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is there anyone here who have had lovely births????

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psychomum5 · 15/08/2008 12:07

there are so many sad sad threads here of women who have had truly awful times, and someone (sorry, can;t think who now), commented that we only really here the awful stuff and never the nice births.

so, in some type of helpful way, maybe we can have a thread where women can go that can be an encouragement that some births can be lovely and fabuous........VB and CS births.

will post this now and then come and say mine

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Bluebutterfly · 16/08/2008 14:53

I went into labour naturally, but was put on a syntocin drip to speed things up - still not absolutely clear why, which did make my contractions extra painful and labour still took a long time for me. I had one shot of diamorphine which had worn off by the time ds actually came out, but it did take the edge of the pain for a while. Having ds was very painful, but also very life affirming. Shortly after this I wrote this, a bit cheesy but sums up the feelings that I had at the time about pregnancy and labour:

"My body has become strange to me, you have hijacked it and in it you have been cocooned, a caterpillar awaiting metamorphosis.

Now you are barely contained beneath my flesh, your fist pushing against the walls of your warm, watery universe, almost as if conceptualising this as the barrier to a separate world that you will soon inhabit.

For such a short time you remain encased, while I swell, heavy, full, more aware of my own physicality and yet strangely divorced from this unrecognisable inflated belly, protruding navel, taut skin like a rubber band stretched to near breaking point, my breasts full almost dripping, thighs plump, ankles red swollen.

I am Madonna, Eve, Mother Earth, human, mammal, animal.

Contraction aches intensify, primal pain originating in my abdomen, like fire from the earth?s centre erupting in volcanic waves, until the painful climax where anguish, despair joy and hope mingle as you emerge into this world, spotted with womb blood, damp black hair clumps, scarlet faced, beautiful in your prune-like nakedness, mortal. Born. "

Wisknit · 16/08/2008 15:50

Ds1 was long and ended up in hospital but the actual pushing stage was easy enough. 40 mins but I think that's fairly quick for a 1st timer.
ds2 was a homebirth and WONDERFUL. I was sat in the bath in tears as contractions were only 15-20 mins and not v.painful and I though I'd end up in hospital again. Phoned midwife, she came out and said 'ooh, 10 cm' I managed to breath through contractions til 2nd MW turned. Pushed for 6 mins and Voila: a baby.
dc3 due Feb abd I can't wait.

gingerblonde · 16/08/2008 16:10

I had a completely non-text book birth: induced at 37 weeks because they thought I might be getting cholestatis, puked on gas & air, baby back-to-back, epidural, two failed attempts at forceps followed by a cs. Having said that, it was still an amazing experience!

I know that I'm lucky to have come away from this feeling so positive about the whole experience but it just felt that once I had my baby in my arms it really didn't matter how we got there!!!

Saggarmakersbottomknocker · 16/08/2008 16:27

One person's lovely birth is another person's Hell on earth.

I've had 3 great births. Each of them different and maybe not what other mums would see as lovely births but for me, each was a fabulous experience and each had a tiny moment which reflected the whole.

ds1 - it was the midwife stitching me up, confuzzled as to which bit went where and me laughing my head off on too much G&A. It sort of summed up the whole of my pregnancy and birth - muddling through, not particularly well prepared but getting through.

ds2 - dh watching the sunrise from the hospital window as I let rip with some spectacular language. Fab bits and grim bits.

dd - just about making it to the delivery room after jumping red lights and speeding; her rushing to make an entrance. Helter skelter from conception to delivery - and then some

blackrock · 16/08/2008 18:28

I was induced at 42 weeks for DS1 by pessaries (three over about 18 hours), then my waters were broken as I went into labour. I expected pain when my waters were broken, but felt nothing, probably because I was so overdue.

Labour lasted 5.5 hours. I expected lots of pain, and had pain, but not unbearable ( My husband timed the contratcions, I breathed and counted the seconds out loud for each one and time passed very quickly. I have a bad back now and I would rather go through labour (at least labour only lasts a limited period of time and you get a wrinkly bundle at the end).

My DS was born by ventouse, after he got stuck, I had an extremely directive doctor - and loved her for it, there was no messing about. Everything was quick and efficient! I felt very relaxed and cared for as well as my DS.

My DH was offered cups of tea, and went out to lunch as went into labour, he felt very relaxed and this helped me greatly.

NoPainNoGain · 16/08/2008 18:54

Great thread!

Birth 1: Arrived hospital 7cm dilated, baby born with voutouse and episiotomy 3 hrs later, no pain relief needed, beautiful. Recovery took around 5 weeks.

Birth 2: Contractions spread out over couple of weeks and more painful than 1st time round. Baby born no interventions or pain relief within an hour and half of arrival in hospital (2 pushes, when told I should push!) Another episiotomy but no disfomfort with it during procedure or after. Up and walking immediately after birth.

Would love to give birth again, just don´t fancy adding to the family!

Heartmum2Jamie · 16/08/2008 19:27

DS1: Woke up at 2 am needing the loo. then again 15 minutes late and again after another 15 minutes. After the 4th loo trip I clicked it was contractions, lol! Told dh to go back to sleep as it was bound to be ages. Spent until about 4.30am watching tv before calling hospital to say that contractions were 5 minutes apart and being told to go in. Had the hardest time waking dh. We hit every red light going and the speed bumps down the side roads were very annoying but we were in hysterics. Was found to be 7cm dilated at 6.30am. Baby was deemed to be back to back, so had epidural, played scrabble, pushed for 3 hours, had an episiotomy, baby born at 1.45pm. Had big, scary woman with the beefiest arms I have ever seen stitch me back up all the while she was muttering under her breath about how she couldn't see what she was doing because they cut through a vein . Tried to get in the shower before the epi wore off and nearly fainted. It wasn't my ideal birth experience, but I look back with fond memories and they always make me smile.

DS2: Completely different experience. We took ds1 for a walk along the canal to feed the ducks & swans. I tried running away from a wasp (not clever when you can't see your feet) as I am terrified of them, tripped over my feet and landed hard on my belly. We immediated decided to head to the hospital as I couldn't feel the baby moving. Turns out he was sleeping, he woke up for the trace they did. I had 1 big contraction, then no more for the hour I was monitored. I was sent to have a scan to check for internal bleeding. By the time I came back from the scan, it felt like the baby would just fall out. Midwife tried to send me home, didn't believe me when I told her I was in labour. In the end, she agreed to examine me first, found me to be 7cm dilated, my waters broke during the exam. The midwife, student midwife & I sat around chatting and telling jokes after I called the MIL to tell her to find dh & ds1 as they were around the hospital grounds somewhere! Dh & ds1 came back of thier own accord, arrived a few minutes before the MIL. MIL took ds1, asked the midwife on the way out if it was worth staying, but was told I would be at least another hour. DS2 was born just 15 minutes later, after a grand total labour of 1 hour & 29 minutes! He was born with nothing more than a few puffs of G&A and some biting down on the mouth piece!

I am currently 29 weeks with my 3rd DS and am really, really looking forward to the experience.

princessglitter · 16/08/2008 19:29

Bluebutterfly - what a lovely description.

DD2's birth was one of the most amazing experiences of my life. I was in control, powerful and exhilarated. Afterwards, I would have done it again!

BadgerQueen · 16/08/2008 21:52

Beautiful thread - its making me a bit weepy.

DD1's birth was pretty good. I mooed in the bath for ages until my landlady rang to offer to take us down to the hospital and she drove there between the 4 minutely contractions! We had the most amazing view of Hampstead Heath - it was that autumn when the colours were spectacular.

I did have epidural (no one told me how to use the gas and air properly) and tore a lot, but she was out within 12hrs and home again within another 12. She was delivered by an excellent male midwife, no nonsense, but so kind and tolerant (especially when I said I was going to poo on his head!). Tea and toast were the best I ever tasted and I think my first words were "lets do it again".

I remember that first night with her on the ward, looking into her dark eyes while she talked to me all night and told me what she thought.

DD2's was wonderful and text book (she read the stages before coming out I think and decided to do it to the letter). We had a fantastic gentle, thoughtful, sensitive midwife, who was on a double shift and with us the whole way thru. DH really knew what he was doing (what to say, what not to say, when to hold me) and the pair of them were so encouraging and supportive (they got on really well and ~I had to ask them to stop chatting at one point!). Gas and air worked (hurrah) and DD2 came out eyes open, calm and perfect.

I never thought I would brave enough or strong enough (I am a big weed) but it was okay and we did it!

RaggedRobin · 16/08/2008 22:04

i had an amazing birth with my second baby. i can honestly say that i didn't feel pain so much as tremendous exertion. breathed my way through it (6 hours) and never really felt the need for gas and air.

just before the final stage i had a surge of pure euphoria and was talking to everyone at a million miles an hour.

midwives said i didn't need to push if i didn't feel like it and the contractions just popped her out after 15 minutes. the midwives were fantastic and completely unobtrusive. it made me feel so confident.

i had a beautiful 9lb baby girl with no stitches.

i DID have gas and air afterwards as they cleaned me up and REALLY enjoyed it!!

Milkycheeks · 16/08/2008 22:13

OK, this might be bit long winded but i've wanted to describe it in detail for ages but have felt 'guilty' for having an amazing birth experience when so many of my friends have had traumatic ones, so please indulge me:

Mild contractions started in the early hours of the morning so I had a couple of baths and put the breathing techniques i'd learnt at yoga into practice. MW came to check about 10am, said i was doing fine and left me to get on with it for a couple of hours. Did an exam when she got back & said i was 5cm dilated so it was about time i made a move to the birth unit (I'd opted for a water-birth at a MW led unit). I was really lucky that my community midwife was on duty that day so she was with us all the way through, which i think really helped things to go smoothly.

Getting into the pool was bliss, the pain really eased and it was wonderful being able to move around easily. The two midwives sat in the adjoining room and left us to it (which we'd asked for) only coming in to monitor every now & then.

After about an hour, i started on the g & a which helped me focus on my breathing. Then things started moving up a gear and i remember grunting and groaning as the urge to push got stronger (MW came in & said to push if that was what i felt like doing - i was a bit surprised as i was expecting first stage to last much longer, but i wasn't going to argue about it!). Meanwhile, DH was being an absolute star & counting my breathing in & out so i didn't lose focus - there was one brief point, which i guess was transition, where i felt i was losing it but he got very stern about the breathing & brought me back into control. I could feel the baby moving down and was overawed at the realization that there were actually two of us involved in this experience, it was just so amazing. I didn't feel anything as the head crowned - instead i just laughed at the look of sheer amazement & joy on DH's face as he looked in the mirror the MW had put underneath me ( i was still in the pool, kneeling up & facing outwards) and then a few pushes later (at 4:45pm) out came my beautiful daughter and i burst into exhilarated, exhuasted tears.

my midwife said it was a text book delivery and the other said it was the calmest delivery she'd ever witnessed [smug emoticon ]so i felt rather proud of myself and can honestly say it was the most intense, amazing day of my life and i can't wait to do it all over again. Have got all emotional thinking about it again - thank you for a lovely thread, psychomum.

Pannacotta · 16/08/2008 22:16

Both mine were planned home births.
First was bit stressful, v intense and I found it a bit scary.
Second time round was more aware of what I wanted, so had a fab doula, labour was quite short and easy (MWs called v late in the day), laboured in pool in our conservatory with just fairy lights on so nice and dark, DS2 was born at dawn just as the sun was rising.
No complications at all, DS1 woke up at 7 and came downstairs to meet his new baby brother and MWs left soon after...

psychomum5 · 16/08/2008 22:18

there are so many lovely stories....I am so thrilled that so many of you are hear writing them down.

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Thomcat · 16/08/2008 22:18

I had enjoyable births but number 3 was the best of all. A wonderful experience. I felt calm, happy, excited, etc etc, I really, truly enjoyed every minute.

psychomum5 · 16/08/2008 22:19

arghh.......here

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Piffle · 16/08/2008 22:20

my 3 were all quick easy and wonderful...
and worth it

Ceolas · 16/08/2008 22:21

Go on, psychomum.

I have lovely memories of all 4 . They were all different and the first was a bit complicated. But definitely the best days of my life.

Desperate to do it again!

psychomum5 · 16/08/2008 22:27

ceolas....would love to, seriously. since starting this thread I have been remembering each of my childrens births in great detail, and so wish I could go back and do it all over again, or add to them.

sadly, I had a bad recovery last time and almost lost me, so DH had the snip.....

so, no more psychobabies for me, unless someone grants miracles!

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Ceolas · 16/08/2008 22:38

Ah, sorry - I didn't know

You make it sound like 5's great fun though. I feel like one more couldn't make it much more chaotic. Could it?

psychomum5 · 16/08/2008 22:42

five is a magical number

YOU go for it.....

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RGPargy · 16/08/2008 22:57

My second birth was magical!!!

It honestly didn't hurt that much - I kept waiting for it to get worse but it never did! As a consequence, i had no pain relief whatsoever, not even gas and air, as my thoughts were "i'll wait for it to get REALLY bad and then i'll have some gas and air" but before i knew it, DD came into the world in a brilliant and lovely HOME BIRTH.

Cant wait to do it again for number 3, if ever i'm lucky to have another baby.

singledadofthree · 16/08/2008 23:07

yeah mine were brilliant - got to take in word search books and everything - a real home from home

GodzillasBumcheek · 16/08/2008 23:10

Well i wouldn't quite say it was exactly 'lovely', but when i had my twins, it wasn't so bad...it hurt, but the midwives were helpful and caring, and i was never left on my own, or panicked about anything. The whole birth(s) went pretty smoothly, and both were delivered naturally (ok i had gas, air and pethidine, but besides that), within an hour of each other. It took from when my waters broke at home at midnight, until about 9 in the morning. Piece of cake They didn't let me home for 5 days but that was ok as i needed a rest!

eidsvold · 16/08/2008 23:45

i have had three lovely c-sections even though with dd1 it was an emergency and everything I had not wanted when pregnant. I recovered quite quickly and have no regrets.

Even though dd1 had to be born asap and it was quite stressful and we were not prepared for her to be born that day. Even though she was rushed to ICU and spent three weeks in ICU/SCBU. The atmosphere in the operating theatres each time was one of calm and relaxed. In fact I can remember joking with the surgeon for dd1 about how ironic it was being an aussie teaching English to english children.

With dd3 I could see everything they were doing in the reflective part of the lights and it was great - very surreal in that whilst I knew it was my body they were operating on it was fascinating watching it happen.

With dd2 I had thought about and was trying for a VBAC but went for an elective in the end - dd1 had needs that would not be easily sorted with a VBAC. Again no regrets.

I had fabulous midwives who were very helpful and caring - who really did look after you well. I have no complaints at all.

eidsvold · 16/08/2008 23:49

oh I remember now - I was a bit fazed being taken in to surgery with dd1 - I was thinking how inconvenient - I could not have dd1 today - my hospital bag was not ready, I had to go to the bank and I needed to go into town to pay some bills. How was I going to do that after having dd1

With dd1 - having an ultrasound at around 9.30am. Worries flagged - told she needed to be born - I thought they would induce me and send me home to come back later. Did not think in my first time niavete that they would take me upstairs for a c-section. But there it was - she was born by c-section at 11.04am.