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Share experiences and get support around labour, birth and recovery.

The thread for first time home birthers (or thinking about it) - over here!

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Boobz · 23/07/2008 11:53

I only just found out I was pregnant 10 days ago, and it is of course early days, but I have been doing a lot of research and am seriously thinking of having a home birth.

I'm a member of my Due March '09 ante natal club thread, but I don't want to go on about home birthing there where the majority will be planning a hospital birth (don't want to bore them!) I'd like to start this thread for all those people who'd like to talk about the pros and cons, planning, expectations and realities of home births, especially if it is your first baby, or first home birth.

Has everyone else's other halves been fine at the thought of a first baby HB? Or did you have to do some convincing?

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Tupperwife · 20/02/2009 11:15

Just updating with Tupperbaby's real life name

ARRIVED:
Tupperwife 3 FEB, Baby boy Samuel James Good hospital delivery as had to transfer due to snow.
Givethedogahomebirth 10 FEB, Baby girl Isla Rose.
Helley, Evelyn Grace Baby girl born 12 Feb

DUE:
Twocutedarlings DUE 25 FEB. Hoping for DC3 to be born at home.
Laumiere DUE 10 MARCH. 1 DS already.
Thefearlessfreak Due 12 March 1ds 2.4 yrs & planning for homebirth
captain karvol, DUE 15 MARCH. 2nd DC.
Boobz, DUE 19 MARCH. Planning 1st home water birth. Live Streatham, London.
CEB80 Due 23 APRIL. Planning 1st home water birth.
Gemzooks DUE 29 MARCH planning first home birth with pool. Live in Holland, 1 DS already (2.5).
Gingersarah, norbury london, due 18 April and hoping for HB
Belgianchocolates DUE 6 MAY. Planning home water birth. 2DC already.
leakyR DUE 7 MAY , planning home water birth. 1 DS already (Apr 07).
Swottybetty DUE 29 MAY. Live in Croydon, Surrey. 1 DD already (March 08).

Boobz · 20/02/2009 11:48

Hello everyone.

Just had a fab visit from the midwife for my birth talk and dropping off of homebirth kit. Nothing too exciting in there but I think they bring most of it with them. It was the first time I had met (properly) this MW as my normal one was away this week, and she was really lovely, so now I am ultra confident with whomever attends my birth. She was really positive and liked my birth plan (which I had tried to keep as simple and realistic as possible) and I'm really chuffed everyone's so positive. Am measuring exactly the right size for my dates and BP was good. Just feel on top of the world today. Loads of things to be getting on with before trekking down to PIL in Wiltshire for the weekend, so better crack on. Hope you're all doing well and that you're all ready mentally 2Cute!

And a gorgeous name Tupper - both of those are on our list (but probably for middle names).

Have a great weekend everyone xxx

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leakyR · 20/02/2009 20:31

Congratulations Helley.

Thanks for being totally honest and posting your story. All any of us wants is a safe healthy baby. So glad that baby Evelyn is fine (lovely name btw) and that you are too.

titmouse · 23/02/2009 21:01

oo hello! I hadn't seen this thread. can I join please? The name's titmouse, due 26th March, got my MW coming tomorrow for a visit - and not to check my window frames for mould, thanks everybody for the reassurance that they are really not interested in my bleaching abilities!

This is our first baby and hopefully the only thing standing in the way of HB is my anaemia but I am taking the iron and crossing my fingers.

twocutedarlings · 23/02/2009 22:11

Welcome Titmouse

I will add you the list xxx

ARRIVED:
Tupperwife 3 FEB, Baby boy Samuel James Good hospital delivery as had to transfer due to snow.
Givethedogahomebirth 10 FEB, Baby girl Isla Rose.
Helley, Evelyn Grace Baby girl born 12 Feb

DUE:
Twocutedarlings DUE 25 FEB. Hoping for DC3 to be born at home.
Laumiere DUE 10 MARCH. 1 DS already.
Thefearlessfreak Due 12 March 1ds 2.4 yrs & planning for homebirth
captain karvol, DUE 15 MARCH. 2nd DC.
Boobz, DUE 19 MARCH. Planning 1st home water
birth. Live Streatham, London.
titmouse, DUE 26 MARCH First DC
CEB80 Due 23 APRIL. Planning 1st home water birth.
Gemzooks DUE 29 MARCH planning first home birth with pool. Live in Holland, 1 DS already (2.5).
Gingersarah, norbury london, due 18 April and hoping for HB
Belgianchocolates DUE 6 MAY. Planning home water birth. 2DC already.
leakyR DUE 7 MAY , planning home water birth. 1 DS already (Apr 07).
Swottybetty DUE 29 MAY. Live in Croydon, Surrey. 1 DD already (March 08).

laumiere · 23/02/2009 23:17

Hi all, just to let you know Gabriel William Thomas Robson arrived on 21 Feb at 12.39 after an initial homebirth and emergency transfer to hospital.

Thread is here if you want to know more, I've not posted it here as it's not an entirely positive HB and wanted to give people the option of avoiding it!

titmouse · 24/02/2009 13:45

thanks for your welcomes ladies.

My home visit didn't happen today, the MW's car broke and the other MW's didn't know she was meant to be coming! So maybe next tuesday instead.

Has anybody else due in the next month or so not had the HB kit dropped off yet?

CaptainKarvol · 24/02/2009 15:36

Hi all,
I've tried to update the list - goodness knows what it may look like now (I'll see in a second).

Laumiere, Congratulations, and I read your birth story on the linked thread, have paraphrased a bit here, hope that's OK. You sound like you had to be the one on the ball throughout - respect for managing that while in labour!

Hi titmouse, I hope your HB pack gets dropped off soon. If I hadn't sorted out my own birth pool I'd still be waiting for the one from the midwives, so only partly supplied here (am due 15th March).

ARRIVED:
Tupperwife 3 FEB, Baby boy Samuel James Good hospital delivery as had to transfer due to snow.
Givethedogahomebirth 10 FEB, Baby girl Isla Rose.
Helley, Evelyn Grace Baby girl born 12 Feb
Laumiere 21 Feb, Baby boy Gabriel William Thomas Robson, hospital delivery had to transfer due to midwives...

DUE:
Twocutedarlings DUE 25 FEB. Hoping for DC3 to be born at home.
Thefearlessfreak Due 12 March 1ds 2.4 yrs & planning for homebirth
captain karvol, DUE 15 MARCH. 2nd DC.
Boobz, DUE 19 MARCH. Planning 1st home water
birth. Live Streatham, London.
titmouse, DUE 26 MARCH First DC
CEB80 Due 23 APRIL. Planning 1st home water birth.
Gemzooks DUE 29 MARCH planning first home birth with pool. Live in Holland, 1 DS already (2.5).
Gingersarah, norbury london, due 18 April and hoping for HB
Belgianchocolates DUE 6 MAY. Planning home water birth. 2DC already.
leakyR DUE 7 MAY , planning home water birth. 1 DS already (Apr 07).
Swottybetty DUE 29 MAY. Live in Croydon, Surrey. 1 DD already (March 08).

leakyR · 24/02/2009 21:29

Congratulations Laumiere. Gabriel looks lovely.

leakyR · 24/02/2009 21:29

Congratulations Laumiere. Gabriel looks lovely.

ceb80 · 24/02/2009 21:55

Not sure what happens to my posts on this thread, they always seem to go astray!

Congratulations Laumiere and thanks for sharing your story

Welcome Titmouse

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CaptainKarvol · 25/02/2009 09:47

they do indeed fearless! We get a birth kit (seems to be mostly absorbant matting, maternity pads and gloves, with some scary sealed packages containing foceps, catheters and the like), pethadine / some kind of morphine if I order it in advance, G&A, and loan of a birthpool if it is free. I bought one second hand anyway as I don't want to take the risk of it not being free. They are nice here

I have to supply bits and bobs - hose and tap connector, sieve for fishing poo (nice), a plastic mirror (I can't find one yet) and a pool liner.

jumpjockey · 25/02/2009 09:56

Yikes - I've just realised I never reported back and dd is now 12 weeks old!

We had a successful home birth, first twinges felt at 3.30 am followed by contractions every 2 mins or so by 10, baby arrived in the birth pool in the living room at 2.24 pm

It was a wonderful experience, painful yes but in an exhilarating way, the only time it was almost unbearable was as she was crowning but then it was so close to her being here that the excitement helped me through. I had no tears, a very minor graze, her apgars were 9 and 10, by 4pm we were sat on the sofa feeding her and being amazed that this was where our family started

I can give a (very!) long version of the story if anyone wants more details, but for now I'll say I'm very, very glad we had her at home* and both DH and I are total evangelists for the cause.

  • not least because there was an outbreak of norovirus in the hospital at the time
detoxdiva · 25/02/2009 10:08

Hi Ladies

Can i add myself to your list. I will probably just lurk for a bit as am only 12 weeks, but am keen for a Home Birth this time. Dd, who is now 3yo, was a text book pg and birth - arrived naturally just 3 hours after getting to the hospital, and I am hoping for another straightforward time with this one

I will be picking up all your hints and tips!

ARRIVED:
Tupperwife 3 FEB, Baby boy Samuel James Good hospital delivery as had to transfer due to snow.
Givethedogahomebirth 10 FEB, Baby girl Isla Rose.
Helley, Evelyn Grace Baby girl born 12 Feb
Laumiere 21 Feb, Baby boy Gabriel William Thomas Robson, hospital delivery had to transfer due to midwives...

DUE:
Twocutedarlings DUE 25 FEB. Hoping for DC3 to be born at home.
Thefearlessfreak Due 12 March 1ds 2.4 yrs & planning for homebirth
captain karvol, DUE 15 MARCH. 2nd DC.
Boobz, DUE 19 MARCH. Planning 1st home water
birth. Live Streatham, London.
titmouse, DUE 26 MARCH First DC
CEB80 Due 23 APRIL. Planning 1st home water birth.
Gemzooks DUE 29 MARCH planning first home birth with pool. Live in Holland, 1 DS already (2.5).
Gingersarah, norbury london, due 18 April and hoping for HB
Belgianchocolates DUE 6 MAY. Planning home water birth. 2DC already.
leakyR DUE 7 MAY , planning home water birth. 1 DS already (Apr 07).
Swottybetty DUE 29 MAY. Live in Croydon, Surrey. 1 DD already (March 08).
DetoxDiva. 1 DD (Jan 06) Due 09/09/09 Bedfordshire.

Boobz · 25/02/2009 12:01

Wow - so much has gone on since I was last here!

Hello titmouse - welcome to the thread! Have had the HB kit dropped off by the MW when she visited last week but there's not much in there to be honest - just pads by the looks of things! I think they are bringing everything else with them on the day.

Thanks Lau - for posting your story. What uselss midwives?! I feel very lucky to be on the team that I have here in Streatham - very lucky indeed. And although i have said it before, HE IS A DOLL! Well done you.

Thanks Jump, for coming back and telling us your story - am glad it all went so well and that you and DH are so happy. What did you call dd?

Hello detoxdiva! I was only 6 weeks or something when I started this thread, so you can never be too early! I hope it's helpful.

As for me, I have done my HB kit shopping and packed it all into a box upstairs so DH knows where everything is. Have got pull on stand by and am generally enjoying maternity leave. 37 weeks tomorrow... would be happy for baby to arrive any day from tomorrow please!

xxx

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Boobz · 25/02/2009 12:02

pool. not pull. Not enough sleep last night.

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Boobz · 25/02/2009 18:11

LOL FF - everyone needs a good pull now and then.

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ceb80 · 25/02/2009 19:00

Me too, was worried that I had forgotten my pull whatever that might be!

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Gemzooks · 26/02/2009 10:30

hi all, glad to hear jumpjockey and laumiere's babies arrived safely. I love the name Gabriel, DS would have been Gabriel Arthur Louis but DH didn't agree.. The midwives sound crap though, I hope you complain and they at least get severely told off, that's terrible!

Well I'm 36 weeks, birth pool arriving next week (hired), doula appointment with me and DH, have birth kit, so all is set up.

A bit annoyed with MIL who wants to come and visit a week before the due date (I had DS at 39 weeks). I felt guilty but basically put my foot down and said no, and I prefer her to come either before then or after. I just don't want her there so close to the birth, especially as homebirth!

hope everyone's doing well!

Whiteybaby · 26/02/2009 11:34

Hello can I join in on the fun? I am 35+3 and have just convinced Dh via some brilliant antenatal classes that hb the way forward! 1st DC and typical female now that he agrees I am terrified! Straightforward pg, baby apparently head down and right way round. Have pool in a box sitting upstairs (originally planned to take it with me to hosp as no water facilities there) and just trying to sort midwife home visit. Lots of lovely supportive messages would be appreciated to make me feel like I'm not mad to even consider this!

Gemzooks · 26/02/2009 11:38

welcome whitey baby!

I'm 35+6!

well, I don't think you're mad.. I would never have gone for a hb, it's just because I'm living in Holland and it's strongly encouraged here, I'm just going with the flow. They let you decide in labour whether to stay at home or not...

jumpjockey · 26/02/2009 11:43

DD is called Sarah. A bit more info, just because I love telling the story . We didn't get any kind of home birth pack, the mw just brought things with her on the day. MW appointments were a bit chaotic - there were so many babies due at the same time that my "38 week" check was set on the due date - and she arrived at 39 weeks, so never got to it! In fact the MW had predicted at about 30 weeks that the baby would be a girl and would come a week early and I'd have a very easy labour, so she was completely right!

We had a doula, Maddie, who was utterly brilliant and really gave me lots of confidence. I sent DH off to work as usual at 8.30 because we both expected that everything would be fairly slow and steady, he even said "I reckon it will be some time early tomorrow morning" ! So when things started to speed up, I called Maddie and she came over to give me a bit of encouragement. She realised things were really going pretty fast, so called DH and told him "it would be a good idea if you could come home soon"! There was none of the time to relax in between contractions, set up my nice cosy space or anything like that, just a case of baby's on the way now

Midwife and he arrived at about the same time, and set to getting the pool up and filled while Maddie kept me going through the contractions. It turned out that the boiler gave out halfway even though we'd just had it checked over so there were lots of kettles and pans on the hob, I had no idea about this until afterwards!

I'd been labouring out of the pool but got in as soon as possible, it didn't help with the contractions so much as made it much easier for me to move around and find positions that were more comfortable in between the contractions. Never thought I'd be so relaxed about stripping off in the middle of the living room in front of a couple of strangers! Things went fairly steadily from there, the contractions changed to a very definite pushing sensation and Maddie and the MW both helped me just let my body take over. I started on G&A about halfway through but by then it was clearly far too late as it made very klittle difference, just gave me something to focus on.

Once she came out, it took a while for the placenta to appear but the MW waited til the cord stopped pulsing before cutting and passing her to DH for a cuddle. In the end everything was absolutely fine down below, which I put down to being encouraged to relax as much as possible during the pushing - in yoga we'd practiced tightening and relaxing the pelvic floor which really really helped, and also blowing raspberries as per Ina May!

The one bit of essential advice I'd give to everyone waiting is EAT SOMETHING! I didn't manage any breakfast, got fed a few mouthfuls of bread, and then realised once it came to about 4pm that I'd not eaten anything proper since the previous evening and was absolutely ravenous.

Good luck everyone!

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