I actually dont think I can do it.

[girlylala0807]

I am having serious doubts about being able to give birth

I am actually terrfied

And its bloody months away yet.

To late now I know....since I want the baby and all.. but

OMG!!

sniff sniff as I sit feeling very sorry for myself

xx

Ohh, groovy! I'm glad someone else will be able to use it As soon as I get your email, I'll send it off to you.
Take care and stay chilled

hi girlylala,
im 39+3 with first baby, just to let you know im a really shy person and i used to be nervous like you about the birth. but at this stage i am so uncomfortable i just want my baby out now, i dont care about anything else!
hope everything goes well for you, relax and enjoy your pregnancy. x

You don't need to be half naked. I wore a long cotton skirt from my hippy days and kept my knickers on most of time. I had difficulty getting them off in time for the head to come out
After the birth you will really really not care about the half naked thing (i promise you).
Even if it does go really badly the labour itself will be a day or two of your life at most, and your child will hopefully give you joy for much more than this.
Oh - and try hypnotherapy, a CD or a real hyno person if you can.

Hello - I was so nervous about giving birth - had my first baby in July.

I spent a few days in the 'low dependancy room' on the labour ward before I had my baby as they were trying to stop my contractions (I had a hidden placental abruption, which meant they couldn't stop it and the baby came 8 weeks early in the end, but that's another story).
Anyway, my point is that being in that room meant I heard 5 or 6 women going through labour and giving birth through a very thin wall.
Surprisingly, it was great - so inspiring even though I never saw or met them! Hearing every one of them shouting "I can't do it!" and the midwife going "You can, you can", then later suddenly hearing the baby cry and the mum cry with joy and saying "Thank you so much" to everyone. Wonderful really. I can't describe it properly, the instant change in the mums once their babies arrived.

And that was despite all my worry of being there so unexpectedly early etc.

You'll get through it, it does hurt but the second it's over you forget / don't care, and you have the most wonderful thing ever, your own new baby!

I was really worried about having ds1 in september. I went to parenting claases (NCT and NHS!) so I knew what to expect and could make informed decisions. Used this knowledge to write birth plan, pack hospital bag and prepare for bubba. I felt more in control with the knowledge I gained.

In the end -

It wasn't as bad as I thought it would be.
I got to 8cm at home with no pain relief ( I abandoned TENS machine as useless and couldn't get bath water deep enough to cover bits that hurt)
It wasn't as bad as I thought it would be.
DS was 2 weeks early.
Ended up with emergency cs, but what I'd learnt at ante-natal classes helped me know what to expect, so - it wasn't as bad as i thought it was going to be!

And it is all worth it the moment they are born!

i was the same as you, scared stiff at having to give birth and for a stranger to see my fanjo! believe me when i walked into that delivery room my knickers were off before i even got to the bed and i didnt care who saw me! i just knew the baby was coming and i was the one to get him out. When you in labour you just want the baby to get here and you do everything in your power to get them out. your body kinda takes over and just does what it needs to do, almost like you cant control it but its not like your not in control if you know what i mean. its like there is a auto pilot button inbuilt in women for giving birth, a switch is flicked and your body just takes over. It is painful but literally 1/2 a second after you cant even remember the pain and you have this beautful little bubba in your arms! ahhh bloody hell i am all broody again now!!! Good luck, you can do it!!!!!! xxx