When I was having DS, there was a lady in the next delivery room who sounded like she was in great distress. I asked the midwife if she wanted to go and attend to her (I was quite settled) and she said “No, it’s okay. She’s fine. She’s African. It’s part of their culture to make a big fuss.”
This, broadly and culturally speaking, is absolutely true. You can ask any midwife, African women very often are very vocal about their pain. I wouldn’t call it making a fuss! And I would never comment as your midwife did.
But it is a very common coping mechanism for African woman. Very loud, can be distressing to hear, but very common. It also does make differentiating between levels of concern difficult, but that is our problem as caregivers to interpret, not theirs.
Jehovah’s Witnesses for example though, if I had a lady screaming and wailing I would not think that was standard.
All midwives see differences between women and families from different cultures, but we’re not allowed to name it or differentiate treatment. I think that is a big part of the problem. If you dare to suggest that people from different cultures are <shock> actually different, you get branded a racist. Which helps no one, least of all the women.
Nigerian women for example, especially those belonging to a church, often have a ln older lady in the community who looks after postnatal women. A story about this:
Cobfidentially is massive in maternity, as is limiting visitors.
But a few months ago I was talking to a Nigerian patient behind a curtain who had recently come to the country. A woman from the church as above (we’ll call her P) was on the ward helping another lady. As she was leaving she heard us talking and boomed out ‘WHAT!? Who is this Nigerian voice I hear!’ as she didn’t know my patient. I went out and asked her to wait and said I’d speak to the patient.
P came in and descended on my patient like a mother hen. She told her off for not telling the church she was here, then mothered her for the next 3 hours. I let her stay beyond visiting and my patient was in tears of gratitude. It facilitated a huge support network for her as a new mum to the country.
I would NEVER dream of doing this in any other situation, and I’d have been massively told off if it was known. But this is what being culturally aware is. Different cultures ARE different and do need different care and support. It’s not racist to say so.