Dissagrement with partner re pain relief

[spacecat]

My partner thinks I should go without pain relief in labour so that I can experience what something feels like to be 'hard won'. I had an epidural for the last birth (after 9 hours of going without anything). I am stressed about the pain of childbirth enough without having to feel bad if I do go down route of having pain relief. Any suggestions as to what to say to him/approach this?

un-bloody-believable!! When men start having babies then they have a say - until then shut the eff up!!! You need to be as stress free as you can be and if that involves drugs then so be it. My theory is that if you have a headache you take a painkiller.....
get yourself a new birthing partner and when he looks hard done by smash him in the bollocks repeatedly!!!

Why do people have to fight for epidurals in UK anyway? When I had my 3 (3 different countries) there was an anaesthetist hanging around on 5min call always in case an epidural was requested. Which it was . I certainly never thought of asking dh whether he thought it was a good idea - why would I, he couldn't feel the induction-drug contraction agony.

have pain relief. man didn't invent pain relief for it to be ignored. ask the midwife to put on YOUR medical notes that you would like pain relief even if your dp doesn't want you to have them. remember it's YOUR body not his and if you are happy and more relaxed than the baby will be to

I always think back to the part in Friends where the serogate is having the babies for Monica & Chandler...

Chandler had wondered what would hurt more, a kick in the nuts or giving birth. Then the serogate says (while in full blown child bearing agony) something like "shall we kick you now so we can see which hurts more"

I suggest you ask him if he would like a kick in a balls & if he copes with that, maybe (not) try a drug free labour & delivery!

Your body, your choice.

Have you had the baby yet Spacecat? How did you get on?

LOLOLOLOL - men - bless them. Perhaps we'll give him a blunt spoon, tell him to try and cut his mans bits off, every 3 minutes over the next 18 hours and then see.....

Just told my DP about this thread - His reply "She should tell him to F right off, I needed drugs just watching it!, It was fing awful!! I would have given you more, more quickily if I could!!!" (He doesnt swear much normally)

Next time he needs surgical treatment he should certainly have it without the GA, to appreciate life more when it has been hard won. Just tell the ddrs to strap him down.

Some Men realy dont have any clue do they!

I cant believe he said that!

My DH wants me to go straight for an epidural immediately this time. Said he hated seeing me in so much pain.