I’m a midwife. Women aren’t making it up.
A lot of the time I have seen BAME women have poorer outcomes because:
- they can’t speak English
- they presented too late
- they haven’t accessed adequate antenatal care
- they are in controlling relationships
etc. However -
I have also seen BAME ignored and called princesses. The truth is that midwives are people like any other cross section of society and many are not culturally aware. Women from different cultures DO often have distinct expectations of childbirth. Unbelievably, there is no training given in this as a student.
A few broad examples. I’m not saying everyone from these cultures is the same:
Asian women (Pakistani, Indian, Chinese) often expect to be cherished and to do
nothing for themselves, not even get out of bed after birth. This isn’t because they’re lazy, it’s because the (wonderful) culture among women for them is that the woman having a baby IS a princess to be cared for and to not lift a finger.
Some women from BAME (particularly African ime) can be very vocal when they begin to be in pain. Wailing at 1cm etc. This is sometimes viewed as ‘making a fuss’ but it isn’t, it is just a different (and not ineffective!) way of coping with the pain and fear.
Please don’t pick my post apart in an attempt to make me sound racist. One of the main issues here as I see it is that it is very frowned upon to suggest that different cultures are indeed different.
One of my major passions in practice is learning about and doing all the little cultural things that a woman who isn’t in her own country might really appreciate.
- ensuring that Muslim families can say the Adhan. It is of huge significance for some Muslims that the Adhan is said into the baby’s right ear immediately after birth, so that it is the first thing they hear. I have never had a family ask, but they are always so happy and grateful when I offer. I’ve even facilitated a silent theatre until it is done.
There are loads of examples but I need to get the kids up.
What I’ve never seen is midwives who just can’t be arsed with BAME.