked if she had any spare nappies etc, to which she replied no. Anyway I asked her to wait a few mins so that I could get all his bits. She wouldnt!
She didnt say "dont worry i shall sort him some lunch and nappies" was very unhelpful, I realise it wasnt her fault but I kinda expected her to be a bit more understanding and reassuring.
Anyway, off he goes.
A couple of other issues, as with most 2yr olds he has good and bad days with food. I gave her a list of fave`s which inc sarnies, fruit and other picnic bits. She basically demanded after 2 days that I bring my own food for him as he is so fussy!No reduction in fees as food inc, just bring a PL.
Today in the bag, which I dropped round before lunch once in the house was bread sticks,apple,banana,raisins,mini sausages,cucumber,crisps and a fruit pouch. She sent me a text tonight to complain Toby didnt have lunch as I didnt send anything! Whats all of the above if not lunch..does that mean he didnt have anything?!
Last week he had a sore bottom/red raw, so I sudocreamed him up and sent him on his way. Daddy picked him up, I took him upstairs to get ready for bed..guess what his nappy was almost hanging on. There was no sign of fresh cream and he was now bleeding as so sore. It looked very much to me like she hadnt changed his nappy all day and looking in his bag Im sure no nappies were missing. Nothing was mentioned in his book re his bottom etc.
Anyway, sorry for the saga...WWYD
Thanks guys
xx

give notice and take him out of there i am a cm and i would never do that i would say something about the car seat as well so she knows your not happy about it not sure on whether or not its legal but we kept our daughter in 5 point harness up to a few weeks ago and she has just turned 5. The nappy should have been changed more frequently when lo has nappy rash, if i knew a parent provided food then i would check bag to see was it still there when he was picked up? I also include food and if parents decided to bring own food then change price accordingly

Get rid, quickly.

i would get rid too, she sounds awful

Find another childminder.

Don't send him there again. I'd have had him out after the soaked nappy and bleeding rash :( I know you're not too far from me.... How close do you need the cm to be? I have a fantastic one she may be full but I could ask!

Get rid, now. Too many issues for you to have any confidence in her now.

Hi Everyone

I have been looking but no one close enough seems to have spaces for just one day. They need to be en route to either Ottershaw or Guildford, bearing in mind I also need to be in Ottershaw for work.I must have emailed about 20!
Also limited funds, so that hasnt helped.

Eleanor - Ooopss, sorry, Hubby ok? lol x

Erm, I would ditch her immediately. You don't really need telling surely? It doesn't sound like she is caring for your ds properly. Poor ds :(

sorry xpost.

I really, really hope you find someone.

Oh and I forgot to mention that after only 3 weeks she sent me an email saying she is taking an old charge back on my DS day so can no longer have him from Jan!
Its all a bit suspicious really as after 1 week she said about changing his day, I refused as the day is agreed with my employer as Im a nanny that cant always take DS to work sadly.
x

Could pil or your parents take on that extra day for a few weeks or months until you find someone? Get your name on some waiting lists?

A nursery?

MIL are actively retired - they wont commit as it has too much impact on their social life!! They find it too stressful and my mum works 28 hrs over 7 days so not always around.
My dad is too poorly to have him more than the 1 afternoon he already does (when hes sleeping!)he just manage to feed him and sit on sofa for 20 mins once hes up and DH gets home xx

:( sounds like she just doesn't like your DS :(

Can you get him a nursery place for 2-3 days? Might be more worth it

star - x post re parents/PIL!

I have looked at a couple of nurseries but again cost @ £60/day, far too high,plus they want 2 months up front and most are refusing to have him as not sending for 2 days!
play schools dont offer long enough days

help......!!

x

cant afford the 1 day really let alone 2 or 3!! xx

awful

I have two families who send their children for one day a week each, it works really well

Hi Eleanor

Thanks, sadly yes too far!
It really hurts especially as I look after 2 school age kids that really love having him around on the odd time, its a distraction for them!
After 15 yrs in the business myself, this is not turning out to be a very pleasant experience.

I dont want to send him again but TBH I cant see that my B will be too sympathetic, she finds it hard to manage her 2, so cant see how I can manage 3!

xx

So do you only work one day pw?

If I were you, I would consider taking a career break for now (if you really can't find any child care), or becoming a childminder yourself. Would that be possible?

en route to ottershaw or guildford from where??