Overdue and losing it

[lilysmemo]

Help! I am so confused- according to my lmp date my baby was due 12 days ago- according to my 1 st scan 4 days ago- I have had 3 sweeps, bloody show and NOTHING. I have tried all the usual stuff , nipples, sex. Walking, raspberry leaf etc. The hospital won't induce me for another 10 days and I am now starting to lose it. My daughter came dead on her due date with no interference and a quick labour, now I have myself worked up and think I will have to wait to be induced and may have a slow painful labour. I know I am being irrational and need to relax, but I feel like a failure- and just want my baby here all healthy and lovely. I've hardly stopped crying today , especially as i keep hearing about other babies arriving and think I'm losing my marbles- help me!

Fabulous! Gorgeous name.

Poor things. Remember that most of the traditional methods will only work if you're there or thereabouts - so if you've tried a glass of pineapple juice or whatever last week with no success it may well work if you try again today (or it may not of course, but at least you'll be doing something).

And if you can't face leaping DP tonight remember that strong orgasms can be helpful however they're achieved (or even if not, they might take your mind off the wait).

And congrats lilysmemo.

Wow that was close lilysemo, snap, my beautiful daughter Iris Estelle was born yesterday morning at 5:16am after a relatively straight forward birth. Looks like she didn't fancy the sweep either!

Yeah Mookey!! Gorgeous name- congratulations . Thank god, we can get on with it now- sleep deprivation never felt so good! Good luck ladies in waiting it won't be long- and so, so worth it!!

Congratulations Mookey. I really hope I have the same outcome.

Refused a sweep yesterday (40 +4) but said I will consider one at Monday (40 +10). Am booked in for induction a week today and am terrified. Especially as having been planning homebirth for months.

Aw I'm sure it will happen soon, and you can even decline induction and just opt for regular monitoring if you want to (and haven't had enough completely by then)
I didn't try anything crazy to get things going, just good old brisk walk and a tumble with the husband seemed to do the trick

That is my plan for tonight Mookymoo ..................... yep really looking forward to it

Good luck hippopo- think it was walking that did it for me in the end, encouraged Nancy's head down. I was terrified of induction too- but there are lots if women who are induced and still have a great birth- fingers crossed xx

Anyone out there still waiting? I'm 40 plus 4 and this thread has cheered me up. I thought I was being particularly irrational by getting upset. DS1 was born at 38 weeks so I've been hanging around for what seems like ages. I am now really anxious about being induced and hooked up to a drip and all sorts of interventions when I'd really hoped and expected this one to be easier than the first. And I'm not sleeping - managed about 4 hours of broken sleep last night and 3 hours the night before so I'm getting even more wound up about being knackered when I go into labour...aaahhhh.

As someone already mentioned, you are not overdue unless you go over 42 weeks. Still waiting past EDD is very frustrating, I had 3 of my births at 42 weeks plus minus couple of days, and it was very difficult to wait.

This time round(due date tomorrow) I've had the most horrendous water retention in my life, I haven't walked more than half a mile for many weeks due to my feet turning into balls and legs into tree trunks. Also I measure 43 weeks and the baby's estimated weight on the scan was about 10 pounds. I actually haven't slept more than two hours in a row for weeks and so looking forward to this baby coming so that I can walk and get some sleep!

However will not agree to get induced unless there are signs that the baby is in distress. I have a friend who had her children at 43, then 44 and 43 weeks! Average size and no signs of being 'overcooked'. She was very miserable and climbing the walls though, but the babies seemed to be happy to stay inside - like in my case [sigh}

Am still hanging in at 40+11, starting to think this child is never going to arrive. Either that or else this is the worst case of wind the world has ever seen....

Don't worry about being irrationally upset Rubyblue, I think you would be unusual if you didn't - I'm no more rational or sane this time round than I was last time. I have accepted that at least once a day I will be in tears for no reason.

DS eventually arrived at 40+15 after an induction... Looks like his brother/sister will be equally punctual!

I'm 40+6 today and getting start-stop-start-stop contractions since 40+4 with a pinkish show yesterday and this morning. Hoping not to be induced and want to wait it out til 42weeks. Happy to be induced at 42+1. It is getting increasingly more uncomfortable now but I want to give this baby a chance to come when he is ready. Will see if I can hold out!

Good luck to others in a similar position, the not knowing is the hardest part

Oh well done lovechoc, you are far less selfish than me. The spd is getting to me on top of not sleeping and I'm short-tempered with ds1 - bless him, when i want to make the most of my time with him. Thanks Gwennie for reassurance on emotions, feeling very up and down most days.

Tried acupuncture on Friday and apart from some hopeful cramps, absolutely sod all has happened other than a white jelly like discharge which I was hoping was a show but mw says not, just discharge 'which is normal over 40 weeks'

I'm 40+2 today and really fed up, as I have the most agonising piles Feeling very sorry for myself as a result, and terrified of what all that pushing will do to them.

I had been sort of looking forward to the birth, as my experience with DS1 was quite a good one (he was 40+4) but now I really don't know what to expect.

Have been laid up on the sofa most of today in tears. Is it a sign of imminent labour to be so emotional? Fingers crossed!

rubyblue I'm sure your baby will pop out soon. it is soul destroying all this waiting around isn't it. I'm starting to get fed up and anxious about it all (probably causing more problems for myself because I'm worrying over what is to come). Am already worrying about the internal exam on Monday, completely irrational.

BettyButterKnife also hope things happen for you soon too. I remember piles from my first pregnancy, was horrid.

There's nothing wrong with having a good cry. I've been on the verge recently, only a matter of time before I start too.

I've had more Braxton-Hicks in this pregnancy than in all my other pregnancies combined, starting from before half-way through the pregnancy, getting very strong in the last six weeks, but leading to nothing! What is the point of all that training of the womb if it doesn't lead to anything?

Anyway, it does feel like life is passing you by, when you are constantly uncomfortable and in pain, and every day you venture out of the house the same people say, what, you are still here?(I've been hearing this for weeks due to the size of my stomach and looking like full term for ages). And that besides all the texts and calls and facebook messages demanding to know if the baby is here yet.

The main pressure for me was that my husband, who works mainly from home but has to be in the office 3 days every fortnight, refused to come to the office more than two weeks ago until at least the baby arrives and is a few days old. The office is based 5 hours drive away, so would be a slim chance of him making it back in time if anything started. His boss was insensitively unhappy about it, but my husband was firm and said the doctors thought the birth was imminent anyway. I was told I wasn't likely to last 37 weeks due to the size and positioning of the baby!! Well here I am at 40, on top of everything feeling the pressure to give birth so that my husband's boss wouldn't think he was just using me as an excuse not to come to the office!

We all need to relax, I read somewhere that most labours start late at night or early in the morning due to the body and mind being at its most relaxed, it is apparently one of the important factors in starting the labour.

Being constantly wound up could delay the birth even further!

I'm trying to relax about it all..I've even set up the Moses basket in our bedroom this morning, hoovered all of upstairs, changed the bedlinen etc, just to keep busy and take my mind off it all. I'm just trying to carry on as usual but it is difficult every time my body is doing all these start-stop-start contractions during the night (3rd night now for me) and I'm thinking 'is this it?'.

LittleMs hope your baby comes soon too. Yes, I agree, if we all just relaxed a bit more then probably would have had our babies by now.

Fingers crossed we aren't all hanging on much longer. I have already mentally told myself I'll be holding my baby by the end of next week just for the sake of my sanity!

Someone's just recommended the homeopathic remedy pulsatilla to me as I'm so tearful, anxious and clingy

This bit is really shit.

You're right though, lovechoc, this time next week!

Can I join even though I'm not overdue? I'm in "Prodromal labour" according to my midwife (eg early latent phase) and the contractions got so regular yesterday (every 5 minutes, 45 seconds long) that when I phoned her she said to come to the hospital (we live an hour away).

Then when I got there they were spaced back down to 10 minutes apart, and I'm only at 1cm! So after 3 hours sitting waiting to be told what's going on, we got sent home, where I'm having irregularly spaced contractions that are not very comfortable, but not actually doing much. Last night in an attempt to make them stop and on my MW's advice, I had a glass of beer (was great, actually!) and slept till now (8am) - when I woke up with a contraction about 20 minutes ago, and have had nothing since. Today's going to be another day like yesterday, and argh argh I just want this baby out!

It's just so frustrating for a control freak like me, specially living so far from the hospital and having to get there in time to get a penicillin cycle cos of Beta-Strep. (I think they drug you more preventatively here in the USA). I'd stay at home until I needed to push if I could, but I've got to get to the hospital at least 5 hours before giving birth for the drugs to work. The journey there and back wasn't pleasant and I don't want to do it again to be sent home, but at the same time, how am I supposed to know when to go in if the contractions keep bunching up and spacing out?!

Gosh, having ranted I now feel a bit better. Thank you ladies!

blackcurrants I'm now wondering if I have what you're going through because you've described exactly what's been happening to me the past three days. Irregular spaced out contractions, no real pattern to them, but they are very painful.

How far along are you?

40+3 here and getting very annoyed.

Had one night of regular contractions 1 week ago (every 6 mins, lasting 1 min) and a show but bugger all since.

Had sweep 4 days ago which did nothing.

Fed up of being huge, can barely walk with SPD and whole family are fed up with me being a mardy cow. Doesn't help that DS was born at 39+3, so I'm not used to waiting.

Also thinking of throwing my mobile in the bin- If I get one more text message asking if I've had it yet I will scream!

Oh I've put as my status on facebook and skype the link I found on here for everyone to stop bothering me.

www.haveyouhadthatbabyyet.com/

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