DS @ CM,noticed incorrect car seat

[Funky2sarah]

Hi There

My DS aged 2years goes to a CM once a week for the whole day. Today she picked him up from me, I noticed that when she put him in the car he wasnt in a 5 point car seat with harness, just a seatbelt on a booster. Now I am sure that this isnt SAFE and defo not legal.I let him go with her but kicking myself for not saying something!
How do you approach this?
Also I locked my self out this morning and as I had just dropped daddy of at the station, I didnt have any of my DS stuff with me (coat/nappy bag/snacks etc), was all in the house. Anyway, rang MIL who was en route with key. CM arrived, I apologised and said that I didnt have anything because of my mishap. She just shrugged her shoulders and said oh well, I asked if she had any spare nappies etc, to which she replied no. Anyway I asked her to wait a few mins so that I could get all his bits. She wouldnt!
She didnt say "dont worry i shall sort him some lunch and nappies" was very unhelpful, I realise it wasnt her fault but I kinda expected her to be a bit more understanding and reassuring.
Anyway, off he goes.
A couple of other issues, as with most 2yr olds he has good and bad days with food. I gave her a list of fave`s which inc sarnies, fruit and other picnic bits. She basically demanded after 2 days that I bring my own food for him as he is so fussy!No reduction in fees as food inc, just bring a PL.
Today in the bag, which I dropped round before lunch once in the house was bread sticks,apple,banana,raisins,mini sausages,cucumber,crisps and a fruit pouch. She sent me a text tonight to complain Toby didnt have lunch as I didnt send anything! Whats all of the above if not lunch..does that mean he didnt have anything?!
Last week he had a sore bottom/red raw, so I sudocreamed him up and sent him on his way. Daddy picked him up, I took him upstairs to get ready for bed..guess what his nappy was almost hanging on. There was no sign of fresh cream and he was now bleeding as so sore. It looked very much to me like she hadnt changed his nappy all day and looking in his bag Im sure no nappies were missing. Nothing was mentioned in his book re his bottom etc.
Anyway, sorry for the saga...WWYD
Thanks guys
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hi all

cheque received, all done and dusted! have found a CM who is located on the way to DH work.she is just restarting after mat leave, I have all my fingers and toes crossed that she is ok.
I have asked for a months trial to see how it goes....

thanks

Glad found a new cm - long may she last and be good [hsmile]

Glad you have it sorted, childcare is a total juggling act !

I would defo dump her! She should have a seat suitable for a 2 yr old NOT a booster, they are for 4-11 yr old depending on their weight.

The nappy issue was disgusting, how on earth would she feel if she had a nappy on all day and was sore?

In the circumstances that you locked yourself out (whoops!) she could have rustled up something for him to eat, most have something in the fridge/freezer/cupboard - is he allergic to anything like gluten, milk etc?

Pity you are so far away, I would have had him like a shot!

hi everyone!

thanks for the good vibes!
mum2luke - lol , thats what I thought, obviously far too much to ask!!
it astounds me that as a concerned parent I got "dumped", kinda screams she knew how wrong she was!

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Oh glad you are sorted! Do ring ofsted about her if you get a minute. It's awful thinking of other children in her care :(

no worries star - I have a week off next week and its on my to do list. Already emailed, just need to clarify a few things for them!!
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